Speaking of that thread on attention from men

[melodee]

I had been wearing a bun for the past three weeks as I am transitioning and CO washing a bit more. I had been feeling not very sassy, and grew tired of the sam old style.

I was going to get a straw set, but got lazy and flat ironed instead. That very day, as I went about my day--I had crazy looks from every direction--men, women, but mostly men.

I got twice as many" How you doin's" as I got with the pulled back style. Even family members and friends said "you're a pretty girl". But I was the SAME girl as the day before--the same amount of makeup, the same fashionable dress code.

This was my experiment. Not a very scientific one. I'm gonna try it again in a lil while, but next time, I will record some data:

Number of times someone smiles or speaks
Number of hair compliments

I know this is still not very scientific, but it's all I have.

Anyone else wanna try this experiment as post their results? Or have you done so, and wanna talk about it. It caould be with the use of a wig/weave or with your own hair.

 

[glamazon386]

I had been wearing a bun for the past three weeks as I am transitioning and CO washing a bit more. I had been feeling not very sassy and cute, and grew tired of the sam old style.

I was going to get a straw set, but got lazy and flat ironed instead. That very day, as I went about my day--I had crazy looks from every direction--men, women, but mostly men.

I got twice as many" How you doin's" as I got with the pulled back style. Even family members and friends said "you're a pretty girl". But I was the SAME girl as the day before--the same amount of makeup, the same fashionable dress code.

This was my experiment. Not a very scientific one. I'm gonna try it again in a lil while, but next time, I will record some data:

Number of times someone smiles or speaks
Number of hair compliments

I know this is still not very scientific, but it's all I have.

Anyone else wanna try this experiment as post their results? Or have you done so, and wanna talk about it. It caould be with the use of a wig/weave or with your own hair.

I've tried this plenty of times before. I always got hit on more with my weave or wig than my own hair. I get themost attention with big curly hair. I tend to wear less makeup when I'm wearing my hair longer though.

 

[LocksOfLuV]

I wanna do it! I haven't wore my hair down in about two mos. Men start treating me like 'the little sister' instead of 'the pretty girl' when I wear my hair up.

I won't be able to record until a few mos though, oh well, I will have fun reading everyone else's responses.

 

[sexyaqr]

I have known this a long time. Men love long hair. Some of my guy friends have even admitted that.

 

[MzOptimistic]

This is a great thread. I get alot of responses with my hair in a bun and I get alot of attention with my hair down BUT I have been rocking buns and I'm a pretty girl but I think I look prettier with my hair down and I noticed that if I wear my hair in a bun my clothes has to be on point. I get sooo many compliments and I think to myself they (men) are just looking at my body cuz when I wear my hair down and have on anything I get just as many compliments. Interesting thread, will be following you alls comments. I can't participate yet cuz I'm on so many challenges

 

[preciousjewel76]

I've been wearing a fall with a layered flip since Monday, and I've received tons of compliments from coworkers (both genders and different races). It's slightly longer and thicker than my own hair. People really seem to respond more to "out/down" styles than the protective styles we're used to.

 

[MochaSilk]

I notice different types of attention with different hairstyles...

When I wear my hair in an updo w/ the "cutesy" ponytail & bangs, I get noticed by the young'uns. I'm 34, so I mean late teens & 20's.

When it's pulled back, parted in the middle w/ a bun or braid, I get the bookish-nerdy attention - especially when I wear my glasses, Indian (from India) and African attention.

When it's in corn rows w/ my curly pouf when managing my new growth, I get most attention from those w/ natural hair (my 100% natural friend LOVES IT), young kids, and older white hippies.

When I wear a long fall, I get attention from 30-40 somethings. I think that's because the long, flowing hair subconsciously says a person is relaxed, comfortable, mostly approachable.

 

[HoneyDew]

Well I had been wearing my hair up and not feeling pretty or attractive at all.

This week it has been down. Not my hair is not long at all, but it is thick and I have lots of body.

I have been getting so many compliments from men and women. The checkout lady at Sally's yesterday (who sees me ALL THE TIME, BTW) said "You are so pretty, sweetie. You really are an attractive woman".

I was like "who me?!" I was very surprised by that comment. Not that I think I am ugly, but considering how I have been feeling about my hair I was very surprised.

That's when I realized, is this because my hair is down (or "out" in my case)??

I don't know if I have the mental energy to determine how many compliments i get or not get depending on my hair style, but it is very interesting!

 

[Country gal]

I noticed when my hair is styled real nice the guys love it. When I use to wear my hair straight, guys really like that. I just think men in general love long hair.

 

[Supergirl]

Me too Mel,

but I will say that I look drastically different with my hair down. I do look like 2 different people with my hair bunned and then with it down.

I was out one weekend and saw someone I knew from work at a restaurant. Now, I hadn't known her long but she was like "Now, where do I know you from?" I had my hair down whereas I usually have it bunned at work.

 

[renee_n_3000]

I don't know if I have the mental energy to determine how many compliments i get or not get depending on my hair style, but it is very interesting!

You know what, I don't think I will either. Until I read your comment I was thinking about how fun this sounded and that I wanted to do it. I'm really looking forward to reading other ladies' results, though.

I just know that I'll forget about it or I won't be able to concentrate on whatever else I'm trying to get done while recording the results. For instance, in the stores I go to, it seems that you can't get through them without every other person smiling at or talking to you. That's nice, of course.

A while ago while reading a thread here at LHCF about which zodiac sign women attract most (as in men who approach them), I decided to do a little experiment and ask the men who approached me what sign they were and write it down on little pad. I never actually asked one man, though, or even remembered to put a notepad in my purse.

