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Today, I went to another beautician, this time for a consultation on my hair to possibly get it pressed out. I've talked to this lady before over the phone about me being natural and only wanting a temporary straightening. When I got to her shop, before I could even sit down good in the chair, she asked me what's holding me back from getting a texturizer/relaxer. I guess she thought I was gonna give her answers like damage and stuff but I straight up told her that I didn't want any chemical services. She then proceeds to pull apart my hair (I had my hair just like the first pic below in a banana clip) mentioning how dry it is. I was like, yeah I didn't put any moisturizer on it today. I wonder if she would've said it was dry if it was loaded with grease, but I digress. She started talking about how I needed a deep conditioner, blah blah blah-no problem, but then there came THE problem...
Now , my hair's in its natural state and I have color on it which may contribute to its frizziness/dryness. She then tells me that I need my ends clipped. Check this out yall. To prove her point, she takes a section of my hair and teases it with her hands, making it bunch up. The bunched section was 'damaged'
I was like, well anyone's hair could appear damaged in a bunched state. I remember when I used to get cornrolls they would tease my hair with a comb to get it full. I guess all of that was damaged,too. In my mind, I am like, no I don't. I let her talk about how if I don't clip them, then the splits will travel up to the shaft to the roots. I shook my head and explained to her that I have performed the split ends test and when I pulled the split, I broke off not even midway my shaft. No attitude, just explaining that I know enough about my hair. She blew it off. Then this lady who just got her hair styled by the beautician jumped all up and through our convo. Now usually, I brush things off and nod my head to let the other person know I HEAR them, not necessarily listening though and to not cause the offending party any embarrassment (sp?) but not today. This woman said ' girl, please let her tell you what you need done to your hair. I know it can be scary at first, but she knows what she's talking about and she's a good beautician (me thinking aren't they all? rolleyes). I gave this woman a look like, 'you know you are being ignored right?' And she shut up. Usually I would try to lessen the tension by listening and possibly agreeing but nah ah. I wanted her to feel embarrassed by my silence.
Anyway, the beautician tallied up my expense. Let's see, for the wash and press (which was all I wanted done, did she not hear me? ), the deep conditioning, AND the trimming my total came out to be $90.00. She then tells me that it's up to me to get my hair trimmed (really? It is? Then why are you STILL pressing the issue?) Just to hear what she would say eventhough my mind's made up about not coming to her, I asked her how much of my hair would she cut, just estimate. She was like I won't know until I press it out. Now wait- you just said my hair's damaged and it needs a good trimming while in it's natural state, why can't you estimate how much trimming I need? I laughed to myself. As I was about to leave I told her I would let her know if I wanted any of her services. She tried to schedule me for tomorrow, I said, no I will let you know. She then said, 'don't be afraid about letting those ends go.' I told her I wasn't. Now I could see if my hair was lifeless, thin and broken, but this is not the case at all. A good trimming won't solve any hair issues I have right now and it won't help with dryness, so what's the point?
I will continue to do my own hair until I meet Balisi. I mean, dang, why can't these women perform the services you ASK for? I mean, yeah, great you consulted me, but I am rejecting one of your services. Leave it alone, you know?
Now , my hair's in its natural state and I have color on it which may contribute to its frizziness/dryness. She then tells me that I need my ends clipped. Check this out yall. To prove her point, she takes a section of my hair and teases it with her hands, making it bunch up. The bunched section was 'damaged'
I was like, well anyone's hair could appear damaged in a bunched state. I remember when I used to get cornrolls they would tease my hair with a comb to get it full. I guess all of that was damaged,too. In my mind, I am like, no I don't. I let her talk about how if I don't clip them, then the splits will travel up to the shaft to the roots. I shook my head and explained to her that I have performed the split ends test and when I pulled the split, I broke off not even midway my shaft. No attitude, just explaining that I know enough about my hair. She blew it off. Then this lady who just got her hair styled by the beautician jumped all up and through our convo. Now usually, I brush things off and nod my head to let the other person know I HEAR them, not necessarily listening though and to not cause the offending party any embarrassment (sp?) but not today. This woman said ' girl, please let her tell you what you need done to your hair. I know it can be scary at first, but she knows what she's talking about and she's a good beautician (me thinking aren't they all? rolleyes). I gave this woman a look like, 'you know you are being ignored right?' And she shut up. Usually I would try to lessen the tension by listening and possibly agreeing but nah ah. I wanted her to feel embarrassed by my silence.Anyway, the beautician tallied up my expense. Let's see, for the wash and press (which was all I wanted done, did she not hear me? ), the deep conditioning, AND the trimming my total came out to be $90.00. She then tells me that it's up to me to get my hair trimmed (really? It is? Then why are you STILL pressing the issue?) Just to hear what she would say eventhough my mind's made up about not coming to her, I asked her how much of my hair would she cut, just estimate. She was like I won't know until I press it out. Now wait- you just said my hair's damaged and it needs a good trimming while in it's natural state, why can't you estimate how much trimming I need? I laughed to myself. As I was about to leave I told her I would let her know if I wanted any of her services. She tried to schedule me for tomorrow,
I said, no I will let you know. She then said, 'don't be afraid about letting those ends go.' I told her I wasn't. Now I could see if my hair was lifeless, thin and broken, but this is not the case at all. A good trimming won't solve any hair issues I have right now and it won't help with dryness, so what's the point?I will continue to do my own hair until I meet Balisi. I mean, dang, why can't these women perform the services you ASK for? I mean, yeah, great you consulted me, but I am rejecting one of your services. Leave it alone, you know?
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when it comes to beauticians; ones with short hair generally give you a cut when you ask for (or were pressured into) a trim. I'm glad you left
. Try a beautician who works with clients with long and/or natural hair like yours.
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Anyway I finally calm down and go in and she sits down and wants to have a talk with me. She proceeded to tell me that I had was making an IDOL out of my hair which was displeasing to the Lord. When she proceeded to tell me that I need a trim, I said I didn't want one and she proceeded to say that it was not my place to ask for what I needed. She tried to compare her job as a beautician to me studying to become a pharmacist. She said she doesn't argue with a doctor if he tells her she needs something done and I should do the same with her!! I'm thinking $@*#! I'm paying you for a service for my HAIR not brain surgery!!! At the end of the day I have to live with it NOT YOU. Then she proceeds to pray over my hair with me. I'm thinking to myself- Why don't you pray that God helps you get to work on time!!!
