Unpopular/Negative hair thoughts and experiences

[Napp]

Should these be avoided being made in order not to offend and/or dicourage other posters and to promote positivity on the board?

 

[Nonie]

Should these be avoided being made in order not to offend and/or dicourage other posters and to promote positivity on the board?

Erhmm...I don't think it's realistic or even normal for people to put on an air of happy, happy, joy, joy meme::woohoo2:even when they're not.

I think everyone's experience has some place in life and purpose, so sharing our honest experiences opens a door for encouragement or education. What's more, it also prepares others for obstacles that lay along the way and offers an opportunity for them to learn from others' mistakes or success so that they may know what to avoid to make their journey more pleasant. Sharing both bad and good experiences IMO is important if we are to help each other grow.

 

[hothair]

You mean unpopular hair technqiues? I think you can talk about that or problems you're having with your hair or that you regret doing.......to your hair. What brings down the mood is when people harass or put down people for their hair choices, its not that serious its just hair.

I think once people remember the reason most people are here is to grow long hair- it doesn't mean they've signed a contract to treat their hair in a way "approved" by others it just means they're looking for information and its okay for them to make their own choices.

 

[Evolving78]

i think it helps bring balance. too much happy, happy joy, joy, can be discouraging as well.

 

[nzeee]

I think it depends on every OPs personality. I have no patience so likely will never start a controversial thread or state an opinion I fully expect to cause a ruckus.

Problem is, regardless of your own intentions sometimes people get out of hand. It's the internets afterall.

So I don't think it's about making sure everything's always happytime on the board, but moreso about having the patience to effectively support your negative or controversial opinions. Repeatedly. Even when blown out of proportion or used out of context by others

 

[Uniqzoe]

Whatever one thinks are feels about their hair, techniques or what have you, should be shared. Furthermore, it doesn't matter how positive you present something or if what you say is shared by the majority there will ALWAYS be someone(s) that will disagree and possibly get quite heated about too. But that's life and like shortdub78 said it brings balance.

 

[Bublin]

Whilst i certainly don't revel in someone's bad/negative hair experience i personally find it useful for my own hair journey. They can sometimes re-enforce for example, why i don't go to the salon for trims, flat-iron - well, quite frankly, anything.

 

[mzteaze]

Should these be avoided being made in order not to offend and/or dicourage other posters and to promote positivity on the board?

I've been trying to figure out whether you mean stating an unpopular opinion (such as liking or disliking a product/technique in a tide of opposing opinions) or being a negative person who resorts to putting others down for liking or disliking a product/technique.

Honestly, I enjoying reading opinions good and bad about products or techniques based on that person's perspective. Many times they might present a viewpoint I hadn't considered.

However, I don't like the negative (or disrespectful) tone that some posters take when others don't agree with their viewpoint. I get that this is the internet and we miss different levels of sarcasm and joking just by reading someone's words/thoughts. But that doesn't mean that the conversation has to devolve into name calling, thread-jacking or grandstanding just to repeat your viewpoint negatively.

I was reading another thread that started out informative...but had one poster who admittedly didn't even use the product in discussion take over and continually restate their negative opinion (in general) under the guise of trying to be informative. Then they jacked several pages with their negative opinion...and in predictable manner the thread devolved into name calling and such by others who simply wanted the person to move on (and stop talking). <<<---- If this is what you mean, then no I don't like it at all.

 

[SimJam]

I think not. we're all adults here (i think)and dont need to be coddled. Sometimes controvercial topics are needed, and when I say controvercial I dont mean trollish type threads, but those that offer a different or unique or not run of the mill option or opinion.


BUT at the same time and like IRL perpetual negative, rude, sally sad faces are not particularly well liked.

as for the negative hair talk/experiences ... I honestly believe some ladies need to vent and get stuff off their chests. Not everyone will have supportive ppl around them and I realize that this board offers a place of solace to some ladies.

if it is that any lady out there feels like this sort of talk is not progressive for them ... then dont click on those threads. I do that allllll the time.

 

[ms-gg]

As long as you are not attacking someone else personally (like calling their hair ***** or something like that), intentionally being mean to other members and speak in general terms or about yourself personally than I see no problem.

 

[SuchaLady]

Alot of questions if worded correctly can be constructive and informative. I believe we are all mature enough (or so you assume ) to have an educated conversation. Be smart about it; dont start a thread called "Am I the only one that thinks 4b hair is ugly?" and wonder why people attack you.

 

[PJaye]

I also enjoy reading others’ experiences – both positive and negative; sometimes the emotion is palpable and reaches through my screen.

 

[curlyninjagirl]

I think the rules of conduct already set in place on LHCF are good enough. Any more than that and I'm afraid I'd be completely uninterested. Where do you draw the line with censorship? People have a right to speak their minds....even if it makes them sound like rude idiots sometimes.