Just a quick rant.....I'm sitting at my moms table and she says:what if a year of you doing this your hair is still the same length? First of all 'this' is just me deep conditioning, washing once a week and moisturizing my hair daily. Nothing special, just normal hair practices. they did way more to my Hair at the salon.
YESS!!!! Exactly, at the bolded.
My mother says the same thing.... "Why you doing all this stuff to your hair....with all that you do to your hair it should be down to your butt by now"
O really mom?? I have all natural hair after my last relaxer less than 2 years ago....and it should be down to my butt *smh* And you know what "all the stuff I do to my hair" is??? Exactly what ur doing.
Deep condition Weekly.
Moisturize Daily.
So on the weekends when I'm deep conditioning, all I hear is... "You and your hair" "You wash your hair too much" "It's not gonna grow"
...And For some reason, she finds it strange that I choose to moisturize everyday lol. She actually says, wow...everyday....how do you keep that up?
After I tell her it's actually pretty normal to moisturize daily, she laughed and said "Well if that's normal, my hair must be suffering abuse, cause I do nothing to mine" That's the thing. Some people have a leave-it-alone policy and that works for them. But not everyone, and when she sees me trying to actively take care of my hair it does make her feel uncomfortable in comparison b/c now she feels like she's neglecting hers.
That's all it is.
But JUST DO YOU
Cause you know what? After about six months of doing what's best for me (no more hiding my natural hair under a weave, going pressed natural, moisturizing daily, and deep conditioning weekly) my mom surprised me by turning around and saying, "I wanna cut my hair off and start over"
I was shocked so I said "Why??" and she said "Your hair's so strong! I put my hands through it and it doesn't break off and feels so
healthy. It grew so much, you couldn't even put in in a ponytail some months ago and now you have a bun! Is that a fake natural ponytail? My friend at work had one, but it wasn't as big as yours. Your hair looks nice
It's like she's not even the same person.
Btw, my mom's relaxed, and I assured her she doesn't need to be natural to have strong, healthy hair, and encouraged her not give up finding what works for her.
I love my family and friends....but sometimes. they're. wrong.
Just do you.
apologize for the novel