After going almost 4 months without a relaxer, I finally gave in and got a touch up. I found out that the next time I go relaxer free, I am going to have to go completely natural without the pressing comb or anything. It's just too much work. I got a sensitive scalp affirm relaxer for the first time and I love how it feels on my hair. It did not even burn.
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Transitioners, *sigh*, I am no longer in the club
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dontspeakdefeat
Hair Coach
I am happy for you. Just keep giving you hair that TLC it needs!
i will. oh and let me give a shout out to jcpenney in stonecrest mall in ga, they did my hair. I learned a lot about my hair during the transition period. Even the stylist complimented me on my hair and how healthy and pretty it was. At first she offered to press my hair. Thanks LHCF!
The breaking point for me was when combing my hair was making me tear up a bit. I know this may sound stupid, but I just couldn't handle it. And you're right, the best way for me too would've been just to get rid of all the permed hair at once, but I would never do that. I've worked hard for the length I have.
And I figured I'd be better off sticking with the perms because I can't get straight hair without heat with my natural hairtype.
And I figured I'd be better off sticking with the perms because I can't get straight hair without heat with my natural hairtype.
dontspeakdefeat
Hair Coach
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jaibee said:
i will. oh and let me give a shout out to jcpenney in stonecrest mall in ga, they did my hair. I learned a lot about my hair during the transition period. Even the stylist complimented me on my hair and how healthy and pretty it was. At first she offered to press my hair. Thanks LHCF!
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so you went to JCPenny's at Stonecrest. That is like 5 miles from where I live. Who did your hair? I used to go there and Stephanie used to do my hair. I just wanted to take control of my own hair styling.
jaibee said:
i will. oh and let me give a shout out to jcpenney in stonecrest mall in ga, they did my hair. I learned a lot about my hair during the transition period. Even the stylist complimented me on my hair and how healthy and pretty it was. At first she offered to press my hair. Thanks LHCF!
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so you went to JCPenny's at Stonecrest. That is like 5 miles from where I live. Who did your hair? I used to go there and Stephanie used to do my hair. I just wanted to take control of my own hair styling.
ChasingBliss
Well-Known Member
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Karonica said:
The breaking point for me was when combing my hair was making me tear up a bit. I know this may sound stupid, but I just couldn't handle it. And you're right, the best way for me too would've been just to get rid of all the permed hair at once, but I would never do that. I've worked hard for the length I have.
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Wow! So I wasnt by myself after all, when I went through this back in August, I felt so alone. It was so frustrating, I had about 2 inches of new growth and I realized that if I wanted to go relaxer free, I would have to cut atleast 17 inches of relaxed hair off and I just was NOT ready to do that
. I learned that transitioning was not for me, it's either all or nothing...so next time I make this move, atleast Im aware of what I have to do.
Karonica said:
The breaking point for me was when combing my hair was making me tear up a bit. I know this may sound stupid, but I just couldn't handle it. And you're right, the best way for me too would've been just to get rid of all the permed hair at once, but I would never do that. I've worked hard for the length I have.
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Wow! So I wasnt by myself after all, when I went through this back in August, I felt so alone. It was so frustrating, I had about 2 inches of new growth and I realized that if I wanted to go relaxer free, I would have to cut atleast 17 inches of relaxed hair off and I just was NOT ready to do that
DelightfulFlame
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www.nappturality.com has lots of info that kept me from dropping out. I encourage you ladies to visit the next time you decide to go natural. I was at my wits end with transitioning too at 4 months, so I just cut it off before I turned back. I think 4 months is a common point to either chop or revert back to the perms. Anyhow...best wishes now and in the future.
DelightfulFlame
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Girl, I know it will...the question is when? The membership is so large now that we kept blowing up the site. So, it's undergoing some massive improvements. I'm praying that it comes back soon b/c I'm suffering from withdrawal...FOR REAL!
alibi
hair bored
Re: Transitioners, *sigh*, I am no longer in the c
I, too, am at the point where I want to take the plunge and get a touch up!!! I have 3c/4a and I'm 4 months out, but this is the really hard part. I just don't know if I have the energy to deal w/ 2 textures!!! Any words of enncouragement from those that have been there?!?!?!?!
I, too, am at the point where I want to take the plunge and get a touch up!!! I have 3c/4a and I'm 4 months out, but this is the really hard part. I just don't know if I have the energy to deal w/ 2 textures!!! Any words of enncouragement from those that have been there?!?!?!?!
skegeesmb
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DelightfulFlame said:
www.nappturality.com has lots of info that kept me from dropping out. I encourage you ladies to visit the next time you decide to go natural. I was at my wits end with transitioning too at 4 months, so I just cut it off before I turned back. I think 4 months is a common point to either chop or revert back to the perms. Anyhow...best wishes now and in the future.
