Ladies, tell me I'm not the only one...

[LoveLiLi]

I'm transitioning and although I'm getting used to my new hair, I still have bad days. I feel like my hair is controlling me instead of the other way around. I have started to refer to my hair as if it were a person and I started calling it by name before I could stop myself .

Its/her name is Mama Afrika (I like it with the k, it gives her personality). I feel crazy for admitting this, but I was hoping there was someone else who has the same habit.

 

[Nice & Wavy]

You are not alone. I remember when I was transisitioning, i felt the same way at times....my natural sections would always wave/curl upwards and I couldn't stand it at times. I had to literally put alot Fantasia IC gel on my hair, just to hold it down...and it worked, but I had alot of buildup afterwards, so I had to clarify alot.

 

[Bublin]

Hello

My name is Jafro - i belong to Bublin.

The day she stopped straightening me with that white stuff was a God send. I started to grow out of a healthy scalp but what a shock - she went and shaved me off - literally to within an inch of my life - what a shocker....nope, she couldn't transition me - oh no - she has no patience whatsoever.

But a year down the line I now have a beautiful texture but am very thick and my front end won't grow like the back which means Bublin is having a hard time putting me into a ponytail - i find it really funny , watching her get frustrated with me.
I don't mean it, i just choose to grow unevenly - its my prerogative. Besides i have decided not to give her loads of split ends and she has great curls.
I am a bit dry but that's because she doesn't moisturise me often enough. Maybe if she did my front end would grow - hint hint.
She's also abit boring - i mean - enough already of the wash n go's. Give me some style baby!
I shouldn't speak badly of her - really - i mean, she does pay me alot of attention - she's always doing co-washes and giving my hair lots of different products - everyday is like Christmas - i never know what present she'll give me next.

erplexed

 

[Anancy]

Hello

My name is Jafro - i belong to Bublin.

The day she stopped straightening me with that white stuff was a God send. I started to grow out of a healthy scalp but what a shock - she went and shaved me off - literally to within an inch of my life - what a shocker....nope, she couldn't transition me - oh no - she has no patience whatsoever.

But a year down the line I now have a beautiful texture but am very thick and my front end won't grow like the back which means Bublin is having a hard time putting me into a ponytail - i find it really funny , watching her get frustrated with me.
I don't mean it, i just choose to grow unevenly - its my prerogative. Besides i have decided not to give her loads of split ends and she has great curls.
I am a bit dry but that's because she doesn't moisturise me often enough. Maybe if she did my front end would grow - hint hint.
She's also abit boring - i mean - enough already of the wash n go's. Give me some style baby!
I shouldn't speak badly of her - really - i mean, she does pay me alot of attention - she's always doing co-washes and giving my hair lots of different products - everyday is like Christmas - i never know what present she'll give me next.

erplexed

Ha ha haaaa love it!!

 

[LoveLiLi]

I see you understand what I mean, Bublin.

 

[RubyWoo]

Hello

My name is Jafro - i belong to Bublin.

The day she stopped straightening me with that white stuff was a God send. I started to grow out of a healthy scalp but what a shock - she went and shaved me off - literally to within an inch of my life - what a shocker....nope, she couldn't transition me - oh no - she has no patience whatsoever.

But a year down the line I now have a beautiful texture but am very thick and my front end won't grow like the back which means Bublin is having a hard time putting me into a ponytail - i find it really funny , watching her get frustrated with me.
I don't mean it, i just choose to grow unevenly - its my prerogative. Besides i have decided not to give her loads of split ends and she has great curls.
I am a bit dry but that's because she doesn't moisturise me often enough. Maybe if she did my front end would grow - hint hint.
She's also abit boring - i mean - enough already of the wash n go's. Give me some style baby!
I shouldn't speak badly of her - really - i mean, she does pay me alot of attention - she's always doing co-washes and giving my hair lots of different products - everyday is like Christmas - i never know what present she'll give me next.

erplexed

! This is hilarious!!!

 

[snugglez41685]

Hello

My name is Jafro - i belong to Bublin.

The day she stopped straightening me with that white stuff was a God send. I started to grow out of a healthy scalp but what a shock - she went and shaved me off - literally to within an inch of my life - what a shocker....nope, she couldn't transition me - oh no - she has no patience whatsoever.

