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Idk...give them the stank face? :perplexed

Or be extra cautious(:sekret:) around others and give everybody near you the side-eye.(:eye:)

Then again you could just wear your hair up most of the time...:scratchch



IMO,Weave checks are just the unavoidable side effects of having long, lush, full, healthy, gawjus hair like yours!!! :kiss3:
 
Maybe you could pretend you got some real bad relaxer burns or just a very sore scalp and drop hints that it hurts for your hair to be tugged too hard, or at all!

I don't know how you can drop the hints subtly but you can just pretend to be in minor discomfort then when they ask just bring it up like 'oh its just my scalp has been acting really sore because (such and such) happened, I'm just going to apply some tea tree oil and try to leave my scalp/hair alone for a long time...I hope nobody touches it because I might scream in pain"

lol sorry for the long winded answer just trying to float some ideas :)
 
How about just asking incredulously "DID you weave check me?" Once you get a rep they'll leave you alone.
 
Just write it on the back of your name tag. On the front, write your name. On the back, so you can flash people who need the message, write Yes, it's mine.
 
LOL at some of the responses........Don't have any tips, just wanted to drop in and say your hair is gorgeous! Question though, did she put her hands in your hair? Now that's something I'm completely uncomfortable with, especially with non-family members/friends. Pastor's wife or not, don't be puttin' yo' hands all up in my hair like that!! I know a chick who got weave checked before. The broad who was checking for weave was all up in the girl's scalp, digging around feeling for tracks and everything.:nono:
 
How exactly did she weave check you?


On another point...what if you WERE wearing a weave? What if she weave checked you and a track slipped out. What then? Is that the purpose of a weave check? I don't understand. I'd just rather ask the person than to tug on someone's hair.
 
I would "weave check" them right back..

Take my hand and massage it all up in her tracks and then give her a :look:, then wipe my hand on her sleeve or something...

That will teach folks to keep their hands to themselves... :lachen:
 
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Perfect the head jerk move. You know, as soon as the hand comes towards you, jerk your head away real sharply.
 
I truly never understood....why people would want to put their hands all up in someone else's hair....I mean not that their hair is not clean...but whose to say it is....Just weirds me out....as short as my hair is people always ask can I touch it...and I always have this look of Why??? :look: and they can't be weave checking mine...it's not long enough....But at least they ask I guess

I have no advice ...But I do like the response above from Sasha299 "Did you just weave check me" that cracked me up....
 
Gin said:
I would "weave check" them right back..

Take my hand and massage it all up in her tracks and then give her a :look:, then wipe my hand on her sleeve or something...

That will teach folks to keep their hands to themselves... :lachen:
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^^^^^ i love this!

as for me......i just say in a joking voice (but i'm not joking) "wow. that was really rude. hahahaha. good thing i don't have head lice. hahahahaha. you would've left my head with a big surprise. hahahahaha."

the key here is that you have to look like you are joking. laugh and put your arm around the person, etc. though you both know you are TOTALLY not joking.
 
also, sometimes i just dip down and do a duck and cover. i can't stand people all in my head. wtf?!
 
Once they have already checked you, then there is really no need to say anything since they likey will not do it again. You need prevention from those that haven't done it yet. The only way that I can think of is to wear your hair in a style that either prevents fingers from touching your scalp (up-do or bun) OR a style that clearly shows the hair is yours (half up parted ear to ear or flat twisted front with back down parted over the crown).
 
LadyRaider said:
Just write it on the back of your name tag. On the front, write your name. On the back, so you can flash people who need the message, write Yes, it's mine.
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You wear names tags at your church? :look:

Sorry OP I have no suggestions because I don't mind being weave checked

I used to tell people I had lice though then they would just look at me real disgusting-like...but they would stop touching my head.
 
Laughing while you say "Don't weave check me! You know it's mine!" is enough to get the message across. It's not a question. You both know she was doing it, and if you say something, she'll definitely understand that you know what she was doing and you do NOT like it.
I've been getting weave checked all my life- when I was young and my own hair was WL, and now that my hair is SL and I'm actually wearing a weave. The direct approach is best. Ironically it didn't bother me then, I was happy to show them it was mine. Now I get all kinds of pissed lol.

