Long Hair Peepin Tom.....(pic)

[LoveCraze]

Ok so has anyone else out there ever seen someone with the most gorgeous long hair and thought to themselves "If only I had a camera?" Well I felt sorta like a peepin tom when I nabbed this photo of a young lady with really pretty and full tailbone length hair. She was on a beach in Puerto Rico and I already had my camera out taking pics of the kids so I said what the heck. Anyone else ever done this?
Don't judge me.

 

[Chocolatelove2010]

A good friend of mine is sikh, and her beliefs require her to not cut her hair. I became obsessed with her and would always take a pic when she wasn't looking, and take the pic to bed with me.

I'm just kidding. No I've never taken a pic (just wanted to contribute to the thread lol) Hmmm but I wonder what the lady in the pic would think if she knew her hair was on a hair forum. She'd either be flattered or think.... wtf

 

[LoveCraze]

A good friend of mine is sikh, and her beliefs require her to not cut her hair. I became obsessed with her and would always take a pic when she wasn't looking, and take the pic to bed with me.

I'm just kidding. No I've never taken a pic (just wanted to contribute to the thread lol) Hmmm but I wonder what the lady in the pic would think if she knew her hair was on a hair forum. She'd either be flattered or think.... wtf

Well I hope she would be flattered. But I purposely did not show her face so it could be anyone.

 

[Amber_moon]

Photo taking doesnt bother me... however photo taking without asking someones permission does.... I hope the young lady with the gorgeous hair was asked before the photo was taken. It would be a real shame if she wasn't. Face showing or not.

Good lord though that is jaw droppingly thick and gorgeous hair.

 

[ZkittyKurls]

ive never done this but her hair is very beautiful, nice and full!!! thats like an inspiration pic, you were there at the right place right time. lol!

 

[Chocolatelove2010]

Well I hope she would be flattered. But I purposely did not show her face so it could be anyone.

Oh believe me.. if I saw my butt. I'd know that was my butt

But I know what you mean

Anyway if I had a camera ready, I probably would. There have been times I have whipped my camera out to record a crazy woman/man, for my pure entertainment. I guess hair is no different. lol... Probably more sane because if the person catches you.. you can just say 'It's because I think your hair is so beautiful.' What am I supposed to say to the crazy person.. ''Ermm, I find your mental illness, attractive'' .. lol.

 

[LoveCraze]

Photo taking doesnt bother me... however photo taking without asking someones permission does.... I hope the young lady with the gorgeous hair was asked before the photo was taken. It would be a real shame if she wasn't. Face showing or not.

Good lord though that is jaw droppingly thick and gorgeous hair.

Actually I didn't. And I understand how you feel. But do you ask permission from those people who accidentally make there way into your pictures that you may be taking of family? I mean I know it's not the same thing but quite honestly I saw no real harm in it. I just really liked her hair and wanted to share it.

 

[LoveCraze]

Oh believe me.. if I saw my butt. I'd know that was my butt

But I know what you mean

Anyway if I had a camera ready, I probably would. There have been times I have whipped my camera out to record a crazy woman/man, for my pure entertainment. I guess hair is no different. lol... Probably more sane because if the person catches you.. you can just say 'It's because I think your hair is so beautiful.' What am I supposed to say to the crazy person.. ''Ermm, I find your mental illness, attractive'' .. lol.

Very funny but true. I don't make a habit of taking pics of people I don't know. This was the first time and will more than likely be the last.

 

[nikolite]

Some random guy took a picture of me at a club once. I was on the dance floor, but I saw him out of the corner of my eye and a flash. He tried to pull the camera back and act like he didn't just do that. I was pissed to say the least.

But I can understand the temptation, OP. Let's just hope she's not an LHCF member! LOL

 

[Amber_moon]

Actually I didn't. And I understand how you feel. But do you ask permission from those people who accidentally make there way into your pictures that you may be taking of family? I mean I know it's not the same thing but quite honestly I saw no real harm in it. I just really liked her hair and wanted to share it.

No I dont, however I do ask them to step out of the way, wait till they pass or retake the photo if there is too much going on. And worse case scenerio crop the photo before posting it. And you are right... its not even close to the same thing.