But a year down the line I now have a beautiful texture but am very thick and my front end won't grow like the back which means Bublin is having a hard time putting me into a ponytail - i find it really funny , watching her get frustrated with me.
I don't mean it, i just choose to grow unevenly - its my prerogative. Besides i have decided not to give her loads of split ends and she has great curls.
I am a bit dry but that's because she doesn't moisturise me often enough. Maybe if she did my front end would grow - hint hint.
She's also abit boring - i mean - enough already of the wash n go's. Give me some style baby!
I shouldn't speak badly of her - really - i mean, she does pay me alot of attention - she's always doing co-washes and giving my hair lots of different products - everyday is like Christmas - i never know what present she'll give me next.

erplexed

This is just too funny

 

[tiffers]

Bublin, that was too cute and funny!

 

[toniy]

Great Bublin!! I needed that!!!

 

[Nice & Wavy]

Hello

My name is Jafro - i belong to Bublin.

The day she stopped straightening me with that white stuff was a God send. I started to grow out of a healthy scalp but what a shock - she went and shaved me off - literally to within an inch of my life - what a shocker....nope, she couldn't transition me - oh no - she has no patience whatsoever.

But a year down the line I now have a beautiful texture but am very thick and my front end won't grow like the back which means Bublin is having a hard time putting me into a ponytail - i find it really funny , watching her get frustrated with me.
I don't mean it, i just choose to grow unevenly - its my prerogative. Besides i have decided not to give her loads of split ends and she has great curls.
I am a bit dry but that's because she doesn't moisturise me often enough. Maybe if she did my front end would grow - hint hint.
She's also abit boring - i mean - enough already of the wash n go's. Give me some style baby!
I shouldn't speak badly of her - really - i mean, she does pay me alot of attention - she's always doing co-washes and giving my hair lots of different products - everyday is like Christmas - i never know what present she'll give me next.

erplexed

Bublin, I think Jafro is going to be our newest member of LHCF....this is tooooooooo funny!!!

 

[Bublin]

Bublin, I think Jafro is going to be our newest member of LHCF....this is tooooooooo funny!!!

Hi ladies, Yeh - Jafro better start getting its act together or it will be shaved off again - ha ha ha ha (evil laugh)

Khalia - Mama Afrika and Jafro must have been talking cus they are both misbehaving.

OMG i think we have mental health problems.

On a serious note, yes i totally understand. For me becoming natural was very liberating and only having 1 inch of hair was both a novelty and very easy to handle. Now with 6 inches of hair the novelty is wearing off and i feel as though i have an awkward length of hair. I just don't know what to do with it. All my life i would fling it into a ponytail and not worry about styles - now i find myself locked in this daily battle to make sure i don't go out the house looking like Don King.
However i'm sure this stage won't last too long for us.

 

[RainbowCurls]

at Bublin and Jafro!

 

[ladylibra]

Bublin... Jafro is too funny!

my hair has no name, but we've been thru our struggles too. i had to learn as a permie that my hair was gonna do what it was gonna do, so i had to learn to get on board with it! i was always trying to get my relaxed hair thinner and straighter... so i was over-processing it and applying way too much heat on a daily basis. finally i figured out my hair was unruly, frizzy and prone to split ends because i was frying it to within an inch of its life! i started taking a little better care of it, but it wasn't until i decided to start transitioning that i learned the most important lesson about my hair - to not care what it looks like.

i know you're like but let me explain...

it's not that i intend to leave the house looking like a hot mess. i'm just saying that once i stopped worrying so much about what my hair looked like, i could embrace it more. it didn't have to look perfect with every hair in place. once i got to that point, i realized i didn't care about how i looked with or without hair and i BCd with just 2 inches of hair on my head. and when i was going thru my growing out phase, i didn't care if it looked a little funky. i knew that it would soon pass.

i still don't really fuss over my hair now. i wash and go. if it looks a little too frizzy one day, i pull it back into a puff. i have papers to write, homework to finish, grant and scholarship applications to turn in, jobs to apply to, a 14-month-old to chase and take care of, and God knows how many other little stressors that pop up every day. not having to worry about my hair makes it a tad easier.

***again i will reiterate - don't you walk around looking busted and then blame it on me saying i told you to have your hair looking like a bird's nest...

 

[ctcks]

We need a little humor now and then. Doing this hair thing can sometimes be all-consuming. It's good to "lighten up".