Issue: equal yoking in marriage, specifically both people being baptized and Holy Spirit filled (speaking in tongues).
Situation: I know of a couple (I've known the female for decades). She's been going together with this guy for a couple of years (honorably, meaning, no sex before marriage; both attend the same church). Both have been married before so understandable they took it slow. They get engaged. A serious situation pops up of a financial nature where trust is questioned. This causes a major issue.
I'm in the conversation with the female and we're talking and whatever she says (I don't fully recall but something about issues from his past relationship) prompts me to ask: Does he have the Holy Spirit? Has he been baptized?
This situation is bothersome on a couple of levels:
1) why would my sisterfriend even consider marrying this man even though he does not speak in tongues/been baptized? (Note: I have not gotten the courage to ask her this question yet. Also, he's a really nice guy and he is already better than her exes.)
2) How to know if it will work out if I choose to marry a man who has not been water and spirit baptized? (Note: my parents have been married going on 42 years on January 24. My mom grew up in church and saved but not my dad...in fact, he JUST got water baptized a couple of years ago.)
3). (Sorta rhetorical): WHY do I have to WAIT?!?!?!?!? What's stopping me from just going ahead and avoid considering the equal yoking piece in terms of the infilling of the Holy Spirit? Other people are doing it and it's working out for them.... Sigh.... esp. as I am in an age bracket where marriage is... well... sigh....
What's the wisdom here?
Situation: I know of a couple (I've known the female for decades). She's been going together with this guy for a couple of years (honorably, meaning, no sex before marriage; both attend the same church). Both have been married before so understandable they took it slow. They get engaged. A serious situation pops up of a financial nature where trust is questioned. This causes a major issue.
I'm in the conversation with the female and we're talking and whatever she says (I don't fully recall but something about issues from his past relationship) prompts me to ask: Does he have the Holy Spirit? Has he been baptized?
This situation is bothersome on a couple of levels:
1) why would my sisterfriend even consider marrying this man even though he does not speak in tongues/been baptized? (Note: I have not gotten the courage to ask her this question yet. Also, he's a really nice guy and he is already better than her exes.)
2) How to know if it will work out if I choose to marry a man who has not been water and spirit baptized? (Note: my parents have been married going on 42 years on January 24. My mom grew up in church and saved but not my dad...in fact, he JUST got water baptized a couple of years ago.)
3). (Sorta rhetorical): WHY do I have to WAIT?!?!?!?!? What's stopping me from just going ahead and avoid considering the equal yoking piece in terms of the infilling of the Holy Spirit? Other people are doing it and it's working out for them.... Sigh.... esp. as I am in an age bracket where marriage is... well... sigh....
What's the wisdom here?