Recently grew my hair from shoulder length to MBL using a sew-in. During this time I would occasionaly go without the sew-in to rest in between. I told my stylist that I was thinking of just wearing my hair and stopping the sew-in. She told me to be prepared for major breakage. She said, "you will lose at least half the hair that has grown using the sew-in" Is this true? Her reasoning is that now I would be styling the hair with heat and it would be damaging and there is no way I will not experience breakage. By the way, the hair that is left out from the sew-in is shorter and looks chewed up and damaged.
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youwillrise
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sounds like scare tactics to me. it can happen if you dont treat your hair well, but its not DEFINITELY going to happen no matter what you do. you must be giving some good business 
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She just wants your business. You just have to learn to care for your newly long hair. Congrats on your growth btw. Are you relaxed or natural?
koolkittychick
Well-Known Member
Congrats on your progress! As the other posters mentioned, your stylist does not want to lose your business, so she is trying to scare you now. If you know how to properly care for your hair (maintaining proper moisture/protein balance, gentle hair manipulation techniques, and minimal hear use), you will not lose your hair to breakage. I suggest you visit Black Girls With Long Hair; that site has a lot of valuable information for women with long, natural hair of all types that can help you maintain and continue to grow your hair without weave.
Good luck with this new phase of your healthy hair journey, and make sure you check in with the ladies on this board if you have any questions, issues or concerns.
Good luck with this new phase of your healthy hair journey, and make sure you check in with the ladies on this board if you have any questions, issues or concerns.
ElevatedEnergy
Rooted Yet Flowing
Personally, I would have asked her to go into more detail about what she meant. It's hard to have someone interpret what someone else meant. If she has been doing your hair for a while then you should have developed a good enough relationship where you can speak openly and candidly when you do not fully understand her statements. I could interpret what she means is a few ways, but I'm not in her head so take it how you see fit and I hope it helps.
1) If your primary style has been sew-ins and you have little experience dealing with your real hair then yes what she is saying could very well be true. Maybe she is thinking that your go-to will be heat styling and if it is done too often, it can cause major damage.
2) If her main or only service is sew ins, maybe she feels she will lose you as a client because you wont need her services as often. The key to having a good stylist is finding one whose specialty is in a variety of services. Sew-ins, healthy heat styling, chemical services, wet sets like roller setting, hair other then ethnic hair and natural hair. That way they can advise and be right beside you as you change your styles and hair choices.
Good luck Lady!
1) If your primary style has been sew-ins and you have little experience dealing with your real hair then yes what she is saying could very well be true. Maybe she is thinking that your go-to will be heat styling and if it is done too often, it can cause major damage.
2) If her main or only service is sew ins, maybe she feels she will lose you as a client because you wont need her services as often. The key to having a good stylist is finding one whose specialty is in a variety of services. Sew-ins, healthy heat styling, chemical services, wet sets like roller setting, hair other then ethnic hair and natural hair. That way they can advise and be right beside you as you change your styles and hair choices.
Good luck Lady!
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ellereincarnated
New Member
That could very well be true. Excessive heat damages hair, so if you plan on using heat to style you hair, you will lose the progress you got from protective styling using sew-ins. If you are going to stop using sew-ins, make sure you read up on how to do other protective styles that require little to no direct heat and are low-manipulation.
Saludable84
Better Late Than Ugly
You should have asked her to elaborate. If she has been doing your weaves for that long, she probably figures you don't know how to take of your hair. Most people I know who wear weaves long term don't know how to take care of their hair. Just ask her what she means and if she knows how to care for long hair so you can at least have her for support.
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Thanks Ladies,
Very interesting replys with great points made. My stylist knows that I like straight hair and so she assumes that I will be flat ironing. I have to admit, I really don't know much about this natural texture. The little knots in the hair drive me crazy and the hair reverts to the natural state quickly after flat ironing. When wearing my natural hair, I let her condition and flat iron, I bun or wear it up, and in a few days I want my sew-in back.
I also mentioned to her that my sister has used sew-ins to grow her hair to waist length and she needs no straightening or relaxers to achieve her desired style. (Very different texture from mine, she can just wash, roll, and wrap and her hair will be straight but will start to frizz with humidity). She also informed me that my sister will lose half her hair when she stops using the sew-ins.
I did ask her why she thought that was true and she simply said that the hair is use to no styling or manipulation, once you start "messing with it", especially if you use heat, it will break.
Very interesting replys with great points made. My stylist knows that I like straight hair and so she assumes that I will be flat ironing. I have to admit, I really don't know much about this natural texture. The little knots in the hair drive me crazy and the hair reverts to the natural state quickly after flat ironing. When wearing my natural hair, I let her condition and flat iron, I bun or wear it up, and in a few days I want my sew-in back.