You may have not seen any harm in it, but thats hardly the point. Most people who do rude things to others (either by accident or on purpose) do them because THEY don't personally see the harm in it. The harm is done to someone else. I just got back from Miami Beach for vacation and I cant tell you how many times I had to ask someone to stop filming me covertly and it got to be annoying. I was walking down the beach Minding my own business and a man just walked right up behind me and snapped a photo of my rear end. Like nothing was wrong with it. Im sure he didnt see the harm in it either. Especially since he didnt film my face and it could have been anybody's butt right?

Im not sure why people refuse to just be polite save themselves and others trouble by simply just saying "hi, I like your __insert whatever__ would you mind if I took a photo of it"? Most of the time a smiling polite question like this will get a yes. You'd be surprised. But taking covert photos of someone without their permission or knowledge will most likely get a bad response.

And not to mention the fact that its now posted publically on an internet forum.... :/

In the future, just ask, it doesn't take that much effort and its the least you can do for that person who is allowing you to take something of theirs home with you, so that you can enjoy it later.

But yes again, her hair is BEAUTIFUL and I can understand why you wanted a photo of it, Id want a photo of it!

 

[Adaoba2012]

I understand the temptation OP but I probably would never do it just because I don't think I would have the balls to go through with it..I would be so scared of getting caught. Either way she does have a beautiful head of hair

 

[LoveCraze]

No I dont, however I do ask them to step out of the way, wait till they pass or retake the photo if there is too much going on. And worse case scenerio crop the photo before posting it. And you are right... its not even close to the same thing.

You may have not seen any harm in it, but thats hardly the point. Most people who do rude things to others (either by accident or on purpose) do them because THEY don't personally see the harm in it. The harm is done to someone else. I just got back from Miami Beach for vacation and I cant tell you how many times I had to ask someone to stop filming me covertly and it got to be annoying. I was walking down the beach Minding my own business and a man just walked right up behind me and snapped a photo of my rear end. Like nothing was wrong with it. Im sure he didnt see the harm in it either. Especially since he didnt film my face and it could have been anybody's butt right?

Im not sure why people refuse to just be polite save themselves and others trouble by simply just saying "hi, I like your __insert whatever__ would you mind if I took a photo of it"? Most of the time a smiling polite question like this will get a yes. You'd be surprised. But taking covert photos of someone without their permission or knowledge will most likely get a bad response.

And not to mention the fact that its now posted publically on an internet forum.... :/

In the future, just ask, it doesn't take that much effort and its the least you can do for that person who is allowing you to take something of theirs home with you, so that you can enjoy it later.

But yes again, her hair is BEAUTIFUL and I can understand why you wanted a photo of it, Id want a photo of it!

I see what you mean. And I could have dragged my butt over there and asked in hopes she spoke english. Point well taken. In the future if I ever feel the inclination, I'll take your advice and do ask first.

 

[Chocolatelove2010]

"hi, I like your __insert whatever__ would you mind if I took a photo of it"? Most of the time a smiling polite question like this will get a yes. You'd be surprised. But taking covert photos of someone without their permission or knowledge will most likely get a bad response.

Yeah, I've had white folks come up to me and say 'You look exotic'' can I take a pic, with their cheesy smile. Although part of me was thinking wtf, I was impressed with their common courtesy and said ok. God knows what they did with that pic, probs went back to their European country and said ''look at this exotic creature''

likewise to you if I see a flash, I get annoyed. It is nice to be asked.

I feel guilty about recording crazy old drunk men now. In the future, I will also ask for their permission.

 

[LoveCraze]

Yeah, I've had white folks come up to me and say 'You look exotic'' can I take a pic, with their cheesy smile. Although part of me was thinking wtf, I was impressed with their common courtesy and said ok. God knows what they did with that pic, probs went back to their European country and said ''look at this exotic creature''

likewise to you if I see a flash, I get annoyed. It is nice to be asked.

I feel guilty about recording crazy old drunk men now. In the future, I will also ask for their permission.

You're hilarious

 

[SmilingElephant]

A good friend of mine is sikh, and her beliefs require her to not cut her hair. I became obsessed with her and would always take a pic when she wasn't looking, and take the pic to bed with me.

I'm just kidding. No I've never taken a pic (just wanted to contribute to the thread lol) Hmmm but I wonder what the lady in the pic would think if she knew her hair was on a hair forum. She'd either be flattered or think.... wtf

........

