I have Obliterated my hair..............help

[luxe.li.]

So I have no problem admitting when I am wrong. When I have done wrong.

Well I have committed a crime against my hair. This is not my first time doing this, but this is my first time doing it to my natural hair. I have an obsession with change which can be good and BAD. Tonight it was bad. I have killed my ends with hair dye. I have dyed my hair too many times and my hair is paying for it.

My ends are so dry, brittle, they don't blend in. I know they can be poisonous to my hair because my ends tend to split up the hair shaft. I've done this before as a relaxed head. You would of thought I learned my lesson. I guess not.

I want to cry but I should have known better.

So I'm in need of HELP. I need help on my recovery plan.

I am in the process of chopping off these ends. I have 3.5-4 inch long hair, I am cutting about a half inch off, and an inch off in bad areas. My hair is in the Rihanna cut, so my drastic cutting tonight will not result in me having a bad doo. The one thing it will do is push me back on my length and my growth, but what can I do? Anyway it'll grow back.

I'm officially starting over tonight.

I vow, NEVER to dye my hair chemically. If I want to dye my hair I will use Bigen or Henna, but I will steer towards Henna.

NO MORE Chemical Dyes from Walgreens or CVS....never again.


What I need from you LHCF is:


1. Methods to taking care of ENDS or reviving badly damaged ENDS.

2. Does sealing your ENDS protect them? If so how do you do so?

3. I'm severely thinking of investing in a product line and just using those and discontinue my flip flop ways, so ladies which product lines does your hair adore and hate?

 

[NYAmicas]

All I can simply recommend is that you avoid too much manipulation on your ends after you cut it to ensure there is no further damage resulting in you having to trim or cut again. In addition, you should look for moisturizing products to apply to the ends and sealing will hopefully lock that moisture in.

 

[msa]

When I read your post last week (or a few days ago) about dying your hair I was wondering how it would turn out.

I don't really think you can revive badly damaged ends but you can try to DC to bring them back to life. But, usually that's just a waste of time.

I use castor oil on my hair every day. I moisturize with water in the evening and then add castor oil as I retwist, with a little extra on the ends. I undo my twists in the morning and go. I think the castor oil keeps the water from evaporating too quickly. By the end of the day it pretty much absorbs so I add more in the evening.

 

[luxe.li.]

Yeah I have a bad relationship with hair dyes. I am an art student, I go to art school, I do the artsy things at sometimes, which isn't an excuse, but I always screw myself over with my obsession with hair dye and it surely screwed my hair over.

I actually cut all the damage ends I could a few minutes ago. I measured the pieces, from .5 to 1 inch off. My hair is smoother now, it blends in, and I can feel already they they are healthier, but they are not at their healthiest stage.

I don't really like how castor oil feels on my hair, but I guess I will be using it to save my ends. My ends will be the make or break of my hair journey, because although I know my hair will grow with bad ends, I can't take it. It makes me sad.

So I will be keeping an eye on my ends from now on. I guess that includes wearing my silk scarves more often just to protect. I can't hide my ends like alot of females, my hair is too short. I wear beanies, so I'm going to have to practice covering my ends with a cap or a scarf the next time I wear my beanie.

 

[msa]

I don't really like how castor oil feels on my hair, but I guess I will be using it to save my ends. My ends will be the make or break of my hair journey, because although I know my hair will grow with bad ends, I can't take it. It makes me sad.

So I will be keeping an eye on my ends from now on. I guess that includes wearing my silk scarves more often just to protect. I can't hide my ends like alot of females, my hair is too short. I wear beanies, so I'm going to have to practice covering my ends with a cap or a scarf the next time I wear my beanie.

You don't have to use castor oil. There are lots of things you can use. Some people just leave their conditioner in and that's enough to protect their hair. You are right that you need to take special care of your ends though. Search the board and see if there is something you can use for protection that you do like. Examples: coconut oil, shea butter, olive oil, vaseline/unpetroleum jelly (ONLY after moisturizing).

I definitely think you should be using your silk scarves underneath your hats and beanies for that extra layer of protection.

Just know that your hair is always growing. The key is to retain that length. And the key to retention is keeping your ends healthy so that they don't break off or force you to trim.

 

[MA2010]

Castor Oil is amazing!!! You can also try Extra Virgin Coconut Oil (EVCO) which is thinner/lighter then Castor Oil. I can't reccommend a good line as I use almost everything.

What are using as a deep moisturizing conditioner? NTM is really great, especially their mask. Start with moisturizing your ends first by doing a DC with heat, then go from there.

HTH!

 

[Galadriel]

So sorry that happened! I love changing up my hair color too and had to force myself to leave those chemical dyes alone (I've been using cellophanes and just bought some Henna and Indigo).

It's good you cut off the damage (once they're killed/fried like that, there's no going back--it all needs to go!).
Now's the time to keep those ends moisturized and protected. If you don't like Castor Oil (which I would've also recommended), you can use coconut oil or EVOO. Like the other ladies suggested, tone down on manipulation and use products that will nourish and strengthen your hair.

