My Man Discovered My Stash

[ArrrBeee]

I told him a few months ago that I am a compulsive shopper. He didn't think it was a big deal. I said that I would slow down and try not to hoard things.

I hoard because when I was growing up our house was not adequately stocked.

So yesterday he needed some shampoo and decided to look under the sink. The discovery under one sink lead him to another sink. Which then lead to another bathroom and then another and then another.

I have hair products under 4 different sinks. He called me on the phone and he was really calm but told me that I do not need to buy anything else. I agreed but that still didn't stop me from looking at conditioner when I went to TJ Maxx. I didn't buy anything though. I have a hard time passing up good deals .

 

[Odd One]

Are you using up those products? do you have a stable regimen and know what works for your hair? STOP BUYING STUFF! LOL

When your ashamed to let the people you love know what you have been buying, you know youve gone TOO FAR!

 

[Bigghair]

Omgosh. I love looking at new hair stuff and trying new stuff too , but not like that. Try not to buy anything else until you use what you have.

 

[ceebee3]

OMG! You need to get this in check, I grew up with a hoarder mother. Her thing was clothes. Clothes all over, with the tags still on! She still does it!!!!!

 

[darlingdiva]

Dang, girl!!! I'm so sorry that he found your stash. You should try and use up what you have, though--especially if it will work with your hair.

My obsession is handbags--and the real ones at that. I have a few handbags that he doesn't know about.

As for hair products I only buy the stuff that I need, but I like to buy in bulk. That's why I never organize the top shelf in the bathroom--so that he won't see how much stuff is really there.

 

[Loves Harmony]

OMG! You need to get this in check, I grew up with a hoarder mother. Her thing was clothes. Clothes all over, with the tags still on! She still does it!!!!!

Thats me... Im so ashamed......

 

[ArrrBeee]

Yeah I am getting a handle on it. Since I had some breakage and issues I decided to change products and procedures. I really am going to not buy anything until I run out of something (ie leave in condish).

 

[tiffers]

Try giving away the stuff you don't like and the stuff you haven't used for 3 or more months. I stay giving my friends all kinds of stuff to keep myself from becoming overwhelmed by products

 

[chebaby]

me too. im a hoarder and its starting to make me feel bad. but i like buying hair products. my SO calls me crazy in a joking way so i dont really know how he feels about it.

 

[lowridin76]

I'm this way about a lot of things. For me though, it's mostly shopping as a coping mechanism, which is pretty bad.

 

[Supergirl]

So you mean to tell me that as long as you've been on this board, he is just now discovering your stash?!

Girl, congratulations--you've done well!!!!

 

[AllieCat0817]

I am an OCD hoarder too.

 

[shenitab]

Ya'll know this is a serious issue right? Me and my other half have different issues. There are certain things that he does not want to throw away: receipts, bills, tax returns, ticket stubs, concert stubs. Now it is good to be organized and keep your receipts and stuff. I do admit he has saved our heiny's a couple of times. Stores saying we did not purchase a warranty, etc. But I think he keeps stuff too long. And I just couldn't understand why he would keep all the movie ticket stubs and stuff - stuff I just through away. Well, when he was young, his family moved a whole lot. I think his mom was really struggling. One year he went to 7 different schools. To top it off, he only has one childhood picture of himself. She lost them all. I couldn't believe it. Anyway, I think he holds on to all this stuff now because of that.
It's really crazy that we all have things from childhood that can affect us negatively now. Now that I understand why he is like that, I am more tolerant of his behavior and more patient when I talk to him about it.
Ha, I do have some impulse buying and overindulging the kids issues of my own that he is pretty patient with.

 

[ceebee3]

Kind of off topic, but you should have him start scanning things and saving to disc then shred all the old stuff. It worked wonders for all my papers.

 

[SelahOco]

My mom is a hoarder too...of EVERYTHING!!!! Her house is a warehouse. I'm cheap but I like buying stuff too...so I tend to purchase the cheap eyeliner from walgreens when I have an urge to "hoard." I hardly wear make-up but I have tons of eyeliner.

 

[cookie1]

I'm a PJ when it comes to haircare. I have every shampoo and conditoner imaginable and I have so much there's things in my bath towel closet from 2 years ago. I try to use a little of everything and when I get some sense- I realize I can't and give some to my sisters. I tell myself I'm buying certain things because it's the only way to find what will work for my hair. When my guy see me walk in with bags from Ulta, Sally's and Walmart he just shakes his head. He's like "We need a new house for you hair stuff".

 

[SimpleKomplexity]

My hair stash is steadily growing and my hair length is slowly growing. I need to chill.

OP, just go over to the Hair exchange board and get rid of your extras...then you can buy more!

 

[natstar]

I like the idea of giving some stuff away that u havent used in a a while --lets say close to a year. Try to throw it out, give it away or sell it. What helped me (a little) was putting all of my hair care stuff in one roller basket. Its fairly large-but small enough to fit in my small closet. I put all of my products in that basket. If it can't fit in there- I know I have way too much. (Same with bath body products-which are my ultimate weakness...

Also- I hate buying stuff that doesn't work for me so that helps. I tend to hoard staples of anything-favorite lip gloss, hair products, fav shirts etc. Just try to do some spring cleaning and organize stuff so everything is one location and u can see what is crap and what u should keep