 

[nikolite]

Yeah, I've had white folks come up to me and say 'You look exotic'' can I take a pic, with their cheesy smile. Although part of me was thinking wtf, I was impressed with their common courtesy and said ok. God knows what they did with that pic, probs went back to their European country and said ''look at this exotic creature''

likewise to you if I see a flash, I get annoyed. It is nice to be asked.

I feel guilty about recording crazy old drunk men now. In the future, I will also ask for their permission.

I had a similar experience. I met two men from Moldova (tiny Eastern European country) at the train station about a year ago. They were tourists. After I helped them with what train to catch and where to go in the city, they complimented my hair and height and then nicely asked if they could take a photo with me. I thought this was really weird but since they asked and seemed really fascinated with me I went ahead and let them. I think they had never seen an African American besides TV or something. They were really nice. And at least I got to control the terms of the picture and how I looked. I think if someone asks 9/10 times they will say yes.

 

[Yoshi3329]

I can't stop staring at her blunt, thick ends.

I love blunt cuts, blunt cuts FTW!

 

[TLC1020]

Gorgeous hair... wouldn't want my hair that long though..

 

[Chocolatelove2010]

I had a similar experience. I met two men from Moldova (tiny Eastern European country) at the train station about a year ago. They were tourists. After I helped them with what train to catch and where to go in the city, they complimented my hair and height and then nicely asked if they could take a photo with me. I thought this was really weird but since they asked and seemed really fascinated with me I went ahead and let them. I think they had never seen an African American besides TV or something. They were really nice. And at least I got to control the terms of the picture and how I looked. I think if someone asks 9/10 times they will say yes.

Yeah, Europeans make me laugh. I was in Italy for like 2 weeks, and on a daily basis atleast 1 greasy italian would have to talk to me about my nationality. It's as if they've never seen a black woman over there. But ey according to my auntie who lived there for over 10 years, she says Italians have an obsession with a big booty.

If anybody decides to go Italy. Be careful.. all you hear is 'Eh Bella Bella..'' Next thing you know, an Italian man is trying to hump your behind. :trampolin

 

[Sianna]

It is actually a very nice photo and the lady's hair looks very nice, though I'd never want my hair to be quite that long.

As far you taking the picture of this random, long-haired stranger, I think you did it quite discreetly. Not only is the lady's face not showing, but in fact no one's is. While I can see why some might object to the idea of snapping a shot of someone you don't know without their permission, I don't think you did anything wrong at all. The woman was out in public. It'd be different of you were standing outside her bedroom window. I remember reading or hearing somewhere that when you go out in public you are pretty much surrendering a certain level of privacy anyway. In some cities just walking down the street means you are subject to being photographed or recorded at any time. *shrugs*

 

[FebeeSigns]

I can't play peeping tom here in Bedstuye Brooklyn. If you get caught snapping a picture you're in for a jumping, or possibly a stabbing. Even looking at someone's hair the wrong way can cause trouble so definitely not. =(

 

[ActionActress]

Yeah, Europeans make me laugh. I was in Italy for like 2 weeks, and on a daily basis atleast 1 greasy italian would have to talk to me about my nationality. It's as if they've never seen a black woman over there. But ey according to my auntie who lived there for over 10 years, she says Italians have an obsession with a big booty.

If anybody decides to go Italy. Be careful.. all you hear is 'Eh Bella Bella..'' Next thing you know, an Italian man is trying to hump your behind. :trampolin

Well I don't take it as a "fetish" thing. They have a genuine expression for black beauty, and I do appreciate it. Unlike men who look like us....if you get my drift....I'll go for men who are not afraid to let you know what they like and will tell you how beautiful it is. I've been to Italia, had two Italian loves and they actually do have a genuine positive expression for Africanness.

BTW black women are considered exotic anyway and doesn't matter her look. Halle Berry to Alec Wek.

I think we black women need to take compliments and that includes European, Asian and Hispanic men.

I will also be glad when we are able to take pics...(with permission of course..lol) of a random sister. THAT would make my day.

