kbragg
Well-Known Member
All right I know there's a handful of us on here. When God blesses you with a husband of a different race how do you deal with people who look down on you for it? How do you keep that ole' flesh from welling up and wanting to give them a piece of your mind? For example, both me and my mom re-married white men and our family give us so much junk about it. My grandmother constantly cuts down my husband's job and my mom's husband too. Here's the thing, before my mom's current husband my mom was married to a black man my grandmother LOVED. He beat her, broke bones, put her in the hospital, and although she's never said it outloud, I believe he cause her to miscarry. Now she's with a man that treats her like a queen and my family has a problem with him because he's WHITE? Is something not adding up? Should she have stayed in an abusive relationship to "preserve her blackness" and "Keep the religion alive?" Is she somehow less black because a white man that GOD sent into her life swept her off her feet and she fell in love?
Similar situation with me. My husband is white. He drives a trash truck. My grandma always has something smart to say about him. His family has NEVER said anything to him about me like that (I know, because he would'nt speak to them again). But you know what? That man works 60 hours a week so I can stay home with my kids and never complains! Tht's why I work my business so hard soI can retire him from his job like my fiend Janie did for her husband. I am on track to do so in 2007 God willing. My best friend's husband only gives her grief about trying to work at home and says "real women have jobs and contribute to the household" EXCUSE ME??? Raise his 2 kids and supporting his career isn't CONTRIBUTING?? But it's all good right? She's still "black" and "keeping the religion alive" even though she's with an emotionally abusive man and a prisoner in her own home.erplexed He doesn't support her in business at all. My husband has been there for me through thick and thin (and no, he didn't grow up in some rich white "Leave It To Beaver" type home. His parents were poor and both worked outside the home.) He's had my back in everything. He even adopted my oldest daughter as his own and is her father in every way that counts. We've been through it all together!
He even wants me to go natural and stop putting chemicals on my head (unlike my one friend's man who gives her a hard time for her hair being "jacked up" 4 weeks post). He's not intimidated by my blackness (on the contrary he actually has a thing for dark skinned big booty girls which I am not one of so I gotta watch my back around here in the summer!) at all. He appreciates me for who I am and loves me unconditionally. Someone mentioned struggle and that he could never love me like a black man because of the stuggle.(Ducking from tomatoes) But black people in America can't talk about struggle. You call getting turned down for a job or someone rolling their eyes in walmart "stuggle?" What out ancestors went through is stuggle. What baby girls in China who are murdered for being female go through is struggle. What Africans who are shot and killed for carrying Bibles go through is struggle. We have so much opportunity today in America it ain't funny. I mean who needs a job anyway. Start your own home business! Seriously, when I prospect on a daily basis the lack mentality our people have drives me up a wall. "I can't afford $50" EXUSE ME? How long have you been working? 20 years and you don't have 50 bucks in your pocket? All the more reason you need to FIND 50 bucks and get started TODAY so you'll have something to leave your kids besides DEBT! People wonder why white people make all the money. Yes part is policical but the other part is our people are way too complacent. I'vetalked to thousands of people and let me tell you, I've never seen more lack mentality, less work ethic, and more complacency than in OUR PEOPLE and it makes me so sad I could vomit.
Yes I am pouring out my heart right now because you know what? I'm sick of the excuses. Black men are this way cause....black women are this way cause.....ok fine, now GET OVER IT AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! Ain't nan one of us ever been a slave. None of us have gone through a real struggle. So release it already, forgive, and move forward with your dang life already! You wanna know struggle? We had to live on 20-30 bucks a week in food for a family of 4. Beans, rice, ramen noodles, that's stuggle. But compared to the "real" world outside the US, that's not even close to struggle! There are kids in India who eat one meal a WEEK who have no parents. That's stuggle.
It is only by the mercy of God that we have breath in our lungs. Let's use it to glorify Him, not just to glory in ourselves worshiping the creation (our race) more than the Creator. When God created Adam and Eve, He didn't say He created a WHITE man, BLACK, man, or CHINESE man, just man. Yes we are fearfully and wonderfully made, yes we should appreciate the gifts and diversity God has given us, but not to the point of exhalting oursleves over others. That's pride and self idolatry, and straight from the pit of hell. Guess what? GOD MADE WHITE PEOPLE TOO and loves them just as much. HE MADE KOREANS TOO. Selah.
I really don't care if I get flamed or not I've just about had it up to here with the hypocracy in our race where man, we'd jump all over a white person if they said "white power" but we catch the Holy Ghost if someone says "balck power," gimmie a stinkin break!
