MissLawyerLady
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This is a vent...
Now that I'm almost divorced, I've noticed that a lot of the single men my age (late 30's to 40's) in church are smiling all up in my face. Well, they are saved men, but that's about it. They don't have educations, they don't have lucrative jobs/careers, they don't own homes, many have criminal records, a ton of children (some of the older kids are felons), multiple baby mamas, bad health, bad physiques, and are not well groomed!
WHHHHY!
I understand that "a man who finds a wife finds a good thing" so I guess I need to sit back and be found, but good lawd...what I see makes me want to run!!!
I desperately do not want to be unevenly yoked again, but I meet a lot of men who are professionals, own homes, well-groomed, no kids, no criminal past, great bodies/health, except they aren't saved. They're not BAD men, but Christ is not the center of their lives. I give God the glory that I'm very educated, a professional, I own my home, I dress well, I'm physically fit, I don't have a criminal past, I have no kids and no drama. And even though a man is saved, I just can't see myself with someone who doesn't have the life experiences and aspirations that I have. I can tell you all that honestly, I have an attitude that these men even think they can look at me! Get a grip, us both being saved is not an equalizer as far as being potential mates!!!
Why is it that the scrubs are saved and the desirables are unsaved?!!!
Everytime I go to church and one of those saved men with nothing going for themselves, smiles at me I get very depressed. I feel like I rolled my eyes all through church today at the scrubs who were looking.
Is anybody else noticing this or is it just me?
Now that I'm almost divorced, I've noticed that a lot of the single men my age (late 30's to 40's) in church are smiling all up in my face. Well, they are saved men, but that's about it. They don't have educations, they don't have lucrative jobs/careers, they don't own homes, many have criminal records, a ton of children (some of the older kids are felons), multiple baby mamas, bad health, bad physiques, and are not well groomed!
WHHHHY!
I understand that "a man who finds a wife finds a good thing" so I guess I need to sit back and be found, but good lawd...what I see makes me want to run!!!
I desperately do not want to be unevenly yoked again, but I meet a lot of men who are professionals, own homes, well-groomed, no kids, no criminal past, great bodies/health, except they aren't saved. They're not BAD men, but Christ is not the center of their lives. I give God the glory that I'm very educated, a professional, I own my home, I dress well, I'm physically fit, I don't have a criminal past, I have no kids and no drama. And even though a man is saved, I just can't see myself with someone who doesn't have the life experiences and aspirations that I have. I can tell you all that honestly, I have an attitude that these men even think they can look at me! Get a grip, us both being saved is not an equalizer as far as being potential mates!!!
Why is it that the scrubs are saved and the desirables are unsaved?!!!
Everytime I go to church and one of those saved men with nothing going for themselves, smiles at me I get very depressed. I feel like I rolled my eyes all through church today at the scrubs who were looking.
Is anybody else noticing this or is it just me?
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