The Honeymoon is over...No Perm for 1 YEAR!

[DDHair]

After just getting off the phone with my friend who was going on and on about how she needed a retouch for her very short cut and how pretty her hair is now that she has one, I think about the fact that as of this week or next week (I can't remember the exact date), I have officially been perm free for one year! I have had my struggles I won't lie, but when you become so addicted to relaxers it's amazing to think that you can go as long as one year, shoot 6 months without one, for me longer than 4-6 weeks w/out braids was like "JIGGA WHAT?" I listen to people (my friends in particular) complain about how they are in dire need of a relaxer and I am thinking, shoot try a year. I honestly admit I am proud of myself for not giving up or giving in, even when my beautician tried to convince me to go back to relaxing and actually dumped me for not doing so. I still need to trim these ends, but I have worked so hard with my hair and holding on to this napptural mess, that I am not turning back anytime soon!

 

[SweetNic_JA]

congrats! I can't believe your hair dresser dumped you? That's kind of lame.

 

[DDHair]

Thank you. I know, but she did. I called her one day to ask her to straighten my hair and she was like are you still going natural (because she was about to say no). I said yes, but my hair is already straight I just need you to go over it, then she was like okay.

 

[karezone]

So sad that your hairdresser dumped you. Natural hair is no harder than relaxed it just requires different processes.

 

[brittanynic16]

Good for you. I can't wait until I am there.

 

[DDHair]

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karezone said:
So sad that your hairdresser dumped you. Natural hair is no harder than relaxed it just requires different processes.

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Exactly!

 

[DDHair]

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brittanynic16 said:
Good for you. I can't wait until I am there.

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Thank you, how far along are you?

 

[NAY007]

Maybe your hairdresser don't know how to do natural hair. I know there are hairdressers who know how to do natural hair. Just like some hairdressers are good with color, others a really good when it comes to precision cuts etc.

 

[jainygirl]

don't worry about that hairdresser, she just didn't have the talent required to style both relaxed and natural hair...shame on her

 

[ms_kenesha]

I am so proud of you. So how are you wearing your hair now? When are you going to cut off your relaxed ends? Hairdressers STINK!!!!

 

[SVT]

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DDHair said:
...for me longer than 4-6 weeks w/out braids was like "JIGGA WHAT?"...

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Congratulations on making it through an entire year!

 

[sassygirl125]

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even when my beautician tried to convince me to go back to relaxing and actually dumped me for not doing so

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Better to be dumped than be hairjacked by a stylist who doesn't have a clue.

 

[amy1234]

congrats DDhair! I would recommend that you take styling in your own hands so that you don't have to depend on a hairdresser in the future

 

[DDHair]

Actually my ex-beautician did a really good job straightening my hair the first time she did it, she even surprised herself. I have no animosity against her, because she is the bomb doing hair period (well my hair), but she can't do anything as far as straightening my hair goes, that other really good stylists can't do.

Thanks for your support guys, I think I would have gotten extremely fed up if I didn't have this site to come to. I am walking around looking like Buckwehat now, but when I go out, I wear my wigs, "I love my wigs (Homer Simpson voice)."

 

[Bublnbrnsuga]

Oh wee! Welcome to the perm free for a year or beyond club! I must admit,it will be easier now. The first few months is difficult,but now you can work with your new growth instead of against it. YIPPIE YI YO!

 

[BJ007]

I don't know why I ever got perms, I would only get one once a year anyway. My hair is soft and with a press and curl would look like a fresh perm anyway. I knew I needed to stop when the shampoo girl was washing my hair and asked "Do U Get Perms", I said yes and she asked "why"?? Then I asked myself yeah why??? Then another time I was at least 7months post relaxer and had just gotten a press & curl and someone asked if I just got a perm. I said no I got one at such a such a time, they looked at me like

I know it started with my mother one day getting fed up with my tangles and marching me down to the salon. But we didn't have this site then

She probably was using some jacked up products in my hair. So then it just became a habit. So after this year, I'm just gonna keep going without.

 

[nutella]

That's a nice story BJ007, but I think the point needs to be made that NObody (not even someone with extremely "resistant," or very kinky hair) HAS to get a relaxer. Everybody doesn't have to have straight hair to be their best. Saying that one's hair looks like a fresh perm with just a press-n-curl, and that therefore she is excused from getting a perm, feeds into the misconception that everybody is supposed to have one particular texture (straight) and that those who cannot easily achieve it, well, they are the unfortunate few who HAVE to get a perm. I submit that it is okay not to have straight hair. And with that in mind, there is nobody who HAS TO have a perm.
And my hair is soft too (extremely kinky, and very soft).
Congratulations on making the decision to be perm-free!