Maintaing creditability...

[ljones4521]

Ladies, how do you do it? My family believes I have gone absolutely bizerk (is that a word). They were so relieved when a year or two ago I fell off of the band wagon and stopped my obsession with my hair (due to a difficult pregnancy and a 3 month premature delivery followed by 6 months hospitalization).

I am back and hopefully, I will have healthier hair by December. Problem is the other day I pulled up to the local organic store to grab, not groceries, but products. My sons says to me, "Mom, can you grab me some fruit?" I responded, "Oh, no honey. Mama doesn't have enough money for that. I am here to get a few things for my hair." When I returned to the car I had black molasses, honey, mayonnaise, bannana, baby bannas, essential oils, almond oil, coconut oil, EVOO, etc. He says to me, "Mama, I thought you were getting stuff for you hair." I responded, "I did. This is all for my hair." We drove home in silence. He didnt' say a word.

When we got home I asked him to grab a bag out of the trunk and take it upstairs to my bedroom while I put my products away. While upstairs he read the labels. You are wondering which labels,huh? The lables that refer to the prodcuts as "equine"/for horses! He gathers all of of my stuff (rejuvinator, avocado mist, detangler and premier shampoo) and heads downstairs to the basement where I overhear him telling his father and brother that something has to be done. Mama is using stuff for horses now and she refers to food as "products". Food is food and horses are horses he says. My husband comes upstairs and tells me we have to talk.

It's only a matter of hours before the entire family is made aware of my product usage and I am committed to the nut house.

So, back to my original question. How do we maintain creditability? How do we convince our loving families that our approach to healthy hair is ...healthy? How do I maintain my image of the mother who has it together, knows it all, is the bedrock of the family, stable, intelligent etc? How?

BTW, if ever I just stop posting it is becuase my husband would have discovered that I intend to apply MN to my hair and not where it should be. I am confident that will be the last straw and I'll promptly be fitted for a custom straight white jacket.

Lisa in Hanover, MD

 

[JustKiya]

*falls over on the floor laughing*



Okay. First thing you have to do is find a website that is selling those 'all natural' products for 50-11 hundred dollars, and point out to your darling husband how much money you are saving by mixing your own, with pure ingredients.

As far as the horse stuff goes, point on that it says that it's safe for human use on there, and that you have a couple hundred sista's backing you up on that one.



You on your own with the MN though.

Personally, I fessed up on the horse stuff before DH 'stumbled' across it. He gave me the side-eye, but let me be.
The food stuff, I start running down the scietific benefits and studies, as well as the cost/benefit analysis, and he rolls his eyes, gets bored, and leaves me be.

Though, he will ask me if I'm cooking or doing hair alchemy when he sees me headed for the kitchen.

 

[Everything Zen]

Ladies, how do you do it? My family believes I have gone absolutely bizerk (is that a word). They were so relieved when a year or two ago I fell off of the band wagon and stopped my obsession with my hair (due to a difficult pregnancy and a 3 month premature delivery followed by 6 months hospitalization).

I am back and hopefully, I will have healthier hair by December. Problem is the other day I pulled up to the local organic store to grab, not groceries, but products. My sons says to me, "Mom, can you grab me some fruit?" I responded, "Oh, no honey. Mama doesn't have enough money for that. I am here to get a few things for my hair." When I returned to the car I had black molasses, honey, mayonnaise, bannana, baby bannas, essential oils, almond oil, coconut oil, EVOO, etc. He says to me, "Mama, I thought you were getting stuff for you hair." I responded, "I did. This is all for my hair." We drove home in silence. He didnt' say a word.

When we got home I asked him to grab a bag out of the trunk and take it upstairs to my bedroom while I put my products away. While upstairs he read the labels. You are wondering which labels,huh? The lables that refer to the prodcuts as "equine"/for horses! He gathers all of of my stuff (rejuvinator, avocado mist, detangler and premier shampoo) and heads downstairs to the basement where I overhear him telling his father and brother that something has to be done. Mama is using stuff for horses now and she refers to food as "products". Food is food and horses are horses he says. My husband comes upstairs and tells me we have to talk.

It's only a matter of hours before the entire family is made aware of my product usage and I am committed to the nut house.

So, back to my original question. How do we maintain creditability? How do we convince our loving families that our approach to healthy hair is ...healthy? How do I maintain my image of the mother who has it together, knows it all, is the bedrock of the family, stable, intelligent etc? How?

BTW, if ever I just stop posting it is becuase my husband would have discovered that I intend to apply MN to my hair and not where it should be. I am confident that will be the last straw and I'll promptly be fitted for a custom straight white jacket.

Lisa in Hanover, MD

Welcome Lisa First off DANG couldn't you buy the boy just one little piece of fruit?! Not but seriously, it sounds like you might be a little obsessed. If you'll notice on the board in time people realize that the ones with the best hair are often the ones that do the least to it. Although there are some serious PJs on here that I wouldn never be able to compete with, I try to use things up before trying something else (It helps that I shampoo every couple of days if not every day and I like the variety this brings). I only tell people about the forum when they ask me about my hair.
Patience and a solid hair care regimen are all you need.

Happy Hair Growing!

