kiesha8185
Active Member
Hi ladies! I have a confession to make...
I'm in love with two people named Natural and Relaxed and I don't know who to choose. I've been cheating on Relaxed ever since Natural came on the scene and I don't know what to do...
I have been on the fence about going natural for quite some time. Every time I stretch, I play with my new growth and wonder... I love my relaxed hair because of the ease in styling and washing, and I think my relaxed hair is pretty; it's come a long way. But I still suffer from breakage, no matter how gentle I am and how much healthier it is. And when I see natural heads like some of you ladies on this board, I am envious of your hair and your guts to big chop/transition. What if I bc and I don't like it? What if I cut off all my hair and don't know what to do with it?
To me, hair plays a role in how you feel as a woman. I feel more confident when my hair is point and styled in a way that I feel compliments ME. I know "it's just hair" but LHCF has somewhat contributed to my slight obsession with it being "just hair"
Yall ladies know what I'm talking about!
Anyhoo...here is my hair progress:
Here are two pics of my new growth. It may not be enough to judge, but I always say I'm a 4a/b. Not sure. Who cares. Lol. But I posted it so some of you who think your hair looks similar to mine...let me see YOUR HAIR!! I want an idea of what my hair *could possibly* look like
So I'm asking you natural ladies who were previously relaxed:
Also, if there are other threads like this on the board, feel free to post the link in here. I'm not concerned with how many replies I get, only a few quality answers can help.
Thank you ladies SO MUCH for taking the time to view my progress, share your experiences, and help me achieve healthier hair. Relaxed or natural, you all have done so much for me! My hair never would've gotten where it is, if it were not for you guys. I love my cyber family!!
I'm in love with two people named Natural and Relaxed and I don't know who to choose. I've been cheating on Relaxed ever since Natural came on the scene and I don't know what to do...
I have been on the fence about going natural for quite some time. Every time I stretch, I play with my new growth and wonder... I love my relaxed hair because of the ease in styling and washing, and I think my relaxed hair is pretty; it's come a long way. But I still suffer from breakage, no matter how gentle I am and how much healthier it is. And when I see natural heads like some of you ladies on this board, I am envious of your hair and your guts to big chop/transition. What if I bc and I don't like it? What if I cut off all my hair and don't know what to do with it?
To me, hair plays a role in how you feel as a woman. I feel more confident when my hair is point and styled in a way that I feel compliments ME. I know "it's just hair" but LHCF has somewhat contributed to my slight obsession with it being "just hair"
Anyhoo...here is my hair progress:
Here are two pics of my new growth. It may not be enough to judge, but I always say I'm a 4a/b. Not sure. Who cares. Lol. But I posted it so some of you who think your hair looks similar to mine...let me see YOUR HAIR!! I want an idea of what my hair *could possibly* look like
So...I have been on the board for a couple of years now, and I must say that I am not satisfied with progress in the length of my hair. Four years later, and my hair is barely touching APL. The health of my hair is okay, and I've gotten lazy along the way, so there is a glimmer of hope; I can still achieve lengths if I put my mind to it and go all in. But I think of part of the reason why I haven't gotten to my desired length (MBL)has to do with relaxing. I have accepted the fact that although it is possible to have healthy relaxed hair, my hair will never be at its peak level of health unless I have never put chemicals in it to permanently change the texture of my hair.
Pre-LHCF. It never grew past my shoulders, but it always looked decent. I got a touch up every 6 weeks and burned like crazy every time
This is what my look like right after I damaged it:
So I found LHCF and a couple months later, my hair progressed in length and fullness, but it wasn't really that healthy just yet:
Airdried:
Blowdried:
Twistout:
Braidout:
Curlformers:
Wavy:
Flat Ironed (FYI: I'm leaning!)
Henna:
December 2007:
January 2010:
February 2010:
January 2011
So I'm asking you natural ladies who were previously relaxed:
- What influenced your decision to bc/transition?
- Were you satisfied with your decision?
- What benefits do you experience with natural hair that you were never able to enjoy with relaxed hair?
- Would you ever relax again?
- What is hard for you to re-learn your hair (washing, styling)?
Also, if there are other threads like this on the board, feel free to post the link in here. I'm not concerned with how many replies I get, only a few quality answers can help.
Thank you ladies SO MUCH for taking the time to view my progress, share your experiences, and help me achieve healthier hair. Relaxed or natural, you all have done so much for me! My hair never would've gotten where it is, if it were not for you guys. I love my cyber family!!
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