These are the oils I use for my ends:

-Castor Oil
-EVOO
-Coconut

When I first started on my hair journey and was around NL I did sew-ins and phony-ponies. I'd spray a leave-in in my hair every day for the sew-in and I'd take down my phony-pony and moisturize 2x daily. This got me to SL in just a couple of months.

I protect my ends by bunning, wearing updo's, and staying away from too much direct heat.

Co-washing is good, as well as DCing once or twice a week.

HTH!

 

[trj1922]

Yeah I have a bad with hair dyes. I am an art student, I go to art school, I do the artsy things at sometimes, which isn't an excuse, but I always screw myself over with my obsession with hair dye and it surely screwed my hair over.

at the bolded!

My BA is in art and ITA. Gotta be careful as an artsy little Black girl. If you want to be edgy, it's best to leave the wacky colors and such to the white folks so that you can keep hair on your head. Your artsy funkiness will be safer if it comes from hats and scarves. Either that or go natural. Black people have naturally "creative-looking" hair!

 

[sheba1]

Oh, Luxe, I'm so sorry. Trim and then baby your ends. And you know what? You don't have to give up your obsession with dye. You could try different henna recipes or, the next time you get hit with the itch, put in a weave, cut it to about your length, THEN dye. Who says change is bad?

 

[luxe.li.]

at the bolded!

My BA is in art and ITA. Gotta be careful as an artsy little Black girl. If you want to be edgy, it's best to leave the wacky colors and such to the white folks so that you can keep hair on your head. Your artsy funkiness will be safer if it comes from hats and scarves. Either that or go natural. Black people have naturally "creative-looking" hair!

I am natural.

The funky colors? I don't do those, I'm just expressive, I did a chestnut honey color. I don't do red, blue, purple, I don't do those.

LOL, but I understand what you was thinking. I'm Fashion and Graphic Design and Personal Assist in the Entertainment Industry so I like to keep my hair looking fly, but I don't do weaves....but I'm giving up chemical dyes.

 

[luxe.li.]

So sorry that happened! I love changing up my hair color too and had to force myself to leave those chemical dyes alone (I've been using cellophanes and just bought some Henna and Indigo).

It's good you cut off the damage (once they're killed/fried like that, there's no going back--it all needs to go!).
Now's the time to keep those ends moisturized and protected. If you don't like Castor Oil (which I would've also recommended), you can use coconut oil or EVOO. Like the other ladies suggested, tone down on manipulation and use products that will nourish and strengthen your hair.

These are the oils I use for my ends:

-Castor Oil
-EVOO
-Coconut

When I first started on my hair journey and was around NL I did sew-ins and phony-ponies. I'd spray a leave-in in my hair every day for the sew-in and I'd take down my phony-pony and moisturize 2x daily. This got me to SL in just a couple of months.

I protect my ends by bunning, wearing updo's, and staying away from too much direct heat.

Co-washing is good, as well as DCing once or twice a week.

HTH!

I conditioner wash 3-4 times a week. I deep conditioner 2x a week.
I can't bun, I can't wear up doos, my hair is cut in the Rihanna hair style LOL.

But I have decided that I would direct heat 1x a month or 1x every two weeks like Pinkskates, but since I'm in school and I'm always in the lab doing work I'll probably narrow it down to Direct Heat 1x a month....meaning my hair is straight now, by this weekend when I get ready to wash it won't be straight again til next month.

I love Coconut oil, I don't really like EVOO or Castor Oil on my hair because I consider them heavy oils, but I'll do it just to protect my ends. Like I'll push what I don't like to the side.......

Oh, Luxe, I'm so sorry. Trim and then baby your ends. And you know what? You don't have to give up your obsession with dye. You could try different henna recipes or, the next time you get hit with the itch, put in a weave, cut it to about your length, THEN dye. Who says change is bad?

I don't like weaves LMFAOOOO. I tried doing tracks for color. I take them out after a day. I just don't do weaves, so I'mma just do Henna. But thanks.

Change isn't BAD, its GOOD, but it can be BAD if you do BAD things.....

 

[livesoundtech]

Dying my hair too much is what led me to find LHCF.

I dyed every 3-4 weeks for about 8 years, from root to tip...

I vowed in August of 2008 NEVER to dye my hair again. I used to have curly hair, like most of the ladies here, but the amount of chemicals I used dramatically changed my texture. I don't even know my natural texture or color anymore. I am 21 weeks "post" (I don't know if "post" is the correct word since I never relaxed, but trust me... the damage I caused was severe) but I only have 3cm of new growth.

As far as your ends are concerned, I would try a search and destroy... look for the damaged ends and snip them slightly.

Oil does help seal in moisture. I have stopped using shampoo for the time being and have been cowashing VERY often. I shampoo about once every 10 days, but I dilute the shampoo. Maybe you could use a shampoo without sulfates to minimize further damage? Anyway, I use olive oil on my ends to seal in moisture. I'm in love with Herbal Essences Long Term Relationship conditioner. Currently, my hair is loving Mega-Tek as well. I apply to the scalp as a leave-in. When I rinse it, my hair feels so clean that I don't even NEED shampoo.

