I thought I had BAD hair..../ Message to the newbies

[aquajoyice]

Is it just me or is it the more you learn about your "nappy" hair the better you realize it is? I know it sounds strange but on my journey for healthy hair i've realized that not only has my hair changed for the better but also my expectations of my hair and myself in general.

Especially during my 6 months stretch caring for my natural textured "new growth" i've been bracing myself for the worst. It's been a long time since i've seen my hair in it's 100% natural state. And the more my hair grows out the more I realize that my hair isn't the way that society labels it. And I look around at the natural 3-4's and see gorgeous, kinky, curly, coily and even frizzy hair. It's so beautiful and has so much character and life, not limp and unmoving but big, full and shapley.

Has anyone else found themselves becoming "deep" on their hair journey or am I just crazy? LOL

By the way i've posted some new pics of my hair before "The Knowledge" and it's such a huge difference. For all those women just beginning take a look and realize that you will all have the length that you are looking to achieve. If I did it I know all of you can too!

 

[wheezy807]

I know! Before this site, i hated my ng. I couldn't wait to get a touchup. But now i love my ng. I love my natural texture. New growth is new hair growing. I think i might even wanna go natural one day.

 

[msa]

I feel the same.

About 3 months before I found LHCF I commented to my friend that I had a few random coils and I wished that my whole head looked like that (at the time it was a dry, fuzzy, dryyyyyyyy afro puff). Come to find out, after being on LHCF and actually conditioning and moisturizing my hair, my whole head is coiled like that.

It's pretty amazing what a little bit of care can do for your hair. I really thought that my dry mass of fluff was my texture and I'd just have to learn how to deal with it. But my natural hair, when well taken care of, is gorgeous. Seeing that change in my own hair convinced me that there's no bad hair, just unhealthy, neglected hair. That actually gave me a lot more confidence because you can't change your texture, but you can change your haircare practices.

 

[brucebettye]

I do agree with you. Ever since finding this website I have no problem wearing my kinky, curly, coily hair without wearing it straight. I am not natural, but texlaxed and I don't have to put a perm in for at least six months because I can deal with the too textures without damaging my hair. I actually love the way my hair looks, the texture, and the way it feels. And since I know how to take care of my hair it is so easy to deal with. I wish I found LHCF when I was in high school!!!!

 

[aquajoyice]

I know! Before this site, i hated my ng. I couldn't wait to get a touchup. But now i love my ng. I love my natural texture. New growth is new hair growing. I think i might even wanna go natural one day.

Yeah I really realized the negative views I had about my own hair as a kid up until I learned about my texture. Now I love it and have been considering going natural too!

 

[aquajoyice]

I do agree with you. Ever since finding this website I have no problem wearing my kinky, curly, coily hair without wearing it straight. I am not natural, but texlaxed and I don't have to put a perm in for at least six months because I can deal with the too textures without damaging my hair. I actually love the way my hair looks, the texture, and the way it feels. And since I know how to take care of my hair it is so easy to deal with. I wish I found LHCF when I was in high school!!!!

I feel the same way! I wish I found it earlier too I could only imagine how healthy my hair would be now.

 

[aquajoyice]

I feel the same.

About 3 months before I found LHCF I commented to my friend that I had a few random coils and I wished that my whole head looked like that (at the time it was a dry, fuzzy, dryyyyyyyy afro puff). Come to find out, after being on LHCF and actually conditioning and moisturizing my hair, my whole head is coiled like that.

It's pretty amazing what a little bit of care can do for your hair. I really thought that my dry mass of fluff was my texture and I'd just have to learn how to deal with it. But my natural hair, when well taken care of, is gorgeous. Seeing that change in my own hair convinced me that there's no bad hair, just unhealthy, neglected hair. That actually gave me a lot more confidence because you can't change your texture, but you can change your haircare practices.

That is soo true msa!

 

[DDTexlaxed]

I had bad memories of my natural hair as a kid and my mom never really learned how to take care of my hair in its natural state. I grew up thinking I had bad nappy hair. I've tried going natural several times, but failed because I still had that mentality. Since educating myself here and watching U tube vids, I have come to see that my hair is not ugly or hard to deal with as I thought. I am not a newbie, but in a way, I feel like one. I have a lot to learn about natural hair and I'm not about to give up!