So I guess my point is no point really lol. In all things let God's Word be true and everything else a lie. I am no less black for being married to a white man and if I am, so be it, I'm child of the King and that's the ONLY heritage that holds significance in the end. Our time here is a vapor, our time with Him is eternity, so forgive me if I focus more time on being a Chrisitan than "being black."
God Bless.
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Similar situation with me. My husband is white. He drives a trash truck. My grandma always has something smart to say about him. His family has NEVER said anything to him about me like that (I know, because he would'nt speak to them again). But you know what? That man works 60 hours a week so I can stay home with my kids and never complains! Tht's why I work my business so hard soI can retire him from his job like my fiend Janie did for her husband. I am on track to do so in 2007 God willing. My best friend's husband only gives her grief about trying to work at home and says "real women have jobs and contribute to the household" EXCUSE ME??? Raise his 2 kids and supporting his career isn't CONTRIBUTING?? But it's all good right? She's still "black" and "keeping the religion alive" even though she's with an emotionally abusive man and a prisoner in her own home.erplexed He doesn't support her in business at all. My husband has been there for me through thick and thin (and no, he didn't grow up in some rich white "Leave It To Beaver" type home. His parents were poor and both worked outside the home.) He's had my back in everything. He even adopted my oldest daughter as his own and is her father in every way that counts. We've been through it all together!
He even wants me to go natural and stop putting chemicals on my head (unlike my one friend's man who gives her a hard time for her hair being "jacked up" 4 weeks post). He's not intimidated by my blackness (on the contrary he actually has a thing for dark skinned big booty girls which I am not one of so I gotta watch my back around here in the summer!) at all. He appreciates me for who I am and loves me unconditionally. Someone mentioned struggle and that he could never love me like a black man because of the stuggle.(Ducking from tomatoes) But black people in America can't talk about struggle. You call getting turned down for a job or someone rolling their eyes in walmart "stuggle?" What out ancestors went through is stuggle. What baby girls in China who are murdered for being female go through is struggle. What Africans who are shot and killed for carrying Bibles go through is struggle. We have so much opportunity today in America it ain't funny. I mean who needs a job anyway. Start your own home business! Seriously, when I prospect on a daily basis the lack mentality our people have drives me up a wall. "I can't afford $50" EXUSE ME? How long have you been working? 20 years and you don't have 50 bucks in your pocket? All the more reason you need to FIND 50 bucks and get started TODAY so you'll have something to leave your kids besides DEBT! People wonder why white people make all the money. Yes part is policical but the other part is our people are way too complacent. I'vetalked to thousands of people and let me tell you, I've never seen more lack mentality, less work ethic, and more complacency than in OUR PEOPLE and it makes me so sad I could vomit.
Yes I am pouring out my heart right now because you know what? I'm sick of the excuses. Black men are this way cause....black women are this way cause.....ok fine, now GET OVER IT AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! Ain't nan one of us ever been a slave. None of us have gone through a real struggle. So release it already, forgive, and move forward with your dang life already! You wanna know struggle? We had to live on 20-30 bucks a week in food for a family of 4. Beans, rice, ramen noodles, that's stuggle. But compared to the "real" world outside the US, that's not even close to struggle! There are kids in India who eat one meal a WEEK who have no parents. That's stuggle.
It is only by the mercy of God that we have breath in our lungs. Let's use it to glorify Him, not just to glory in ourselves worshiping the creation (our race) more than the Creator. When God created Adam and Eve, He didn't say He created a WHITE man, BLACK, man, or CHINESE man, just man. Yes we are fearfully and wonderfully made, yes we should appreciate the gifts and diversity God has given us, but not to the point of exhalting oursleves over others. That's pride and self idolatry, and straight from the pit of hell. Guess what? GOD MADE WHITE PEOPLE TOO and loves them just as much. HE MADE KOREANS TOO. Selah.
I really don't care if I get flamed or not I've just about had it up to here with the hypocracy in our race where man, we'd jump all over a white person if they said "white power" but we catch the Holy Ghost if someone says "balck power," gimmie a stinkin break!
So I guess my point is no point really lol. In all things let God's Word be true and everything else a lie. I am no less black for being married to a white man and if I am, so be it, I'm child of the King and that's the ONLY heritage that holds significance in the end. Our time here is a vapor, our time with Him is eternity, so forgive me if I focus more time on being a Chrisitan than "being black."
God Bless.
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