I reached the hairlenght i always wanted, My hair is long and yet...I feel unpretty.

[nadine1977canada]

What the heck is wrong with me. I am a little pass my bra strap, which was my goal when i joined this club a year ago. Now, I have the hair i wanted and yet I feel unpretty. What the heck is wrong with me. Its like my hair isnt perfect enough. I also seem to be less than an eye catcher than when i was wearing wigs... I'm worried. What am I doing wrong.

Any advice to boost myself up?

 

[grnidmonster]

Nadine,
it doesnt make any differnece how long our hair is or what we look like, if you are not happy inside the world will pick up on that. Beauty comes from within and that is what most people see - the internal light.

Your hair isnt your problem (forgive me for being so forward) something else is bothering you. Once you fix that and are happy with you, everyone else will notice.

 

[DivaRox]

Well, what about trying a new hairstyle or getting a nice outfit to give yourself a little boost? Also, I'm thinking that you may want to find something to focus on aside from your hair. It's sounds like how I feel after focusing on my kids for sooooo long and now that they're growing up(kinda like your hair) they don't need me half as much as they used to.Solution: find other interests and something else to occupy my time. My goal of independent, stable young people was accomplished, time to put that energy into another necessary arena. Maybe you could mentor another young lady with her hair goals.

 

[gradygirl]

I'm sorry that you feel that way. Maybe what you are feeling does not have anything to do with your hair length but maybe how you feel about yourself inside. I know as women we all have our days that we dont feel the best about ourselves or like the way we look but pretty is from the inside out it has nothing to do with your hair length. I hope you feel better and you are beautiful because God made you.

 

[nadine1977canada]

Well, what about trying a new hairstyle or getting a nice outfit to give yourself a little boost? Also, I'm thinking that you may want to find something to focus on aside from your hair. It's sounds like how I feel after focusing on my kids for sooooo long and now that they're growing up(kinda like your hair) they don't need me half as much as they used to.Solution: find other interests and something else to occupy my time. My goal of independent, stable young people was accomplished, time to put that energy into another necessary arena. Maybe you could mentor another young lady with her hair goals.

Good point, I think you hit the nail right on the head. I noticed that ever since dad past away, I keep this weird feeling like i lost a part of me. I used to think that I was unstoppable,I used to be a traffic stopper, I was happy and confident. I was always the best dressed ,etc.

Now its like..."I miss the old me. I miss being pretty and all." I just want to get my life back.

 

[hopeful]

My heart breaks for you. I'm so sorry to hear about you losing your dad. I pray you'll get the old you back soon.

 

[taj]

It seems on as though you are being really hard on yourself. You are where I want to be right now. My hair falls at APL. That was an amazing accomplishment, you should be proud of yourself! Maintaining regimens aren’t easy. It may not be your hair that you’re unsatisfied with. You have to search internally to find the root of the problem. Ask yourself is this a hair issue or is there other underlying factors that are causing me to feel this way? I don’t think that you’re doing anything wrong. However, you may not realize that because you are harboring negative emotions that is also how you may be perceived by others. Sometimes when you don’t feel good about yourself it reflects. As women we need to learn how to fall in love with ourselves, so that if a man doesn’t compliment us we are not affected. Know and understand that you are beautiful regardless of hair length or less compliments. I hope you feel better!

 

[princessdi]

Good point, I think you hit the nail right on the head. I noticed that ever since dad past away, I keep this weird feeling like i lost a part of me. I used to think that I was unstoppable,I used to be a traffic stopper, I was happy and confident. I was always the best dressed ,etc.

Now its like..."I miss the old me. I miss being pretty and all." I just want to get my life back.

Nadine1977canada,

I understand exactly what you're coming from. I lost my dad 4 years ago this past Monday and it still feels like yesterday. The bond that we shared was so strong and when he passed he took a part of me with him. The only way I continue to go on is by keeping his memory alive through me and through all the memories I have of him. He was only 63 when he died. Also, I know that he would want me to continue to go on. I know that he is looking down on me and watching over me everyday and encouraging me not to give up and I'm sure your dad is too.

I hope you find that inner peace again soon and that your life too will improve. He may be gone but certainly not forgotten. Keep your head up.

Bless you.

