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My Start to Healthy Hair - Any Suggestions?

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PinkyRang

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I am new to LHCF, But I have posted a few times since joining but not on anything hair related. All my life I had nice hair and what I considered long at the time. In September of last year I let a family friend do my hair, now she didn't do anything chemical related, it was just a wash, blow dry and curl, so I thought. Before I go into the story I have to give you a little background, I always went to get my hair done regularly and my stylist was always into the health of my hair more so than the style. As I grew up I wanted to experiment with color and dye and so she always completed these services for me. All throughout high school, I had my semi-permanent color on my hair (Bigen Xpressives) and usually I would put highlights on that color. I have had a relaxer for a really long time so that was not anything new either. During this time my hair grew and I was able to maintain my length which was about APL, I would cut (not trim, but cut) my hair at least once a year to about SL and above so that I could add definition to my hair. It always grew out so quickly and I never had any problems.

That is until I let a family friend do my hair. All she was supposed to do was wash, blow dry and curl my hair. I never in a million years could have imagined the damage she would do with just one visit and not a single chemical process being done to my head. The curls looked nice but there was something just not right with what she did to my hair. I couldn't exactly put my finger on it either. She detangled roughly (I didn't know what I know now), she was going to clip my ends (she cut my BSB hair to a little below NL). To shorten the length of this post I will just state that basically what all she did not cut eventually fell out. Literally, I would comb my hair and it would come out in the comb, I would touch my hair and it would come out in my hands. I was devastated because all along I had a mentality that it was just hair but that was only because my hair was always nice. Not just length wise but healthy also, I always got compliments and there was nothing special in mind because it was always basically straight. I would get my hair flat ironed and I would wrap my hair to maintain the style until my next salon visit. Literally, men would drive up next to me and tell me how nice my hair was. I miss that (my nice hair not necessarily the attention)

So I have learned a lesson. My hair is finally back on track thanks to my stylist who would basically remind me weekly to come in (she decreased the price of my visits during this time just so she could get my hair back on track). She did several dc/protein treatments and low heat hairstyles to get my hair to the point where I wasn't scared to comb it myself. I am finally at that point, but now I am starting my journey not because I am not thankful for what she did but because I need to build my own knowledge about products and what my hair does or does not like so if she ever stops doing hair (like she did when her son was in a life threating auto accident where he lost the use of his legs and had to have one amputated) I will be able to train my sister to do my services or do them on my own.

I wanted to post pictures of the day I officially started my journey in my mind, June 18, 2011. I had a trim and this was the last time my hair has been straightened and probably will be until I get my next relaxer in August. Tell me what do you guys think?
 

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Welcome!

I think your hair looks great and you are of to a good start. My advice will be to remember that each head of hair is different. Don't hope on every bandwagon just because you think it would yield more results. Focus on the health of your hair and the length will come. Good luck!
 
Your hair is beautiful, thick and shiny. Your stylist is one in a million supportive and selfless. I recommend DCing with heat, head massages and maintaining your moisture levels. On YouTube there are some helpful videos on maintaining your different hair textures when stretching between touchups by sexymami1001. She has done some phenomenal stetches.
 
Aww man, sorry to hear that. ((HUG))

Welcome and good luck with your journey! IA, you're at a nice starting point.
 
flexi rods, straw sets, roller sets are your friends.

It's funny you mention this because I plan to wear roller sets for the rest of the year when I do my weekly wash. Although, I will have a sew in at some point in September when I go on my cruise, a B-day gift to my mom.
 
See if your stylist would be willing to educate you, seems like you guys have a good relationship. Find out what products she uses, if it's for moisture or strength, when and how should it be used etc... That would help you if you ever have to do your hair yourself.
 
When I went away to undergrad, she advised me on certain products to use for myself which helped me to keep my hair healthy until I graduated. I would only get relaxers on breaks. When her son was sick I went back to doing my own hair and it was really long with all of my new growth but my mom kept nagging me about getting a relaxer and basically forced me, another friend of the family relaxed my hair from root to tip, after she got done shampooing me, I left with the conditioner on my head and and washed it out on my own and did my own hair. Also this was a point in time when I trimmed my own ends and hadn't had a cut in about 3 months and I missed it (how I would wish for those moments again). The only difference is she wasn't licensed and I had my own products. Maybe that's why my hair didn't suffer as much with the bad chemical process then it did with just a basic shampoo. I am still dumbfounded as to what she did to my hair to this day and that was almost a year ago. But you live and learn. I still plan on going to the salon regularly just because my stylist would have a panic attack if she couldn't check on my hair(she would do it for free, no questions asked just to make sure it stayed on my head). I forgot to mention the color I had in my hair when I the stylist in the first story wrecked my hair was Cream of Nature. So I right now I am working on getting an at home regimen that will work for me. Whenever I buy something new for my hair, she looks into the ingredients or recommends products for my hair. But, I am trying to focus on understanding why and that's what I have been learning from the boards. She also did things to my hair that I mimicked while at school that I did not realize were to protect my hair. Like putting a serum on my hair before flat irons to protect my ends. She also puts a reconstructor on my hair after a relaxer but before the shampoo if it makes any sense. I read about someone on here doing that and how great results they got and I was amazed because I never realized why she did that (I still don't) but it works like a champ for my hair.
 
Your stylist is great she does all the right things and she really cares. If I had found one like her I would still be using salons.

From your opening post it sounds like your friend didn't use a serum and fried your hair. Your hair shouldn't have broke that badly with non-chemical processes or maybe she used a heavy duty protein.

Check out Africurl's and YouTube also. There's a great yoghurt and Indian herbal stretching video for maintaining different textures on YouTube.

I keep talking about the joys of Camellia Japonica Oil, this is pure liquid gold which also acts like a serum. Check it out it is a bit pricey but it is worth the money.
 
I don't know enough yet to give you tips since I am still new but sorry to hear what happened and your hair looks super healthy and shiny!
 
Welcome to the Forum and Congrats on your journey to hair health and knowledge. I think that your hair is absolutely beautiful and I look forward to seeing your progress in the future.
SDW
 
Hi and welcome to LHCF,

Your story was very detailed and I enjoyed reading it (your writing style, not your bad experience ;)) . Anyway, before I finished reading it my guess was that the family friend had roughly handled your hair. Damage can happen in the blink of an eye if someone is mishandling your hair. It's nice to hear that you're back on track, and even nicer that your stylist discounted your salon visits so that she could treat your hair weekly.

We're glad to have you. There's a lot of valuable information here.
 
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