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Forever in Bloom
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I watched this today and feel the same way 
I've been wanting to do it for quite some time. I cut off 2 inches back in August and didn't miss it one bit!
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I've been wanting to do it for quite some time. I cut off 2 inches back in August and didn't miss it one bit! Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
MileHighDiva
A+ Hair Care Queen
Excellent video!
DoDo
Big Hair, Don't Care
I feel like she really hit home and close to heart with her video. We really do think of our hair as nappy and as inferior to that of other races. I see it in our language all the time. Our children are paying close attention and the truth plays out in the playground. I remember wanting to rock an afro daily, being proud of who I am and what I come from then it was lost with the need to hit length goals. However, why do I want to hit these length goals? Is it because I am trying to fit beauty standards that were never designed for the likes of me? It bears thought and discussion. What am I really fighting for? When did I go from wanting a big 
afro to a luxurious mane. Is that me? Is that something I should look for? I love my hair as it is. Why am I trying to achieve something that isn't even realistic? What am I trying to prove? When, my afro was enough to make little black girls say..."I love your hair..." when it was still neck length.
Why try to be something I'm not by waiting around for my hair to grow down instead of out; when I know my hair grows out instead of down?
afro to a luxurious mane. Is that me? Is that something I should look for? I love my hair as it is. Why am I trying to achieve something that isn't even realistic? What am I trying to prove? When, my afro was enough to make little black girls say..."I love your hair..." when it was still neck length.Why try to be something I'm not by waiting around for my hair to grow down instead of out; when I know my hair grows out instead of down?
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koolkittychick
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Awesome video. When I was natural, all I ever wore were Afros and Afro puffs; I didn't bother with twist or braid outs because I was lazy and because I thought the Afro puffs were cuter on me once my hair got long enough to make a cloud around my head. They do take a toll on your hair though with SSKs and breakage, especially if you make the mistake of dyeing it blonde like I did. 
Now I know better for next time I decide to go natural.
Now I know better for next time I decide to go natural.
kxlot79
Kitchen Mixtress
I really liked this vid and your post ^^^^
I used to wear my fro, and wash and go ALL THE TIME, for years. And I maintained my hair at about neck length curly (so a bit past shoulders stretched), because it was frequently out and that was the best way to keep maintenance, SSKs, & tangles low, with my ends looking fresh.
Then I started getting a lot of relatives and close friends saying they would go natural if they could get long hair like with a relaxer (though often their relaxed hair was unhealthy with thin ends if it made it past shoulders). And I started growing my hair out to show them it was possible.
Now, the length preoccupation has gotten quite a bit away from me. It's sparked a curiosity within me about my terminal length. And for now, that's more important to me than wearing my hair out, loose, or in a fro. But I have every intention of eventually returning.
Idk. I do believe a lot of women go on length journeys because we feel we have something to prove, even if that's only to ourselves (though more often it's something to prove to others).
This could be an interesting discussion...
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I used to wear my fro, and wash and go ALL THE TIME, for years. And I maintained my hair at about neck length curly (so a bit past shoulders stretched), because it was frequently out and that was the best way to keep maintenance, SSKs, & tangles low, with my ends looking fresh.
Then I started getting a lot of relatives and close friends saying they would go natural if they could get long hair like with a relaxer (though often their relaxed hair was unhealthy with thin ends if it made it past shoulders). And I started growing my hair out to show them it was possible.
Now, the length preoccupation has gotten quite a bit away from me. It's sparked a curiosity within me about my terminal length. And for now, that's more important to me than wearing my hair out, loose, or in a fro. But I have every intention of eventually returning.
Idk. I do believe a lot of women go on length journeys because we feel we have something to prove, even if that's only to ourselves (though more often it's something to prove to others).
This could be an interesting discussion...
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I really liked this video. Thanks for posting it. It made me a little emotional because I remember feeling inferior as a little girl because although I had long hair it was kinky. I damaged a lot of hair through the years trying to make it do something it wasn't meant to do.
I'm transitioning right now and a huge factor for me was that I didn't want my little girl to feel how I used to feel. I know our kids receive all kinds of messages about kinky, nappy hair out in the world. I just wanted home to be a "safe" place free of that nonsense.
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I'm transitioning right now and a huge factor for me was that I didn't want my little girl to feel how I used to feel. I know our kids receive all kinds of messages about kinky, nappy hair out in the world. I just wanted home to be a "safe" place free of that nonsense.
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I watched parts of the video a few days ago. I definitely appreciate all she is doing for her students. My impression after watching that video is that she is a beautiful person in every sense of the word.
Personally, I am growing my hair longer to make it easier to style because of shrinkage and my face shape. It has gotten easier as it gets longer. My hair grows up and down at the same time. The in-between stage was a frustrating one styling wise because my hair just flopped everywhere. I am enjoying my textured hair and have not heat straightened since going fully natural. I do get satisfaction from showing my length to idiots bad-mouthing natural hair. It shuts them up.
I agree that we use very troubling words to describe our hair, even on here. Comparisons people make between their different textures and their feelings on it are sometimes sad to read. But, it is getting better and better.