Princessdi

 

[Blackoutzangel05]

Good point, I think you hit the nail right on the head. I noticed that ever since dad past away, I keep this weird feeling like i lost a part of me. I used to think that I was unstoppable,I used to be a traffic stopper, I was happy and confident. I was always the best dressed ,etc.

Now its like..."I miss the old me. I miss being pretty and all." I just want to get my life back.

I am sure you are beautiful inside and out.

 

[preciousjewel76]

Nadine, I'm so sorry to hear about your father's passing. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. The other ladies here have already made some very powerful and inspirational posts, so all I can say is that I hope you take them to heart. No matter what your hair looks like, you are still a beautiful person. Be blessed!

 

[firecracker]

Your beauty is from within, not from the outside. You need to work on that because all the outside stuff can be taken away in a flash and simply icing on the real cake.

 

[Whimsy]

Get yourself to the "That Girl" threads... tons of info there.

I'd also like to chime in w/ the fact that long hair isn't what necessarily turns heads. It's that inner "i'm sexy" that exudes.... We've all seen some plain jane girl breaking necks sometime in our lives and wondered what's up w/ that.
It's an intangible air of confidence that you need to hold on to. And disconnect sexy/pretty from your hair length....they're mutually exclusive.

Good luck on your quest girl! It sucks feeling blah about yourself...we've all been there.

XO

 

[glamazon386]

You must be suffering from hair anorexia hun

 

[Str8~Curly]

Get yourself to the "That Girl" threads... tons of info there.

I'd also like to chime in w/ the fact that long hair isn't what necessarily turns heads. It's that inner "i'm sexy" that exudes.... We've all seen some plain jane girl breaking necks sometime in our lives and wondered what's up w/ that.
It's an intangible air of confidence that you need to hold on to. And disconnect sexy/pretty from your hair length....they're mutually exclusive.

Good luck on your quest girl! It sucks feeling blah about yourself...we've all been there.

XO

That is so true.

 

[sholly6]

Re: I reached the hairlenght i always wanted, My hair is long and yet...I feel unpret

sorry about your dad passing i will be praying for you as you go through this journey of finding peace within yourself. remember God loves you

 

[amwcah]

Sorry to hear about the loss of your father. You have my sincere sympathy. I pray that God will give you the strength to conquer all the uncertainties in your life. I have been where you are and sometimes I think I am still there. No words of condolences can ease your pain, but only God can help you. Be blessed and continually pray!

 

[EMJazzy]

My condolences on the loss of your father. {{{hugs}}} My father passed away Nov. 7, 2002 so I know how you feel.

 

[Desert Skye]

Re: I reached the hairlenght i always wanted, My hair is long and yet...I feel unpret

nadine1977canada: I know where you are coming from because I too experienced a family tragedy which led me to hate the way I felt about myself for the past 2 years. It led to me having low self esteem.What I am going to do to help myself is go to a counselor and I know many ladies go to one on the board for their well being. Maybe you could try it too?

 

[MonaLisa]

Good point, I think you hit the nail right on the head. I noticed that ever since dad past away, I keep this weird feeling like i lost a part of me. I used to think that I was unstoppable,I used to be a traffic stopper, I was happy and confident. I was always the best dressed ,etc.

Now its like..."I miss the old me. I miss being pretty and all." I just want to get my life back.

Sorry to hear about your dad's passing. Many of us understand. I lost my dad almost 2 yrs ago (he was 58) & I still feel it, especially around my birthday.

There is a part that is lost, but so much still remains.
It will take time, but things will start to fall back into place in your life.

May peace and blessings be upon you.

 

[PuffyBrown]

I know what you are going through too! I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad in 2002. I think what you are feeling is probally normal because I did the same thing. Nobody gives compliments better than your dad. Always, seem to notice those compliments. Not meaning to be sentimental, those lessons that you got before you lost your dad were meant to be treasured so that you will have something to "live by" when your parents are no longer here in the physical form. I practiced counseling by trade for several years and I agree with the others, it's okay to find somebody to tell your feelings to. I do...I am still going once a month, I cannot imagine not going. I am over the suffering of losing my parent, but find it useful in dealing with life and problems that we all face.

God Bless you, and I hope that you feel better soon.