 

[aquajoyice]

I had bad memories of my natural hair as a kid and my mom never really learned how to take care of my hair in its natural state. I grew up thinking I had bad nappy hair. I've tried going natural several times, but failed because I still had that mentality. Since educating myself here and watching U tube vids, I have come to see that my hair is not ugly or hard to deal with as I thought. I am not a newbie, but in a way, I feel like one. I have a lot to learn about natural hair and I'm not about to give up!

You go girl!! The great thing about this site is we have a forum of people that are supportive and willing to listen and relate. I totally feel you on that one!

 

[andromeda]

I can relate. I've been transitioning since April. When I started on my journey, one of the first things I bought was Baka Natural-laxer bc I thought my natural hair would be an unruly mass that had to be tamed and wouldn't be acceptable in its completely natural state. Mind you, this assumption was based on the passing knowledge I had of my new growth from 6-8 week stretches and letting my hair grow out 2x under weaves (all the while not caring for it properly). Luckily, I obsessively researched transitioning and natural hair in the hours, days and weeks following my Natural-laxer purchase and it has yet to leave the storage bin that I relegated it to a week into my transition.

 

[Miamori]

I feel the same.

About 3 months before I found LHCF I commented to my friend that I had a few random coils and I wished that my whole head looked like that (at the time it was a dry, fuzzy, dryyyyyyyy afro puff). Come to find out, after being on LHCF and actually conditioning and moisturizing my hair, my whole head is coiled like that.

It's pretty amazing what a little bit of care can do for your hair. I really thought that my dry mass of fluff was my texture and I'd just have to learn how to deal with it. But my natural hair, when well taken care of, is gorgeous. Seeing that change in my own hair convinced me that there's no bad hair, just unhealthy, neglected hair. That actually gave me a lot more confidence because you can't change your texture, but you can change your haircare practices.

I told a friend (male) that there was actually nothing wrong with his hair and it would likely look better than that of the people who kept making fun of him (at the ages of 20-24 ) if he would just DC and moisturize.

Over a series of a few months he scheduled what he called "consults" with me and let it grow out more (I told him his coils were tight, so he'd need longer length to really let the curl show) and started DCing and moisturizing at least once a week with good products, and now he gets lots of compliments.

He told me the other day he had girls playing in his hair and telling him how beautiful it was, and he could not believe it.

There is no such thing as bad hair.

 

[Lola28]

It's so funny but my hair was never a problem to deal with my mother was just lazy. My sister and I had and still have hair down our backs,don't ask me hair types because I really don't know. Any who back to what I was saying,my mom also doesn't know how to care for hair as well. When you add lazy to misinformed that spells R E L A X E R! Because if you blew either of our heads out or just put four plaits with some oil,we would have two of the most shiny softest and moisturized heads in Queens, NY! She programmed us to think our hair was to difficult to deal with. My daughter is a mix of 3c and 4a. I love taking care of her hair. I pre poo,deep con and trim ends when needed. A relaxer will never touch her hair on my watch!! My mom presses when she has her and we war every time. It's with the pressing comb you put in the stove WTF!! At least use the plug in one and I know she doesn't use a heat protectant...I honestly relax my hair out of habit nothing more. I plan to go natural soon,I'm test stretching my relaxer for now. Don't want to go into full culture shock at once lol. It's funny also that people tend to dislike what they don't have full knowledge of. Or for me it was someone asking me why do I relax my hair, and I answered because my mom has been doing it since I was 7/8 yrs old. Smh....sad isn't it?

 

[mscocoface]

Also remember you have found HAIR JOURNEY UTOPIA now ! As the old saying goes better late than never! So you may not be the best hair model or spokesperson for healthy hair advertisement yet, but YOU WILL!!!! Hang in there!!!! Stay vigilant!!!

 

[sharifeh]

now that i actually moisturize my ng some of it is "curly" and can actually feel nice
im addicted to it
cant keep my hands out of it