I need to vent about my hair!

[tammiematthews]

Well, first of all,I want to thank you ladies! Since I found this site, I have become more aware of how to treat and care for my relaxed and my daughter's natural hair. I've been on the forum since Oct 2004. Mostly I just like to read the advice and try some things out. SG is one of my hair idols, among others..so since I've shouted out, let me get to cyin' about my hair.
I've been working on my hair since joining the forum. I'm using MNT (staple) along with Surge (periodically now on roots, since my cowlicks have grown back in) I recently picked up some WGO among other products. I had my last relaxer on 12/08/04, its now 1/13/05 and I have no idea what to do with my hair?!? My roots are so thick!! It's not the Surge, because I'm not using it consistantly enough to cause the dreaded reversion..is it the WGO and the hair vitamins? Dont know..very frustrated right now!! I currently have my hair in a roller set style, Ive been wearing it all week. I very rarely re roll it, just put on my satin cap at night, spray it with a light leave-in or some hot6 oil, finger comb and go, but I am noticing some stray hairs coming out, with the finger combing. Very frustrated right now!! Not to mention I wear a headset all day at work, is this causing more hair to break/shed/run amuck?! I'm trying to stretch this current relaxer to at least Feb or March but..eruh...I dont know if I can take it ..I see all these pretty heads on the board and I'm even more flustered right now. I want color so bad I can see the highlights in my dreams!!! What am I gonna do...I need comfort!! I think I'll go to the beauty supply to calm down and think!

 

[webby]

I think I'll go to the beauty supply to calm down and think!

No girl, don't do it! Be strong...you can do it!

You KNOW what happens when you go into a BBS...it's just not pretty
Seriously, I can relate...unfortunately, I have no advice.

 

[Tonya]

Hey Tammie!

Now...first of all CALM DOWN! You are going to be just fine. You have allot of new growth....don't complain honey! That means you are "inching" your way closer and closer to your goal. The thing you ahve to do to keep form relaxing is find a style that does not require allot of manipulation and stick with it. I ahve learned the more new growth the further away you stay form "flowing" styles. Have you tried a braid out? That way u don;t have to bother you hair at all and it is a little easier to deal with the two differetn textures. What about going back to your phony pony for a few weeks? Or a fall? Just to get yourself over that hump to atleast Feb...you do not want ot chance overlapping.
As far as the color...if you want it...do it. Just make sure your hair is strong enough to take it. Prepare for it with protien conditoners as you work your way up to it and do not do like me and color your entire head. I liek my color but I wish that I ahd highlighted (as Tracy advised) but NO I was Ms happycoorpants! hahaha! Anyway jut take a deep breath...browse thru a few albums to remind yourself WHY you have to stick to your regime. I am here if u need me! U have the number!

 

[tammiematthews]

Thanks Tonya! Thanks Webby!!
I was seriously thinking of going to the BSS to end it all!! U have guys have pulled me back from the ledge!! I really do need to go to a pony, but my NG is so thick, I dont think I can get these roots to lay down...I'll try tonight, but if I doesnt lay down I need a back up plan...Any advice???...Anyone???
Help??? Please???

 

[KAddy]

Now that you have backed away from the edge here's a little advice for laying down the thick roots.

Now I had been complaining forever about my new growth and finally found a good thing. Let's Jam gel. It works wonders and doesn't have alcohol nor get hard. I have also found Sta Sof Fro and that works to soften my roots, but I have yet to try it when I lay my hair down to put it all back. I know that Babygurl uses S-curl and she has a pic in the photo gallery where she is 10 weeks post relaxer and used S-curl; the results are amazing

 

[blkmaryland]

Remedy for the headset......Go get a scarf and wrap it around the part that touches your hair. And remember...patience.....

 

[tammiematthews]

Once again, Thanks Blkmaryland and Kaddy. I do have some SCurl (no drip) I could use that to soften my roots, I also have Elasta QP Mango butter and Gel, do I need to wash before applying these products? ...wait...duh...I do have a roller set, I may want to wash these curls out! I could bun it or buy another pony this weekend, BUT...what about the dreded kitchen area????

 

[Tonya]

Tammie,


I add products to my hair at night and tie it down with a scarf...by morning my sidea are laying down...I am almost two moths post and look...

So jsut tie it down...I use brown gel becuase I was my hair frequently.

 

[PrettyBrownEyes]

Tammie, the stray hairs that you are seeing are probably nothing to worry about. Are they shed hair (with the bulb) or broken pieces? If its just shed hair, then my guess is since you are not combing your hair right now, just finger combing, there may be a lot of shed hair that has accumulated, and not combed out with a regular comb. Just a thought.

 

[tammiematthews]

Tonya your hair is so cute!! I'll try tonight.