I also mentioned to her that my sister has used sew-ins to grow her hair to waist length and she needs no straightening or relaxers to achieve her desired style. (Very different texture from mine, she can just wash, roll, and wrap and her hair will be straight but will start to frizz with humidity). She also informed me that my sister will lose half her hair when she stops using the sew-ins.
I did ask her why she thought that was true and she simply said that the hair is use to no styling or manipulation, once you start "messing with it", especially if you use heat, it will break.
Lilmama1011
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you don't have to always straighten anything! yeah sounds like she just wants your services. i haven't straightened my hair in a while she does know there are other styles to wear right?!
koolkittychick
Well-Known Member
If you are planning to keep your hair straight without relaxing, then there is some truth to her statement. You cannot use heat on our hair on a constant basis to maintain a straight appearance and not suffer heat damage (and length loss) eventually. If you insist on wearing your hair straight, you have two options:
- Roller sets if your hair texture can achieve this look that way (which unfortunately you said it can't), or
- Relaxing it and learning to stretch your relaxers to minimum every three months, which means you will need to learn how to care for your natural hair anyway so you won't suffer breakage at the demarcation line (between straight and curly) anyway.
iCandyc
Well-Known Member
You just need to find a great stylist that is familiar with natural hair that can treat your hair and keep damage at a minimum. I have a cousin who hasn't relaxed her hair in years it's long thick healthy and always straight. It can be done just tread carefully.
koolkittychick
Well-Known Member
Actually, this is true too, but very expensive. My owner of my salon can do this, but it would require me to see him at least every two weeks at about $50 a pop, and I simply cannot afford this. I would rather pay the $150 three or four times a year for relaxer touch ups (about half the cost) than pay $100 a month to maintain straight natural hair. And I live in South Florida, so it wouldn't even last 2 weeks--heck, during the rainy season, it wouldn't last 2 minutes with the humidity.
So relaxers it is!Saludable84
Better Late Than Ugly
Your hair cannot get used to styling as it is no longer a living thing. If you want to keep it straight you have to find a stylist that will keep your hair as desired and not damage it either. Its probably better if you learn your natural hair first before going to find another stylist too.
BraunSugar
New Member
OP, Why is your leave-out section chewed up and damaged? That section of your hair may be a good indicator what is in store for the rest of your hair if your styling techniques have been damaging. Some people's hair does not do well with regular heat styling. I am one of those people. Outside of blowdrying it, I can't do much more. You do have many options for achieving a straighter look with minimal heat.
I would explore my options and formulate a game plan before leaving the stylist to care for your own hair if you aren't sure how to do it yet.
I would explore my options and formulate a game plan before leaving the stylist to care for your own hair if you aren't sure how to do it yet.
youwillrise
Well-Known Member
delete. wrong thread.
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SunRai Naturals
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You say that your leave out is shorter, chewed up, and damaged looking. That's an indicator that you are not taking care of your hair properly. If you are going to do the same things to the rest of your hair that you are doing to your leave out then I agree with your stylist that your hair will probably break off like crazy.
You do not have to be held hostage to sew-in's if you have good hair care practices and know your hair. In addition to damaging with heat, you could be ripping your hair out with a comb or not moisturizing it properly etc. You could have fine strands which may not be able to handle constant heat. I think that before you take the sew-in's out, you should research healthy hair practices and figure out the characteristics of your hair. Use that knowledge on your leave out and you should see progression which means healthy looking and getting longer every month. I think that The Science of Black Hair is a good book for you to start with.
You do not have to be held hostage to sew-in's if you have good hair care practices and know your hair. In addition to damaging with heat, you could be ripping your hair out with a comb or not moisturizing it properly etc. You could have fine strands which may not be able to handle constant heat. I think that before you take the sew-in's out, you should research healthy hair practices and figure out the characteristics of your hair. Use that knowledge on your leave out and you should see progression which means healthy looking and getting longer every month. I think that The Science of Black Hair is a good book for you to start with.
I really don't know why my leave out hair is damaged. I still deep condition every week, only use heat on clean hair, moisturize, and all the steps I did to grow my hair from 4" to 12" before the sew-in. (Although I did more roller sets back then because all my hair was out and I had a relaxer). I talked to stylist about it but she just said she didn't know but "we will move the part and let the other side grow out"
darlingdiva
Well-Known Member
How often do you use heat on your leave out hair?
Even if you deep condition weekly and moisturize and only use heat on clean hair, your leave out hair will suffer greatly if you are using heat on a fairly consistent basis--especially if you have fine strands.
The roller sets that you used to do might have contributed to your hair growing from 4" to 12" before the sew-in.
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