Wig and Pony Ladies ????

[Diam0ndiva]

I TELL PEOPLE.. JUST THINK ABOUT IT.. EITHER WAY ITS MINES LOL

 

[hopeful]

^^^And that is the truth!

 

[Bublin]

OK, do u think you can ask to speak to him in private and then tell him how you feel and that his behavior shocked and humiliated you. At this first stage don't threaten court, just see what his reaction to your feelings are first.

 

[pattyr5]

Ok, so the pony snatcher walks in today and says good morning to me....I coldly replied and then turned away from him. He's looking all wide eyed and afraid now, asking me if I want a cup of coffee and offering to pour. I already spoke to the other boss and told him to speak to his partner, because although I wasn't going to make a major deal out of this he shouldnt assume that the next person is going to take it so calmly. And my boss apologizes on behalf of everyone and said the other one was "just an A-hole trying to be funny" I said, "I like a joke as much as the next person, only it doesn't need to be at my expense".

I'm still waiting for an apology from him, but I'm also going to let him know, this ain't corny sit-com where you can go around snatching off peoples wigs and stuff. We have worked together for a looooong time and we are all pretty casual and cool with one another, but what he did isn't right for anyone to do. Funny that I never had another woman try some nonsense like that that with me. I guess we truly are the more mature sex.

 

[KnottyGurl]

I'm glad that you talked to someone else about this and had them intervene. It's good to have a witness in case he tries something like this again or tries to give you a hard time. I would've never had a one-on-one discussion with him. Always include another trustworthy person, if possible.

 

[Avaya]

Your boss and uncle did that to you because they knew you wouldn't respond aggressively. I used to deal with a large number of people that thought treating me with respect was optional. What your boss and uncle did was disrespectful and they did it because, in short, they do not respect you and are not intimidated by you.

Trust, if you had a rep of being a finger rolling, neck wagging, cuss a nicca out type of chick, they wouldn't have dared to do such a thing to you. And it is really sad and pathetic that one has to act like the aforementioned in order to be treated with respect by some people (and it is not even authentic, genuine "respect" it is fear and intimidation; folks like that leave the "she beasts" alone and go after the people they view as "weak").

It doesn't matter if people know or don't know that your hair is a weave/wig/phony pony whatever. People like that pick and choose who they treat with respect and dignity.

You need to let your inner b!tch out more often and let these people know what type of treatment you will and will not accept. I've managed to significantly reduce that "large number of people who think respecting me is optional" that I mentioned at the onset of my post. These people weren't family or co-workers though which admittedly does make your situation more precarious.

At the bare minimum I would suggest you address your boss as you addressed your uncle (informing him that you felt disrespected and violated and that you behave in a professional manner and want to likewise be treated in a professional manner). It is not about "not being able to take a joke" it is about respect and people treating you the way they themselves would want to be treated.

I am so pissed off on your behalf OP .

 

[hopeful]

Thank you so much for the update! You are making nice progress with this situation. Love that you are being cool toward him and that the other boss is aware of the situation. I hate you even had to go through this in the first place. Have a good weekend.

 

[Miss_C]

Wait, lemme get this straight. He pulled off your pony? He's your boss? Sounds like a lawsuit waiting to happen, seems like he realizes that. Next time some man (uncle, boss, whatever) feels the need to pull of your wig, punch him in the nuts. You're so sweet it'll catch him by suprise. Then laugh crazily. When he's writhing in pain, look at him with a withering look and say "Aww you can't take a joke either"! And voila, no more pony snatching!

 

[jamerichameleon]

I'm glad you stayed calm and spoke to someone else about the situation and have another boss involved. I'm so sorry you even had to deal with that kind of humilitation in the first place. You are a better woman than me though because my "whoop arse" reflex would have kicked in immediately.

 

[Nali1987]

I'm so sorry! That's horrible. Why the hell would he do something like that!? Argh I'm sorry but he's a major *******. Ripping off someone's pony! How pathetic! How demeaning. The fact that he didn't apologize is even worse.

 

[pattyr5]

Your boss and uncle did that to you because they knew you wouldn't respond aggressively. I used to deal with a large number of people that thought treating me with respect was optional. What your boss and uncle did was disrespectful and they did it because, in short, they do not respect you and are not intimidated by you.

Trust, if you had a rep of being a finger rolling, neck wagging, cuss a nicca out type of chick, they wouldn't have dared to do such a thing to you. And it is really sad and pathetic that one has to act like the aforementioned in order to be treated with respect by some people (and it is not even authentic, genuine "respect" it is fear and intimidation; folks like that leave the "she beasts" alone and go after the people they view as "weak").

It doesn't matter if people know or don't know that your hair is a weave/wig/phony pony whatever. People like that pick and choose who they treat with respect and dignity.

You need to let your inner b!tch out more often and let these people know what type of treatment you will and will not accept. I've managed to significantly reduce that "large number of people who think respecting me is optional" that I mentioned at the onset of my post. These people weren't family or co-workers though which admittedly does make your situation more precarious.

At the bare minimum I would suggest you address your boss as you addressed your uncle (informing him that you felt disrespected and violated and that you behave in a professional manner and want to likewise be treated in a professional manner). It is not about "not being able to take a joke" it is about respect and people treating you the way they themselves would want to be treated.

I am so pissed off on your behalf OP .

OMG, you did make me smile, but you are so right. I felt very disrespected by this action and whats more I am annoyed to have to resort to letting out my inner b!tch, just to get that respect. Women who are considered b!tchy have a bad rep, simply because they are strong and have a no nonsense attitude about them, but it seems that without it, people feel they have an invitation to walk all over a person. You can believe that this is NEVER happening again!!

 

[Vashti]

I'm glad you handled it well and with class. Hopefully this will be the end of the nonsense or else you need to talk to an employment attorney! I was getting angry just thinking about that. How in the world can this man be a true business man when he's behaving like he's on The Jenny Jones Show?

 

[brucebettye]

Op I hope your boss apologizes for taking off your phony pony tail and never does it again. I still cannot believe he did that to you and thought it was a joke. You handle the situation very professionally. I would have slap that man.

 

[DaDragonPrincess]

People are so bold now and days... You got to stand up for yourself because people will continue to try you until you do so. I wish someone would try some mess like this with me...woooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo...


But i'm happy you went to someone to talk about this issue OP, keep us updated.
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