19sweetie, whatever you do, make sure that you or your stylist do a strand test on several sections of your head before relaxing to determine the correct strength and timing of your relaxer.
I use Revlon Realistic (lye) regular strength. I don't use too many styling products on a regular basis. My staples are Elucence Moisture Balancing Conditioner and Moisture Benefits Shampoo (a couple of times per month), Optimum Conditioner (deep/protein), African Royale Daily Doctor, White Rain Conditioner for conditioner "washes", glycerin/water/condtioner spray, Oils (virgin coconut or shea oil, essential oils).