Jealously(long)

[steph]

Sorry if this has been posted before. Do any of you ladies get jealous when you see someone with long hair healthy even if you know yours is the same length or longer. I guess i am sick of wearing my hair up all the time, and not seeing my hard work. I feel like i can not do anything with my hair. If i want to wear my hair out curly it will shrink and frizz so quickly not matter what kinds of conditioners and leave-in use. I can't even do braidout because my hair and my ends will dry out to fast. It is either the bun or a similar updo. I want to wear my hair down like everyone else. I caved in last night, tried straightening last night, and it was such a disaster that i had to wash my hair and put it back up. I was not even suppose to try to straighten until March. I feel like I can relate to relaxed ladies when they have the urge to relax earlier than planned. It is the same with me and straighting. I know heat is not good for my hair, and the longer i go without the better, but sometimes its hard, and i want to see my efforts i have put in to achieve my length. Sometimes, i feel all this hair care practice is not worth it if i can only see my hair 4 times a year! I am considering getting my hair done for soon for the first time in over a year, but i am afraid that the salon with mess up my efforts. I am sorry for the long vent, and i just upset. I feel that you ladies are the only one i could vent on about this subject.

 

[Allandra]

Hi Steph

What type of method do you use to straighten your hair (pressing comb, flat iron, roller setting, blow dryer)? Do you have a trusted family member or friend that can do it for you? Girl, I wish I could help you out.

 

[Crystena77]

I've been there.

The feeling passes. Oddly enough you know what has helped? When I'm done with my conditioner wash in the shower I comb my hair out under running water. One day I caught a glimpse of my hair in the bathroom mirror and gasped. "Look how long my hair is growing!!!" I do conditioner washes nightly - so now I do this at least once a week to see my progress. I still remember the first time I felt my hair touch my back - I was freaking out!

It's worth it. Stick with it. Hang in there.

 

[honey_jammz82]

I understand where you are coming from, I tend to keep my hair in protective styles a lot because I work out a lot, and I get pissed off when my hair gets sweated out. Especially since I do not have a relaxer my hair loves to revert. I get tempted to flat iron it all the time, but I swear all last year I hardly ever wore my hair down and just in December I started wearing it straight, and everyone was like "what have you been doing to your hair, cuz it looks so long and healthy?" My roomate who was super critical of me bein on LHCF, and all the products I would buy, told me this as well. I overheard her talking to her mom about how I know a lot about hair and the stuff I am doing is making it grow, she was like I am going to get tips from her. That is soo crazy to me, because just last year, everyones perception of what I was doing was different. I know it is frusterating, but it is worth it in the end. Is there anyone you trust to straighten your hair for you occasionally? You could buy nice fake ponytails as well. Hope you feel better about everything soon, I know it gets discouraging...just keep your eyes on the finish line!!!!!!!!

 

[steph]

Hi Allandra, Thanks for the support girl. I wish to help me out too. To straighten my hair i usually blow dry with a comb attachment with dudley's creme press then smooth it over with a round brush. I have tried flat ironing and it does not come out too much straighter. I am considering a ceramic flat iron to take out the waves. My hair usually not that hard to blow dry, but i was stupid in let my hair dry completely then blowing drying and that took out so much of my hair Usually on a normal blow out i have it planned and air dry my hair half way to save heat. What is bad is i am considering blow drying my hair again even after the disaster, but hopefully i will plan it out this time.

 

[steph]

Honey jammz82. thank you for all your suggestions. I am definetly going to keep thinking about the finish line. Also, i have look and measured my hair, and seeing that it is grown makes it even harder for me not to get upset. I see my hair has grown out, and it makes me want to wear it out more. Overall, i know what is best all at the end. Thanks again honey jammz82.[ QUOTE ]
honey_jammz82 said:
I understand where you are coming from, I tend to keep my hair in protective styles a lot because I work out a lot, and I get pissed off when my hair gets sweated out. Especially since I do not have a relaxer my hair loves to revert. I get tempted to flat iron it all the time, but I swear all last year I hardly ever wore my hair down and just in December I started wearing it straight, and everyone was like "what have you been doing to your hair, cuz it looks so long and healthy?" My roomate who was super critical of me bein on LHCF, and all the products I would buy, told me this as well. I overheard her talking to her mom about how I know a lot about hair and the stuff I am doing is making it grow, she was like I am going to get tips from her. That is soo crazy to me, because just last year, everyones perception of what I was doing was different. I know it is frusterating, but it is worth it in the end. Is there anyone you trust to straighten your hair for you occasionally? You could buy nice fake ponytails as well. Hope you feel better about everything soon, I know it gets discouraging...just keep your eyes on the finish line!!!!!!!!

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[jemini]

hi steph

,

I know it's hard to stay away from heat sometimes, I've been there

but If you know your hair will improve without it, which it should, then stay away from it, then when it comes time to straighten it, then you'd be amazed by all the improvements you've made. Patience is definitely a virtue

.