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That is so true. I transitioned for 4 months before I cut my hair. I knew back then I wanted to go natural, so I just decided to cut my hair. It was hard to learn how to do short hair, but I couldn't go back then.
If I were ever to alter my hair it would be on all natural hair. I would have to acknowledge that by chemically altering my hair, that this is it. But then I would have to think long and hard before I did so.
For me, if I had continued to transition past those 4 months, I would have been tempted to see how many inches that new growth was "stretched out" and would have relaxed again.
I think the only difference between you and me would have been I wouldn't have felt bad for relaxing again back then.
DelightfulFlame said:
www.nappturality.com has lots of info that kept me from dropping out. I encourage you ladies to visit the next time you decide to go natural. I was at my wits end with transitioning too at 4 months, so I just cut it off before I turned back. I think 4 months is a common point to either chop or revert back to the perms. Anyhow...best wishes now and in the future.
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That is so true. I transitioned for 4 months before I cut my hair. I knew back then I wanted to go natural, so I just decided to cut my hair. It was hard to learn how to do short hair, but I couldn't go back then.
If I were ever to alter my hair it would be on all natural hair. I would have to acknowledge that by chemically altering my hair, that this is it. But then I would have to think long and hard before I did so.
For me, if I had continued to transition past those 4 months, I would have been tempted to see how many inches that new growth was "stretched out" and would have relaxed again.
I think the only difference between you and me would have been I wouldn't have felt bad for relaxing again back then.
CaramelKiss
New Member
Ladies. don't feel bad. It is hard!! I had to chop all of my relaxed hair off save for 2 inches. It was the only way I could do it and I couldn't stand the 2 textures. Also my hair was breaking off likle crazy.
Good luck to u and there is nothing wrong with going back to relaxing. U do what's best for u and your hair!!
Good luck to u and there is nothing wrong with going back to relaxing. U do what's best for u and your hair!!
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ayanapooh said:
I, too, am at the point where I want to take the plunge and get a touch up!!! I have 3c/4a and I'm 4 months out, but this is the really hard part. I just don't know if I have the energy to deal w/ 2 textures!!! Any words of enncouragement from those that have been there?!?!?!?!
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Ayanapooh,
I am at 7 months transitioning and my textures are drastically different b/c my relaxed hair is pretty much bone straight. It dries straight whether I blowdry it or not. So, it was a real struggle for me until I learned how to detangle my hair. Once I learned how to detangle, it has been free sailing from there. Also, I don't manipulated my hair much. I "do" my hair on Sundays and Wednesdays and pretty much just "maintain" it the other days of the week. I don't start over from scratch everyday...I don't restyle everyday. Makes my styles a little boring but it's what I have to do to keep my hair from breaking off.
Have you mastered detangling? Also moisturizing new growth has been a big help for me. Never let that new growth dry without putting something moisturizing on it first...otherwise, it will dry too curly, frizzy and be impossible to get a comb through to style without breakage.
Another good thing is to get a good leave-in conditioner. My favorite is Biolage Leave-In tonice but there are many that are raved about here.
Well, I've probably gone on long enough. I hope this helps but remember everyone's hair is different and this is just what I've found to work for me.
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ayanapooh said:
I, too, am at the point where I want to take the plunge and get a touch up!!! I have 3c/4a and I'm 4 months out, but this is the really hard part. I just don't know if I have the energy to deal w/ 2 textures!!! Any words of enncouragement from those that have been there?!?!?!?!
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Ayanapooh,
I am at 7 months transitioning and my textures are drastically different b/c my relaxed hair is pretty much bone straight. It dries straight whether I blowdry it or not. So, it was a real struggle for me until I learned how to detangle my hair. Once I learned how to detangle, it has been free sailing from there. Also, I don't manipulated my hair much. I "do" my hair on Sundays and Wednesdays and pretty much just "maintain" it the other days of the week. I don't start over from scratch everyday...I don't restyle everyday. Makes my styles a little boring but it's what I have to do to keep my hair from breaking off.
Have you mastered detangling? Also moisturizing new growth has been a big help for me. Never let that new growth dry without putting something moisturizing on it first...otherwise, it will dry too curly, frizzy and be impossible to get a comb through to style without breakage.
Another good thing is to get a good leave-in conditioner. My favorite is Biolage Leave-In tonice but there are many that are raved about here.
Well, I've probably gone on long enough. I hope this helps but remember everyone's hair is different and this is just what I've found to work for me.
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