I can tell you this, though -- we have cold autumns and winters here, so all men really need to see is your face to hit on you. You can have your hair completely under a hat and be covered from neck to toe with your coat, boots, etc., and men (and people in general) will still approach and compliment you.

 

[renee_n_3000]

HoneyDew, I just read your post again and maybe wearing your hair out made you feel prettier and that gave you a glow and a little bounce in your step. People might have picked up on that even though you were obviously the same girl and just as pretty when you had your hair up. In fact, that may be true for many ladies.

 

[Miss*Tress]

HoneyDew, I just read your post again and maybe wearing your hair out made you feel prettier and that gave you a glow and a little bounce in your step. People might have picked up on that even though you were obviously the same girl and just as pretty when you had your hair up. In fact, that may be true for many ladies.

I think this is true. Whether my hair is up or down if I feel good I get hit on more than when I'm not in a good mood.

 

[HoneyDew]

That may be true! I did feel really good yesterday, too.

 

[caribeandiva]

HoneyDew, I just read your post again and maybe wearing your hair out made you feel prettier and that gave you a glow and a little bounce in your step. People might have picked up on that even though you were obviously the same girl and just as pretty when you had your hair up. In fact, that may be true for many ladies.

that's true. people always compliment me whether my hair is up or down. once, i went to work without a lick of makeup on and my coworker told me: "do you wake up looking like that?" i told him yeah and he said: "cause you're freaking gorgeous!" I had a silly grin on my face for the rest of the day.

 

[melodee]

Somedays, I'm feeling really good with my bun. I've fixed my makeup and put on terrific earrings. But I still don't get the attention I do with my hair down.

In fact today, I was in a deli and I was in the worst mood frowing, the whole bit. Still got flirted with.

As with Allandra, I look totally diff with my hair down or long.

 

[Babygurl]

I honestly get just as much attention with my hair in a bun as I do with it down. Im always sure to have the same confident air about me and Ive never really been treated different because of something as simple as a hairstyle. erplexed

 

[ShaniKeys]

I've had a similar experiment. I kinda have a Rihanna forehead (and am proud of it ) so when I started college I wanted to do something new with my hair (relaxed hair) so I got some bangs. I swear to God, the attention that I got from men tripled, some guy in a car asked me to go for a drink, on my first day of college!!!! I'll never forget that day, I guess I look different with the bangs, when they don't see my forehead lol

 

[melodee]

Interesting to get these responses.


If there is anyone who wants to do this experiment officially, please be sure to:

1) Have your face look exactly the same both times. Same makeup, glasses, same color contacts, earrings, everything the same

2) Be sure to exude confidence and happiness on both days. I agree, your attitude can make your day.

3) Dress the same on both days. If you can't wear the same outfit (which is ideal), wear something VERY similar. Don't wear a sexy dress one day and sweats the next.

Count the responses from men, or you can count men AND women

Count--glares, hellos, and additional pleasantries.

Do this yourself if you want, it would be nice to see the actual numbers.

 

[DDTexlaxed]

I've had a similar experiment. I kinda have a Rihanna forehead (and am proud of it ) so when I started college I wanted to do something new with my hair (relaxed hair) so I got some bangs. I swear to God, the attention that I got from men tripled, some guy in a car asked me to go for a drink, on my first day of college!!!! I'll never forget that day, I guess I look different with the bangs, when they don't see my forehead lol

girl, u kill me! Rihanna forehead! I bet you are very pretty and u don't need the bangs to get a man's attention.

 

[MonaLisa]

I honestly get just as much attention with my hair in a bun as I do with it down. Im always sure to have the same confident air about me and Ive never really been treated different because of something as simple as a hairstyle. erplexed

Cause we be walkin wit dat Aries ish girl, that's how we roll...
Folks can feel that ish...be like I don't know what it is....but I likes it...

 

[sareca]

I feel you. There are been many days I felt like crap and wore my hair down and got compliments all day. Keep in mind I was averting eye contact and trying to hide in plain sight. Still I got compliments. Days I feel beautiful, but have my hair bunned I get nothing.

 

[glamazon386]

Okay so I went out with my TWA today (dressed up with heels and my makeup on as usual) and I didn't get so much as glance from ANY men. I'm so not used to that happening. People always look. They might not say anything, but they definitely look. I'll be glad when I get my weave sunday. I can't wait until my hair grows back out...

ETA: However I did revisit the Noodlehead from Sally's and it worked pretty good. I'm glad I didn't throw it out when it didn't work for me before.

 

[Babygurl]

Cause we be walkin wit dat Aries ish girl, that's how we roll...
Folks can feel that ish...be like I don't know what it is....but I likes it...

I KNOW thats right, my mom (Aries too) told me about it before I was too young to even know what it was...we cant describe, but we got it!

 

[MonaLisa]

I KNOW thats right, my mom (Aries too) told me about it before I was too young to even know what it was...we cant describe, but we got it!

Gurl....sometimes.....it ain't too fun to have in New York though
*shudder*

One cat literally eye molested me at work when I was trying to get a cup of coffee (I felt like I needed a shower afterwards)

and this one *shudder* cat made a beeline for me while I was walking home...here I go stupidly trying to move out the way...and his arse is heading right for me...complimented me on my half wig and ev'rythang...
"Hey gorgeous...*mumbled*...with that pretty hair..."

*okay...back to the thread topic...

 

[ladytq]

I have to totally agree with you melodee. I wear my hair in bun all the time, and I get compliments here and there. When I wear my hair down people are looking at me with wonder . They comment like, "you have such pretty hair", "I did not know you had that much hair" you should alway wear your hair down. Then three days later it's back in a bun . Then everyone looks at me with horror and confusion, like way did you do that . I AM NOT MY HAIR !

P.S
Them and they are my co-workers.