When a stylist who sucks is your friend???

[yokoyokogirl]

What do you do when the person who does your hair is your friend--and they suck?? She's not a good friend but someone I like and respect. I never want her to do my hair again though. Every time I see her, she asks about my"next appointment", but I don't have the heart to tell her "NEVER".

 

[plzgrow]

Keep it straight and tell how her you feel...

 

[BrooklynSouth]

Keep it straight and tell how her you feel...[/quote]

Absolutely, with a gentle touch on the arm... kindly let her know you love her but not the way she does your hair...a true friend would understand.

 

[yokoyokogirl]

Gotcha...not really what I wanted to hear, but i guess I have to tell her the truth...

 

[MissRissa]

yeah although its not the same thing, i hate when i go to a stylist and they are super nice in every way but suck at doing hair. they are pleasant, try to make you feel as comfortable as possible, and you just dont have to heart to tell them that their license should be revoked. then they always ask "so do you want to set up your next appt?" and you have to lie and say that you aren't sure when you'll be able to come in again.

i have had associates that weren't beauticians try to do my hair before and it looked a hot mess. i just smiled and rewashed my hair when i got home. never asked them for their assistance again. if they ask, i'll just say something like "oh i'm not going to be straightening my hair for a while".

 

[Platinum]

My mom was best friends with her stylist a long time ago. The stylist ended up putting a harsh relaxer in my mom's hair and it came out by the handfuls. My mom ended up going to another stylist after and her friend had the nerve to get mad.

My point is that a bad hair experience can ruin a friendship. If the service isn't becoming to you, you need to go to someone else. Just tell her the truth.

 

[tbaby_8]

I agree with everyone else. Tell her. If she is mature, then she will respect your honesty and you will still have the friendship. If not, then oh well, find another stylist that you like.

 

[Platinum]

As a matter of fact, by telling her the truth, you're probably helping her to step up her game. She probably doesn't even realize that you're not please with her service. She won't know unless you tell her.

 

[jamaraa]

Here's a solution...simply do your own hair. That way, you don't have to say anything about HER skills only that you choose to for whatever number of true reasons (ie cheaper).

The problem w/ stylists, esp those that are friends, is they feel they are trained and therefore RIGHT even tho it's YOUR head. Since you're already doing most of your haircare as is in Japan, just concede to doing it yourself. That way, no more worries, except of your own making.

 

[yokoyokogirl]

Good advice ladies.

Platinum I LOVE your Prince siggy...every time I see it I wanna laugh!

 

[naturalgurl]

Yeah, I say tell her BUT tell the other truth as well. That you've learned how to do your own hair and you like it. Whether you do your own hair or not, you have learned how to do it yourself if you want to.....right?

 

[BostonMaria]

The right thing to do is to tell...
What would I do though? I'd say "yeah one of these days" and she'd never see my ass again LOL I have a friend that did my hair for about a year and she did a fabulous job. She opened up her own place... but she's so busy that she rushes me out the door and does a mediocre job. I stopped going to her, but it coincided with my move so it all worked out in the end LOL I got to keep my hair and friend!