Personally, I am growing my hair longer to make it easier to style because of shrinkage and my face shape. It has gotten easier as it gets longer. My hair grows up and down at the same time. The in-between stage was a frustrating one styling wise because my hair just flopped everywhere. I am enjoying my textured hair and have not heat straightened since going fully natural. I do get satisfaction from showing my length to idiots bad-mouthing natural hair. It shuts them up.
I agree that we use very troubling words to describe our hair, even on here. Comparisons people make between their different textures and their feelings on it are sometimes sad to read. But, it is getting better and better.
kxlot79
Kitchen Mixtress
I had my mom and one of my friends watch the video and I was actually surprised by their reactions.
I never put my willingness to talk about hair with complete strangers in the way they did but now I wonder how that ties in with the video.
Though I encouraged my mom to go natural, she told me, "You are not a natural hair ambassador," after watching the video. And my friend, who is loc'd, said "I think this teacher should stick to the lesson plan and leave hair-related esteem to the parents." WTH???
I actually like the title of "natural hair ambassador" and I could see the lady in the video being the epitome of one. But I just can't comprehend why people feel such resistance/offense to natural empowerment. Saying "I love my fro" or "I want my children to embrace their natural selves" DOESN'T, to me at least, mean "You should hate your texture alterations" or "You're a bad parent for allowing your child chemical alterations."
Why does one group's empowerment automatically equal another group's disempowerment for so many people?
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I never put my willingness to talk about hair with complete strangers in the way they did but now I wonder how that ties in with the video.
Though I encouraged my mom to go natural, she told me, "You are not a natural hair ambassador," after watching the video. And my friend, who is loc'd, said "I think this teacher should stick to the lesson plan and leave hair-related esteem to the parents." WTH???
I actually like the title of "natural hair ambassador" and I could see the lady in the video being the epitome of one. But I just can't comprehend why people feel such resistance/offense to natural empowerment. Saying "I love my fro" or "I want my children to embrace their natural selves" DOESN'T, to me at least, mean "You should hate your texture alterations" or "You're a bad parent for allowing your child chemical alterations."
Why does one group's empowerment automatically equal another group's disempowerment for so many people?
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Froreal3
haulin hard in the paint
I totally agree with her. She is absolutely right about showcasing the way our hair comes out of our head more often w/o trying to achieve this "definition" stuff. However, right now I won't be wearing a fro all the time because I am on a length journey for the next few years. I don't even wear my hair in twist outs often anymore.
When I wasn't on my HHJ/length journey, I would rock fros all.the.time and had no problem with it. I got compliments from lots of people...but my fro was short...only about neck/shoulder length stretched. I have been natural all my life and never understood why I didn't have more hair. I didn't know that my fine strands could not take being unmoisturized and in a fro every day.
I don't want that anymore. When I wear my fro, I want it to be bigger and badder. When I am in my maintenance stage in a couple years, I will wear my hair out more often like I used to, and that includes twist outs/braid outs as well as straight up picked out fros.
But again, I wholeheartedly agree and have thought this way for years. The preoccupation with "definition," curls where there are none, gelling it up, slicking it back, trying to tame the way your hair naturally looks is unhealthy. We got sistas trying to slick back their edges so much every day with these tight pony tails and buns that they're getting traction alopecia.
Yes, other races change their hair up, but we are preoccupied with it in such a way that is very hurtful to our already damaged self image.
When I wasn't on my HHJ/length journey, I would rock fros all.the.time and had no problem with it. I got compliments from lots of people...but my fro was short...only about neck/shoulder length stretched. I have been natural all my life and never understood why I didn't have more hair. I didn't know that my fine strands could not take being unmoisturized and in a fro every day.
I don't want that anymore. When I wear my fro, I want it to be bigger and badder. When I am in my maintenance stage in a couple years, I will wear my hair out more often like I used to, and that includes twist outs/braid outs as well as straight up picked out fros.
But again, I wholeheartedly agree and have thought this way for years. The preoccupation with "definition," curls where there are none, gelling it up, slicking it back, trying to tame the way your hair naturally looks is unhealthy. We got sistas trying to slick back their edges so much every day with these tight pony tails and buns that they're getting traction alopecia.
Yes, other races change their hair up, but we are preoccupied with it in such a way that is very hurtful to our already damaged self image.
Lilmama1011
Well-Known Member
I love her hair. When I have kids after I do their hair I will tell them to look in the mirror and air kiss to themselves
reeko43
Well-Known Member
Love this video. That little girl will forever be grateful for what this YouTube did.
Everyone can be natural hair ambassadors where natural or relaxed. We can teach the younger generation about loving themselves and hair. We can police ourselves regarding negative hair comments about ourselves or toward others. Our hair is beautiful regardless of how it is worn. If we start truly believing this, others will as well.
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Everyone can be natural hair ambassadors where natural or relaxed. We can teach the younger generation about loving themselves and hair. We can police ourselves regarding negative hair comments about ourselves or toward others. Our hair is beautiful regardless of how it is worn. If we start truly believing this, others will as well.
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caribeandiva
Human being
I really like the message of this video. i love the part with the little girl: I gave Riley a kiss and hug mommy!" Precious.
