Wigs, Weaves Etc & Dating...When Is It T.M.I?

[Bluetopia]

Hello ladies!

I was just looking through the boards and saw this thread where a young lady with alopecia inquired how to keep her wig on during "relations"

To be honest it's a great question and made me think of a convo I'd had with a friend last year. She had just started dating this guy and had also just started wearing wigs etc.....and one day I asked her how she managed her hair situation.

Meaning I've never personally had anything in my hair while dating someone....so how do you ladies handle that while still maintaining your sexy? My friend didn't end up seeing this guy for long and the few times they were intimate she happened to have just her regular hair...so I never got a real answer.

But now I'm curious....

1. when do you tell someone you're dating that you're are wearing a wig, weave, etc?
2. Is it something that you only bring up if it's getting serious or about to be intimate?
3. Is there a time where it just doesn't make sense to share and is T.M.I?
4. If your fake hair is so realistic everyone assumes it's real....and then the person you've just started dating raves about how gorgeous your hair is.....do you just say "thank you" and keep up the clever ruse....or interject with "thanks but this is actually a weave/wig/clip in"
   

Please excuse all the questions but with so many beautiful people on this board rocking hair pieces who also happen to be single...I've always wanted to ask you how your hair goals fit into your love lives.....

I'm such a full disclosure type of girl in my love life - I'm not sure what my answer would be lol

Sidenote: I already know many of you married ladies have your hubby's all up in your tresses, helping you do trims, apply relaxers, take length shots and etc....so this question is def not geared towards you..unless you just want to sure

 

[reeko43]

Well I got married at 42, I'm 45 now so I was single a very long time. I think that you should be honest from jump. That way, you have nothing to hide or play off later. I would want someone to keep it real with me. I don't see the big deal. I wore a short wig to work and coworkers told me they loved my new hair cut. I told them that since they like it so much I will put it back on tomorrow! If I am rocking a wig or if I were wearing a weave, why would I act like it is something that it is not? Be up front and it will take the awkwardness out of the situation immediately. Besides, if I can share my body with someone, I certainly should be able to be open about wearing a wg or weave. If you don't make it a big deal, others won't either.

 

[smwrigh3]

when do you tell someone you're dating that you're are wearing a wig, weave, etc?
I normally don't. But when I first started dating my SO I told him about the 16in weave I was about to get so he wasn't taken back by all the extra hair on our second date.
Is it something that you only bring up if it's getting serious or about to be intimate? I am sorta like Wendy Williams when it comes to my hair I will talk about if you wanna talk about it. I love my wigs!
Is there a time where it just doesn't make sense to share and is T.M.I? I dont talk about my hair to ppl I dont know or to white ppl other than that its not a very serious subject to ME
If your fake hair is so realistic everyone assumes it's real....and then the person you've just started dating raves about how gorgeous your hair is.....do you just say "thank you" and keep up the clever ruse....or interject with "thanks but this is actually a weave/wig/clip in" I say 'Thank you' shoot my hair or not it still looks good on me!

 

[nappystorm]

I don't care. One time an ex started taking off my jacket, shoes, and socks so that I can "get more comfortable" so I took off my ponytail and hung it on the doorknob

 

[DrC]

[*]when do you tell someone you're dating that you're are wearing a wig, weave, etc?
I wear a weave.........deal with it

[*]Is it something that you only bring up if it's getting serious or about to be intimate?
either I or they bring it up in the first encounter (serious or not) and never had any problems with it.

[*]Is there a time where it just doesn't make sense to share and is T.M.I?
No. Its not really a big deal its just hair.

4. If your fake hair is so realistic everyone assumes it's real....and then the person you've just started dating raves about how gorgeous your hair is.....do you just say "thank you" and keep up the clever ruse....or interject with "thanks but this is actually a weave/wig/clip in"

No. I just tell them straight up this is a wig, and her name is Sabrina....

Please excuse all the questions but with so many beautiful people on this board rocking hair pieces who also happen to be single...I've always wanted to ask you how your hair goals fit into your love lives.....

My SO doesn't care. As long as it looks good and it doesn't look 'artificial' or 'outlandish' he doesn't care. When I was single, I would wear my real hair out then the next time I see them I have extensions. Most of them liked it. (Kanye Shrug). I just started wearing weaves this year.

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[Russet]

I don't care. One time an ex started taking off my jacket, shoes, and socks so that I can "get more comfortable" so I took off my ponytail and hung it on the doorknob

I wish I had the confidence!

I usually act like it's mine when I do wear hair that isn't mine but if they ask then if it's MY hair i'll be honest. They don't usually ask though. I had an ex who would poke fun but didn't have a problem with all the extra hair really.

 

[DrC]

I don't care. One time an ex started taking off my jacket, shoes, and socks so that I can "get more comfortable" so I took off my ponytail and hung it on the doorknob

girl thats how you do it!!

 

[Junebug D]

I don't care. One time an ex started taking off my jacket, shoes, and socks so that I can "get more comfortable" so I took off my ponytail and hung it on the doorknob

Best post ever!

 

[Bluetopia]

I don't care. One time an ex started taking off my jacket, shoes, and socks so that I can "get more comfortable" so I took off my ponytail and hung it on the doorknob

omg!!

how did he react?

 

[Carisa]

when do you tell someone you're dating that you're are wearing a wig, weave, etc? I always mention it to begin with
Is it something that you only bring up if it's getting serious or about to be intimate? No
Is there a time where it just doesn't make sense to share and is T.M.I? No
If your fake hair is so realistic everyone assumes it's real....and then the person you've just started dating raves about how gorgeous your hair is.....do you just say "thank you" and keep up the clever ruse....or interject with "thanks but this is actually a weave/wig/clip in" ? I would tell them, but i never have this problem because most ppl assume my hair is a weave anyway

 

[TokyoReina]

I was thinking about this recently because I just ordered some hair for a sew-in. I can usually grin when guys ask if it's my real hair but now...I guess I'll have to come clean because it won't be. I'll tell that's it's fake and simple reasons why. Seeing as it'll probably be long as heck they'll probably assume and keep it moving.

 

[princessdi]

I concur. This is exactly what I do! Shoot, there's no since in hiding it. It's not like I don't have any hair. I choose to wear the wig to keep my hair healthy. You're right. Telling them does take the awardness out of it.

Well I got married at 42, I'm 45 now so I was single a very long time. I think that you should be honest from jump. That way, you have nothing to hide or play off later. I would want someone to keep it real with me. I don't see the big deal. I wore a short wig to work and coworkers told me they loved my new hair cut. I told them that since they like it so much I will put it back on tomorrow! If I am rocking a wig or if I were wearing a weave, why would I act like it is something that it is not? Be up front and it will take the awkwardness out of the situation immediately. Besides, if I can share my body with someone, I certainly should be able to be open about wearing a wg or weave. If you don't make it a big deal, others won't either.

 

[havilland]

when i was single i would tell a guy if they asked.

if they didn't ask i held onto the info until we were getting close. i'm not talking about hair and weaves etc on a first date. i always wore ponytails, weaves, wigs that look like my hair so it was really no shock value with me. on or off, i always look the same.

i remember once i dated someone and he seemed to be apprehensive. i didnt care. i am not my hair. but once i explained the whole healthy hair thing, he was cool with it because he wanted to be cool with me!