Chromia
Well-Known Member
Sorry, this is long. I'm frustrated and confused and I feel like venting.
I started going to my hairdresser 13 years ago, when I was in high school. When I went away to college I would still go to her when I came home during breaks. For about 2 years after college I lived in another city, but after I came back here I started going to her again. I had been going to another hairdresser here that I wasn't thrilled with. Then one day as I was leaving a store I heard someone calling my name - it was my old hairdresser. She gave me her card and told me to call her, so I did.erplexed
The first time I went back to her she said "Look how long your hair got!" I had been getting trims less frequently than when I went to her, and I'm sure the other hairdressers were cutting less.
She really thinks it's necessary to trim at every relaxer, which is 8 times a year (I get a touch up every 6 weeks. ) I had a hairdresser in another city who only wanted to trim every 12-16 weeks. He's a Hispanic guy with Type 1 hair (he had a mullet ) and did a good job with my hair. Before he trimmed he showed me exactly how much he was going to trim and he didn't want to do relaxers every 6 weeks. Too bad he's 3 hours away.
Anyway, back to my current hairdresser.....Last year one of my friends saw me 2 weeks after a trim, and the first thing she said was "You got your hair cut?" There were times when I noticed myself that more hair was cut off than was probably necessary. When I was 19 or 20 my mom told me that it seems like my hairdresser takes so much off during trims - once when she was taking me to the salon she said tell my hairdresser not to trim.
2 years ago I started taking better care of my hair and I see far fewer split ends. Last year I started asking my hairdresser not to trim after every relaxer. Sometimes she would say ok, sometimes she would ask me why I didn't want a trim. Her reaction isn't the same every time. Sometimes I feel so stupid for asking. Sometimes when I ask if I can wait she says "ok" or "You sure can!" and other times it seems to bother her or like she feels like I'm trying to challenge her or I'm insulting her or something.erplexed Anyway, I've been getting trims every 12 weeks.
One time last year I asked her not to trim for the 2nd relaxer in a row. She said ok, then about 10 seconds later she got rather upset and raised her voice a little. She stopped what she was doing and said said "Wait a minute, you didn't get a trim last time. You need your ends trimmed or else your hair will split all the way up the hair shaft." She told me that I have to get a trim. I felt like a child being scolded. I felt so dumb. It had been 12 weeks. I wanted to go 6 more.
Today my hairdresser said "I'm going to take a little bit off the ends". My last trim was 6 weeks ago and it was more than usual. I asked her if my ends look that bad. She said "When you wait you know I have to take more off at the next trim". Really? She never said that before. No, that can't be true because last year she and 2 of my friends told me that my hair is getting longer. I did notice that she took a lot off at my last trim, though. She didn't trim today.
Thanks for reading my looooong post. If you have a hairdresser like this, feel free to share.
I started going to my hairdresser 13 years ago, when I was in high school. When I went away to college I would still go to her when I came home during breaks. For about 2 years after college I lived in another city, but after I came back here I started going to her again. I had been going to another hairdresser here that I wasn't thrilled with. Then one day as I was leaving a store I heard someone calling my name - it was my old hairdresser. She gave me her card and told me to call her, so I did.erplexed
The first time I went back to her she said "Look how long your hair got!" I had been getting trims less frequently than when I went to her, and I'm sure the other hairdressers were cutting less.
She really thinks it's necessary to trim at every relaxer, which is 8 times a year (I get a touch up every 6 weeks. ) I had a hairdresser in another city who only wanted to trim every 12-16 weeks. He's a Hispanic guy with Type 1 hair (he had a mullet ) and did a good job with my hair. Before he trimmed he showed me exactly how much he was going to trim and he didn't want to do relaxers every 6 weeks. Too bad he's 3 hours away.
Anyway, back to my current hairdresser.....Last year one of my friends saw me 2 weeks after a trim, and the first thing she said was "You got your hair cut?" There were times when I noticed myself that more hair was cut off than was probably necessary. When I was 19 or 20 my mom told me that it seems like my hairdresser takes so much off during trims - once when she was taking me to the salon she said tell my hairdresser not to trim.
2 years ago I started taking better care of my hair and I see far fewer split ends. Last year I started asking my hairdresser not to trim after every relaxer. Sometimes she would say ok, sometimes she would ask me why I didn't want a trim. Her reaction isn't the same every time. Sometimes I feel so stupid for asking. Sometimes when I ask if I can wait she says "ok" or "You sure can!" and other times it seems to bother her or like she feels like I'm trying to challenge her or I'm insulting her or something.erplexed Anyway, I've been getting trims every 12 weeks.
One time last year I asked her not to trim for the 2nd relaxer in a row. She said ok, then about 10 seconds later she got rather upset and raised her voice a little. She stopped what she was doing and said said "Wait a minute, you didn't get a trim last time. You need your ends trimmed or else your hair will split all the way up the hair shaft." She told me that I have to get a trim. I felt like a child being scolded. I felt so dumb. It had been 12 weeks. I wanted to go 6 more.
Today my hairdresser said "I'm going to take a little bit off the ends". My last trim was 6 weeks ago and it was more than usual. I asked her if my ends look that bad. She said "When you wait you know I have to take more off at the next trim". Really? She never said that before. No, that can't be true because last year she and 2 of my friends told me that my hair is getting longer. I did notice that she took a lot off at my last trim, though. She didn't trim today.
Thanks for reading my looooong post. If you have a hairdresser like this, feel free to share.