Try baggying your ends at night, and sleeping with a silk headwrap (I use the ones from www.prettywrap.com).

Damage from hair dye is horrible... *sigh*... I have lost 4 inches in the past few years. I have not retained ANY growth... but since finding LHCF, I've been doing much better. Good luck! And if you need any help staying away from chemicals... remember that they test hair dyes on animals.

Henna is a great idea. Try indigo as well. However, I'd give your hair a rest for the next couple of weeks. HTH!

So I have no problem admitting when I am wrong. When I have done wrong.

Well I have committed a crime against my hair. This is not my first time doing this, but this is my first time doing it to my natural hair. I have an obsession with change which can be good and BAD. Tonight it was bad. I have killed my ends with hair dye. I have dyed my hair too many times and my hair is paying for it.

My ends are so dry, brittle, they don't blend in. I know they can be poisonous to my hair because my ends tend to split up the hair shaft. I've done this before as a relaxed head. You would of thought I learned my lesson. I guess not.

I want to cry but I should have known better.

So I'm in need of HELP. I need help on my recovery plan.

I am in the process of chopping off these ends. I have 3.5-4 inch long hair, I am cutting about a half inch off, and an inch off in bad areas. My hair is in the Rihanna cut, so my drastic cutting tonight will not result in me having a bad doo. The one thing it will do is push me back on my length and my growth, but what can I do? Anyway it'll grow back.

I'm officially starting over tonight.

I vow, NEVER to dye my hair chemically. If I want to dye my hair I will use Bigen or Henna, but I will steer towards Henna.

NO MORE Chemical Dyes from Walgreens or CVS....never again.


What I need from you LHCF is:


1. Methods to taking care of ENDS or reviving badly damaged ENDS.

2. Does sealing your ENDS protect them? If so how do you do so?

3. I'm severely thinking of investing in a product line and just using those and discontinue my flip flop ways, so ladies which product lines does your hair adore and hate?

 

[heyfranz]

Make sure you try the Kiya fizzle before chopping. I thought i destroyed my ends a couple of months ago - turns out they were just really dry

 

[Aggie]

There's an article here in this link that can help you:

http://www.associatedcontent.com/user/83046/audrey_sivasothy.html

 

[luxe.li.]

Make sure you try the Kiya fizzle before chopping. I thought i destroyed my ends a couple of months ago - turns out they were just really dry

Thanks,, but I already chopped. I really don't hesitate when it comes to getting rid of damaged hair. And honestly I'm so much happier that I cut the damage ends off. It looks the same since I have a short hair doo, short in the back long and full at the top, I wrapped it last night the opposite direction than I normally do and I unwrapped this morning. SMOOTH as a BABY's BOTTOM.

But thanks to all the ladies, PLEASE BELIEVE I'm taking all the advice I can get!

 

[luxe.li.]

There's an article here in this link that can help you:

http://www.associatedcontent.com/user/83046/audrey_sivasothy.html

OMG I love this link THANKS.

 

[Aggie]

OMG I love this link THANKS.

I thought you'd like it luxe.li. Happy reading!!!

 

[Nicole1976]

Luxe, I am reall sorry about your hair issue. I had a hair-dye disaster about 2 years ago also.

The only advice I have to offer, is to trim frequently until the dye is gone.

 

[hurricane]

So I have no problem admitting when I am wrong. When I have done wrong.

Well I have committed a crime against my hair. This is not my first time doing this, but this is my first time doing it to my natural hair. I have an obsession with change which can be good and BAD. Tonight it was bad. I have killed my ends with hair dye. I have dyed my hair too many times and my hair is paying for it.

My ends are so dry, brittle, they don't blend in. I know they can be poisonous to my hair because my ends tend to split up the hair shaft. I've done this before as a relaxed head. You would of thought I learned my lesson. I guess not.

I want to cry but I should have known better.

So I'm in need of HELP. I need help on my recovery plan.

I am in the process of chopping off these ends. I have 3.5-4 inch long hair, I am cutting about a half inch off, and an inch off in bad areas. My hair is in the Rihanna cut, so my drastic cutting tonight will not result in me having a bad doo. The one thing it will do is push me back on my length and my growth, but what can I do? Anyway it'll grow back.

I'm officially starting over tonight.

I vow, NEVER to dye my hair chemically. If I want to dye my hair I will use Bigen or Henna, but I will steer towards Henna.

NO MORE Chemical Dyes from Walgreens or CVS....never again.


What I need from you LHCF is:


1. Methods to taking care of ENDS or reviving badly damaged ENDS.

2. Does sealing your ENDS protect them? If so how do you do so?

3. I'm severely thinking of investing in a product line and just using those and discontinue my flip flop ways, so ladies which product lines does your hair adore and hate?

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Next time do a strand test and especially before you use henna or bigen. Take some hair out of your brush and sample some of the product you plan on using. I'm actually doing this now with henna.