Sigh...can't wait till I have long hair again...maybe then my attitude will change again...floats off to dreamland...
 
As soon as you see the hand coming you need to move your head back or push their hand away. Then tell them you dont like people touching your hair.

If you allow them to scalp massage you then you tell them it bothers you, its too late cause they already got their "feels" in.

Your hair is gorgeous so I can see how its hard for people to resist but it really is violating your personal space.
 
havilland said:
^^^^^ i love this!

as for me......i just say in a joking voice (but i'm not joking) "wow. that was really rude. hahahaha. good thing i don't have head lice. hahahahaha. you would've left my head with a big surprise. hahahahaha."

the key here is that you have to look like you are joking. laugh and put your arm around the person, etc. though you both know you are TOTALLY not joking.
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I love it! I would say, "Girl that lice comb I just used works wonders!" I bet that would be the LAST time she would put her hands in your head or anyone elses
 
I'm 5'2", so until I came to LHCF I just thought people grabbed my head while trying to hug me:ohwell: Unless you dodge all hugs, they can give you the stealth scalp massage, or pretend that their hand caught on your hair!

I still don't understand why it matters to outsiders so much.
 
when my hair was longer, i used to get weave checked all the time...even if they didnt grab it, i would get people saying my hair was a great weave...
that didnt bother me much (cause if it was a weave,so what..its mine), but just touching my hair i dont like so much....:nono:
i think also because my hair is red, people want to touch it: "is it weave"? "is it dyed"?
its all annoying.
i havent found a way to stop people from "wanting" to touch it, but what i usually do when i see them reaching out to touch it is act sort of excited and talk using my hands. I "accidentally" block them.:lachen:
In a situation like church, if they are reaching, move in closer and just hug them...lol then back away and dont give them the chance to touch check your hair.
 
In your specific case, I don't think the minister's wife was weave checking you, but more or less admiring your hair because of the recent loss of her own. I'm sure she knew your hair was undeniably real.

Since my hair is not that long nor thick yet, I am always flattered by a weave check. LOL

Even when I was just chin length, a guy I was dating reached up and began massaging my scalp at an opportune time and wouldn't quit. I pulled back and asked him what was wrong and he said he was "just checking". I admit I was having a great hair day and it was freshly styled and unbelievably thick, so I didn't mind too much. He was just too bold with it.

Then yesterday at church, I was wearing my 2 inch shy APL-ish hair loose and all of a sudden I feel a tug. At first I ignore it, since I think my hair must be caught against the back of the bench or on my clothes, but the tug is insistent, so I turn around. And lo and behold, the 40-something woman behind me is resting her hand all up in my hair on my shoulder and once caught asks me if I'm saved during the altar call. I said "Yeah and how about you?" She grinned sheepishly and I pushed my hair back in place.

I always thought that it was off limits for people to touch BW's hair so I don't know why people feel it's ok now. Also, until I have officially thicker, longer hair, I can't get too indignant about it, so I just try to keep it in a bun and KIM.
 
That's craziness, church lady or not you could very politely tell her "Yes it's all mine.", when she pulls away and smile that not so nice but still polite smile. She knows what she did, you know what she did, if she tries to protest she knows she'll look a fool and you won't have to say a word more since she'll likely spread it to some other grab-hands who might be thinking about it.

Still, how rude. Doesn't she know the 13th of the Lord's commandments and the LHCF's #1 commandment "Though shall not weave check thy neighbor?"

Shame shame.
 
can't imagine trying to weave check someone.....i've wondered if someone HAD a weave, but never would think to check...why not just ask?!?!?!?
hmmm as for how to handle in the future...dunno that you'll always be able to see it coming...ie the person who got weave checked from someone behind her in church....
if that is the case, what can you do?
If you do see it coming...defensive move and ask...is there something you want to know about my hair? Or please don't touch my hair, or...something like that...
Good luck with the Pastors wife.
 
Try wearing this shirt
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If that doesn't work, a sock full of quarters usually does the trick LOL

belldandy said:
No more hugs.

?? otherwise people are gonna try. that hair is too tempting.
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Yeah no offense. That third picture made me reach for my screen. I tried weave checking you, my bad.
 
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