 

[Christa438]

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When we got home I asked him to grab a bag out of the trunk and take it upstairs to my bedroom while I put my products away. While upstairs he read the labels. You are wondering which labels,huh? The lables that refer to the prodcuts as "equine"/for horses! He gathers all of of my stuff (rejuvinator, avocado mist, detangler and premier shampoo) and heads downstairs to the basement where I overhear him telling his father and brother that something has to be done. Mama is using stuff for horses now and she refers to food as "products". Food is food and horses are horses he says. My husband comes upstairs and tells me we have to talk.
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So, back to my original question. How do we maintain creditability? How do we convince our loving families that our approach to healthy hair is ...healthy? How do I maintain my image of the mother who has it together, knows it all, is the bedrock of the family, stable, intelligent etc? How?...

Lisa in Hanover, MD

First i must
Okay tell your family that you have a healthy hair regimen that requires organic products. Tell them you can also order these products or buy from the bss but it's cheaper to just make your own. Other than that, Im sorry the fam doesn't have to know EVERYTHING. They will not understand EVERYTHING. Hurry up and mix that MN and throw the tube & package out, lol I leave no traces behind when it comes to that. The only people that understand why I do ALL of what I do (which isn't that much to me) are right here on lhcf.

 

[Eisani]

The best way to maintain your credibility is to let the results speak for themselves and if all else fails, hide your products, cover labels, and use "commercial" hair product bottles for your real stuff

 

[naturalgurl]

LOL! I must say, I too am a PJ. But not the typical one. At least from the way it's defined here. I also buy avocados, olive oil, coconut oil, castor oil, molasses, eggs, coconut milk, etc. etc. I use nothing but edible stuff in my hair because my opinion is, we use food to make hair, why not use it to strengthen and maintain it. So you're not alone little mama. I get my "products" from the produce and cooking aisles too! LOL!

 

[HoneyA]

OMG! ROFL!
Your family sounds really concerned ***still****
I'll post later when I get it together and stop laughing long enough to type.

 

[Mook's hair]

The best way to maintain your credibility is to let the results speak for themselves and if all else fails, hide your products, cover labels, and use "commercial" hair product bottles for your real stuff

I was thinking the same thing... You should put stuff in blank jars or in commercial jars & bottles.

Don't bother fighting with them about it though. You may enen want to acknowledge their feelings/opinions. I think that will help keep you from the nut-house.

It would also help if you bought the fruit for your kid to eat too. That might help keep you from appearing to be cookoo!

 

[SheenaVee]

you should have given the poor boy one of the bananas you bought at least! lol!

 

[Gracie]

Guuuuuuuuuuuuuurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrlllllllllllllllll....hide them!!! Go to the BSS and get applicator bottles. use old empty haircare bottles. Get rid of the original packaging...put them in your purse and throw them away somewhere away from home.

 

[vkb247]

I just wanted to say that I love going to the grocery store for my 'products' 2

Groceries are 5% off on Wednesdays here so I am there every week getting something especially because I have just started wearing my own hair out/I am a pj/I am trying to find a few staples instead of using 7-8 products for the results I want/the store has a great oil selection

honestly more than half of what I buy is for my hair..last time I wen shopping with my mom and I was trying to decide whether or not to get some milk she said,

"Is that for your hair, too?"

Me: "Yes."

Mom: "I was actually joking when I asked that."

Nobody really wants to hear about my hair obsession so I am waiting for it to be long and beautiful then maybe they will realize I knew what I was talking about and I'm not crazy.

I am always in the grocery store. I know the cashiers are wondering why they see me so often erplexed

 

[d-rock]

Awww... that's so cute, he didn't understand that a lot of food products are used in health care products. Your husband, on the other hand, should have have known that. Sure DH be all compliments when that "food" turns your hair into luscious locs.

 

[d-rock]

Ladies, how do you do it? My family believes I have gone absolutely bizerk (is that a word). They were so relieved when a year or two ago I fell off of the band wagon and stopped my obsession with my hair (due to a difficult pregnancy and a 3 month premature delivery followed by 6 months hospitalization).

I am back and hopefully, I will have healthier hair by December. Problem is the other day I pulled up to the local organic store to grab, not groceries, but products. My sons says to me, "Mom, can you grab me some fruit?" I responded, "Oh, no honey. Mama doesn't have enough money for that. I am here to get a few things for my hair." When I returned to the car I had black molasses, honey, mayonnaise, bannana, baby bannas, essential oils, almond oil, coconut oil, EVOO, etc. He says to me, "Mama, I thought you were getting stuff for you hair." I responded, "I did. This is all for my hair." We drove home in silence. He didnt' say a word.

When we got home I asked him to grab a bag out of the trunk and take it upstairs to my bedroom while I put my products away. While upstairs he read the labels. You are wondering which labels,huh? The lables that refer to the prodcuts as "equine"/for horses! He gathers all of of my stuff (rejuvinator, avocado mist, detangler and premier shampoo) and heads downstairs to the basement where I overhear him telling his father and brother that something has to be done. Mama is using stuff for horses now and she refers to food as "products". Food is food and horses are horses he says. My husband comes upstairs and tells me we have to talk.

It's only a matter of hours before the entire family is made aware of my product usage and I am committed to the nut house.

So, back to my original question. How do we maintain creditability? How do we convince our loving families that our approach to healthy hair is ...healthy? How do I maintain my image of the mother who has it together, knows it all, is the bedrock of the family, stable, intelligent etc? How?

BTW, if ever I just stop posting it is becuase my husband would have discovered that I intend to apply MN to my hair and not where it should be. I am confident that will be the last straw and I'll promptly be fitted for a custom straight white jacket.

Lisa in Hanover, MD

Proof is in the pudding. When the condition of your hair improves they'll know what caused it.