I'd like to offer my sisters some advice during this difficult time. It's a list of do's and don'ts. If you're serious that this relationship is over, take serious steps to move forward with your life.
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Don't play any sad love songs. No Luther or Mary J, etc. Up beat music only!
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Don't stay home by yourself watching tv or sitting in the dark. Talk about an opportunity to cry! That's the last thing you want to do!
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Don't call his house, his job, his cell phone just to hear his voice then hang up.
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Don't drive by his house, his job, his friends house, his family's house, any place he hangs out regularly. If you know he likes to go there, stay away!
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Don't contact his new girlfriend, his friends, don't ask about him. Let it go!
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Don't email or text message him.
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Don't sit around staring at old pictures of him. Take them down. If you're really trying to get over him, you don't need constant reminders.
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Delete his number from your cell phone. Yes, that's what I said. Lose it! If it's over, it's over. Cut him loose.
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Don't tell yourself that you just lost your perfect mate. If he were the perfect one, he'd be with you. He's not, so he wasn't the one.
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Don't believe that you'll never find someone else that will make you feel the same way he did. If I had a dime for everytime that I've seen that line proven wrong ........
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Do pamper yourself. Make regular appointments to have your mani and pedi.
-This is a hair forum, so you know
the hair can't be neglected! 
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Watch what you eat. I love that some of you have made the decision to eat healthy! Excellent! Some of us have a tendency to overeat when we're depressed,
, have some carrot sticks or apple slices. Instead of bread try Melba toast. If you feel like munching all the time, keep some sugar free gum in your purse.
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Try a new hobby. Join a gym. Take a class. Stay busy!!! Don't give yourself time to think or cry.
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If you are a church person, go to church! Prayer groups and church activities keep a girl busy! lol!
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Say yes when your friends invite you out, even if you don't feel like going. Don't mope. Make ever effort not to allow yourself to become depressed. If your friends are trying to cheer you up, meet them half way.
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Give yourself time to heal from your old relationship. Don't drag old hurts from past relationships into new ones.
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Be open to meeting new people. You never know!
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And please, ladies, when you do meet that new person, and you will
, and he inevitably asks you about your past relationship(s) and what happened, don't give anything away, if you can avoid it. Just say, "it didn't work out." Don't give more than that. Sometimes in revealing details about past relationships, we inadvertently reveal vulnerabilities that might be too early for this new person to know. Let him wait. :wink2:
It was something to the effect of how I was ignoring on Saturday and missed all his calls. Eh. I was. but....IDK why I'm even talking about this. About to fall right back in.