AA

 

[Chocolatelove2010]

I can't play peeping tom here in Bedstuye Brooklyn. If you get caught snapping a picture you're in for a jumping, or possibly a stabbing. Even looking at someone's hair the wrong way can cause trouble so definitely not. =(

Yeah.. during one of my recordings, the crazy man came after me. Luckily, I wasn't wearing any heels. Although I got chased about 3 blocks.. I captured great footage.

Few days later..a family relative who looks similar to me goes down the same road. He was convinced it was me and chased her. She was really traumatised and called the police. When they questioned her about his motives.. she said she had done nothing to provoke him.

When I heard the story, ofcourse I acted oblivious. To this day, I pretend to not know why that crazy man chased her

 

[LayneJ]

Wow, her hair looks great! I love her thick ends.

 

[Amber_moon]

It is actually a very nice photo and the lady's hair looks very nice, though I'd never want my hair to be quite that long.

As far you taking the picture of this random, long-haired stranger, I think you did it quite discreetly. Not only is the lady's face not showing, but in fact no one's is. While I can see why some might object to the idea of snapping a shot of someone you don't know without their permission, I don't think you did anything wrong at all. The woman was out in public. It'd be different of you were standing outside her bedroom window. I remember reading or hearing somewhere that when you go out in public you are pretty much surrendering a certain level of privacy anyway. In some cities just walking down the street means you are subject to being photographed or recorded at any time. *shrugs*

... being out in public does not mean that someone has the right to photograph you without your permission. Just like being on a crowded bus does not give someone the right to fondle you. Or just like walking down the street at night in a bad area does not give someone the right to rob you. And just like wearing a short skirt and cleavage does not give a man the right to rape you. No photos aren't physical acts of rape theft or molestation but being photographed unknowingly is a violation of ones person. Being captured by a security or traffic camera is not the same thing as someone walking up behind you (or in front of you) and snapping a photo of you and then walking away.

Just a strange observation here, but I'm wondering why so many people in the Black community don't readily understand this particular concept of etiquette. In Miami and often times here in my own city, I have noticed disproportionate numbers of Black people (men especially) doing this, as opposed to other groups of people. (not saying that they don't do it, because they do and I caught a few on my trip too!) I'm wondering though, is disregarding privacy etiquette a cultural thing in the Black community or what? When caught a lot of the black people I spoke to often expressed a similar sentiment to yours on why they thought it was ok to be rude. Thoughts on this? Id love to start a discussion on why this is. I have some ideas but Id love to hear other points of view.

I wonder if people also realize that in some cases, photo taking without permission is illegal and if the photo surfaces somewhere you can be sued. Its not just about people being "funny" about having their photo taken, it is a violation of that persons right to say when and to whom their image is given. And in some cases an affront to their privacy. Its about taking something that isn't yours, that you have no right to. A photograph can in some cases be a very personal and intimate thing and you the taker, can have no idea how the victim of your covert photo may feel about it (or what the consequences of that photo may be to them) so as such, it is only fair, and honestly its just human decency to take a few small seconds out of your day, to just say a few words to that person... I mean really, if you can lift your hand to hold the camera, and use muscles in your arm to steady the camera, and click the button chances are you are able-bodied enough to ask. Showing the person the camera and smiling inquisitively works across all languages and is recognized as "can I take a photo of you" in every country.

Besides, when you ask, you always get a better photo! Nothings better than a willing model, and you can pose them however you like to get the best photo.

 

[Chocolatelove2010]

Well I don't take it as a "fetish" thing. They have a genuine expression for black beauty, and I do appreciate it. Unlike men who look like us....if you get my drift....

BTW black women are considered exotic anyway and doesn't matter her look. Halle Berry to Alec Wek.

Personally, I think black men do appreciate black beauty. Let me correct myself, real Black men appreicate a black woman's beauty. Did you miss the song ''I like big butts and I cannot lie.'' Not the best example, but loads of brothers like a big butt and cannot lie.

On the second point I'd like to address. I just don't like being referred to as exotic. Type in definition of exotic and you'll see what comes up.

Definitions of exotic on the Web:

alien: being or from or characteristic of another place or part of the world; "alien customs"

strikingly strange or unusual.

I just don't see myself as an alien, or strange. That just doesn't fit well with me. I'm a black female, period. Don't go calling me exotic like I'm something you've seen on the discovery channel.

That's just my personal feelings on the matter.

 

[Americka]

It is actually a very nice photo and the lady's hair looks very nice, though I'd never want my hair to be quite that long.

