Hello ladies,
@YvetteWithJoy @Shimmie @mrselle @bellatiamarie @newgrowth15
@Chicoro
I haven't posted on this board since April, because so much has occurred, but I just wanted to give yall an update.
Unfortunately and with great sadness, my mom passed away on May 12th--- the day before Mother's Day.
Let me just say that the entire months of April and May were practically a blur. I'll try to sum it up, but at one point, BOTH of my parents were admitted in the same hospital, on the same floor--in different rooms for one week!
My dad ultimately had to have his big toe amputated. My mom had the debridement surgery and spent 3 weeks in wound care/swing bed/rehab after her surgery.
Both of them were discharged on that Wednesday prior to Mother's Day. My mom passed away that Saturday before Mother's Day.
I've been through an array of emotions over the last few months, and I've come to understand that although we loved my mom, God loved her most. She is no longer in pain, so oddly for some reason, that makes me want to rejoice.
When my mom was first hospitalized she was given so much morphine and other drugs to manage her pain.
During one of her drug induced conversations, she started talking about her best friend who had passed away nearly 40 years earlier! I hadn't heard her mention her name in years, so that was a big shock.
I had a feeling then, that my mom may not recover, so it gave me time to really understand what was going on.
During my mom's last days in the swing bed, although she was in severe pain, I was able to spend the night with her, wash her hair, bought her nail polish, crossword puzzles and other things. I also rolled her outside in her wheelchair to get some sun and fresh air and allowed her to enjoy one of the most beautiful days of spring!
My only comfort throughout her loss is that she passed away in her own bed at home early that Saturday morning, with my dad at her side.
That Friday night the 11th, she had one of her favorite meals--a shrimp poboy from local cajun poboy joint.
Not soon afterwards, she wanted to go to bed early. My dad said she couldn't sleep because she was in so much pain. So he did what he could to help soothe her by rubbing her back.
Early that Saturday morning about 3am, she prepared my dad by letting him know by saying.."I'm okay now. I feel better, everything's going to be okay, so you get on the other side and get some rest".
He realized that morning when he woke up about 7am that she had passed away.
They were married 55 years.
Today is my mom's birthday.
While it has been difficult trying to live on without her and get through this day without her, I have this sense of calm knowing that she has earned her wings and is truly at peace.
In addition, miraculously my dad is doing quite well and is walking cane free, at age 81.
Actually he never even had to have walking assistance, and stated that he never was in any pain after his amputation! He also has been given a total discharge from his doctors, in spite of his amputation--no more weekly appointments.
Anyway, just wanted to give you all an update, and say Happy Birthday Mommy!
Thank you ladies once again for your prayers, it truly means a lot. God is STILL good!