As far you taking the picture of this random, long-haired stranger, I think you did it quite discreetly. Not only is the lady's face not showing, but in fact no one's is. While I can see why some might object to the idea of snapping a shot of someone you don't know without their permission, I don't think you did anything wrong at all. The woman was out in public. It'd be different of you were standing outside her bedroom window. I remember reading or hearing somewhere that when you go out in public you are pretty much surrendering a certain level of privacy anyway. In some cities just walking down the street means you are subject to being photographed or recorded at any time. *shrugs*

Agreed. While asking permission would have been the polite thing to do, there is no reasonable expectation of privacy in a public place.

 

[HennaRo]

I don't see anything wrong with it. Your not making fun of her, your giving her a great compliment. Taking pics without permission is not a crime especially since it was a public place. Your not using the pic for gratification of any kind. Now would I mind....if I was her no not at all. To be respectful permission should have been granted though.

 

[Chocolatelove2010]

... being out in public does not mean that someone has the right to photograph you without your permission. Just like being on a crowded bus does not give someone the right to fondle you. Or just like walking down the street at night in a bad area does not give someone the right to rob you. And just like wearing a short skirt and cleavage does not give a man the right to rape you. No photos aren't physical acts of rape theft or molestation but being photographed unknowingly is a violation of ones person. Being captured by a security or traffic camera is not the same thing as someone walking up behind you (or in front of you) and snapping a photo of you and then walking away.

Just a strange observation here, but I'm wondering why so many people in the Black community don't readily understand this particular concept of etiquette. In Miami and often times here in my own city, I have noticed disproportionate numbers of Black people (men especially) doing this, as opposed to other groups of people. (not saying that they don't do it, because they do and I caught a few on my trip too!) I'm wondering though, is disregarding privacy etiquette a cultural thing in the Black community or what? When caught a lot of the black people I spoke to often expressed a similar sentiment to yours on why they thought it was ok to be rude. Thoughts on this? Id love to start a discussion on why this is. I have some ideas but Id love to hear other points of view.

I wonder if people also realize that in some cases, photo taking without permission is illegal and if the photo surfaces somewhere you can be sued. Its not just about people being "funny" about having their photo taken, it is a violation of that persons right to say when and to whom their image is given. And in some cases an affront to their privacy. Its about taking something that isn't yours, that you have no right to. A photograph can in some cases be a very personal and intimate thing and you the taker, can have no idea how the victim of your covert photo may feel about it (or what the consequences of that photo may be to them) so as such, it is only fair, and honestly its just human decency to take a few small seconds out of your day, to just say a few words to that person... I mean really, if you can lift your hand to hold the camera, and use muscles in your arm to steady the camera, and click the button chances are you are able-bodied enough to ask. Showing the person the camera and smiling inquisitively works across all languages and is recognized as "can I take a photo of you" in every country.

Besides, when you ask, you always get a better photo! Nothings better than a willing model, and you can pose them however you like to get the best photo.

I was with you until I read the part I've put in bold.

I'm not even going to finish reading the rest. Get off your high horse, and stop acting like when you leave your house there is a paparazzi waiting. To add insult you think black people don't have any etiquette, and we stand around waiting to capture pictures of random people.

This thread was started about hair, and it seems you are just getting really sensitive about a minor pic. I'm sure the woman in the pic wouldn't shed as many tears as you have in this post.

All we have done is praised the woman's hair. Perhaps if somebody posted a crude pic, and we all commented negatively.. I could understand your tears but enough already.

Do you go to your local store and request the CCTV to be turned off? I think your tears will be better on a more worthy cause like writing essays towards murderers, rapists.. or pedos. Not people who just capture an innocent pic.

I have nothing more to say.

 

[song_of_serenity]

Seriously, you made your point. The continuous condescending tone and 5 page dissertation of some people on a regular basis on topics they're "passionate" about is ridiculous.

She snapped a picture. I can see why it would be wrong. She didn't ask permission and now the woman's hair is on the net.

I also see that nothing showing who the person is was shown and it was hair and it was in public. She said she understood where she went wrong. That was that. Get the heck over it, I was too through when I saw "black community" b.s.

TELL me who has the majority of those voyeuristic websites? Surely not us.