Thought I would share.
I fired the person who has braided my hair over the last 5 years. I realized I have changed and I am no longer the person I was regarding my hair, when we first met.
Since learning more about textured hair and learning how to care for it, I am proud of my accomplishments and I now require people to respect it. For so many years, I allowed people to abuse my hair that during my braiding session last week, I knew that that would be the last time she would touch my hair.
When I sat in her chair she mentioned that she had cramps and was not in a good mood
I offered her an aspirin and handed her my combs. She refused and started to comb my hair.
Here we go:
She started combing my hair, with her combs. I was unsure if she had forgotten
I had just handed her my combs so I jokingly asked her if that was my comb. She then put down her comb and picked up mine (Did I just hear a sigh?)
I had already detangled my hair and put it in braids and twist, so she could work in sections, so why she taking down all my braids and twists? With half my head now unbraided she begins to comb through it with a tail comb:heated: Now my hair is re-tangling itself and all I hear is snap, crackle and pop. I then hand her my condition and ask her to please put some in my head before she combs it and if she could use a different comb. (Did I just hear another sigh and see a eye roll?)
She applies what looked liked a dime size amount of my conditioner to my :afro2:
hair. In a calm voice, I told her that wasn't enough and reached for the conditioner and slathered a lot all over my hair. She then says, your making your hair tangle more, I then reminded her that I had already detangled my hair and had it sectioned for her. I then asked her to please work in small sections.
She then begins braiding. After an hour of braiding, I notice that the braids are getting tighter. I let her know that the braids are getting too tight and that I prefer them not to be tight at all. Her reply: You need them to be tight. If there not tight, your hair is not going to grow and they are going to start looking crazy soon
(My pressure is starting to rise) I told her that my hair is going to break off if they are tight. She then tells me <<WAIT FOR IT>> that the reason my hair has grown like it has is because of her braiding my hair tight.
((( INSERT GIF OF WOMEN IN CHURCH WHO FALLS OUT ON ALTER AND HER WIG FALLS OFF)))
I can't brev.
In my mind. Wait one minute. One damn minute. You mean all the pre-poo'ing, no pre-poo'ing, deep conditioning, deep deep conditioning, co washing, steaming, acv'g, satin pillow casing, sulphur smelling, Mega-teking, castor oiling, ovationing, vitamin swallowing, jogging, green drinking, wig wearing, weaving, and hanging my butt upside down had nothing to do with????!!!!!
Once I was able to speak, I told her regardless of how it looks I didn't want it tight. She continued to braid. About half way through, I told her I need to use the bathroom. When i looked in the mirror I noticed she was doing it differently than i requested. :wall bash: When I got back to her chair, I turned the chair towards the mirror and showed her I said I wanted it.
Deal Breaker:
Her reply:
I am a stylist. I do what I think will look the best on you. The way you said you wanted, wouldn't have looked right. You have to many rules concerning your hair for me. I'm a artist, just let me be creative and do it the way I want.
She didn't braid my hair tight
and I continued to apply conditioner before she comb through my hair.
Neither of us spoke to each other over the next two hours. When she was finished
She informed me that her summer schedule fills up quickly and asked if I wanted to schedule my next visit
I told her no. I paid and I left.
I'm 90% happy about how I handled it.
I fired the person who has braided my hair over the last 5 years. I realized I have changed and I am no longer the person I was regarding my hair, when we first met.
Since learning more about textured hair and learning how to care for it, I am proud of my accomplishments and I now require people to respect it. For so many years, I allowed people to abuse my hair that during my braiding session last week, I knew that that would be the last time she would touch my hair.
When I sat in her chair she mentioned that she had cramps and was not in a good mood
I offered her an aspirin and handed her my combs. She refused and started to comb my hair.Here we go:
She started combing my hair, with her combs. I was unsure if she had forgotten
I had just handed her my combs so I jokingly asked her if that was my comb. She then put down her comb and picked up mine (Did I just hear a sigh?)
I had already detangled my hair and put it in braids and twist, so she could work in sections, so why she taking down all my braids and twists? With half my head now unbraided she begins to comb through it with a tail comb:heated: Now my hair is re-tangling itself and all I hear is snap, crackle and pop. I then hand her my condition and ask her to please put some in my head before she combs it and if she could use a different comb. (Did I just hear another sigh and see a eye roll?)
She applies what looked liked a dime size amount of my conditioner to my :afro2:
hair. In a calm voice, I told her that wasn't enough and reached for the conditioner and slathered a lot all over my hair. She then says, your making your hair tangle more, I then reminded her that I had already detangled my hair and had it sectioned for her. I then asked her to please work in small sections.
She then begins braiding. After an hour of braiding, I notice that the braids are getting tighter. I let her know that the braids are getting too tight and that I prefer them not to be tight at all. Her reply: You need them to be tight. If there not tight, your hair is not going to grow and they are going to start looking crazy soon
(My pressure is starting to rise) I told her that my hair is going to break off if they are tight. She then tells me <<WAIT FOR IT>> that the reason my hair has grown like it has is because of her braiding my hair tight. ((( INSERT GIF OF WOMEN IN CHURCH WHO FALLS OUT ON ALTER AND HER WIG FALLS OFF)))
I can't brev.
In my mind. Wait one minute. One damn minute. You mean all the pre-poo'ing, no pre-poo'ing, deep conditioning, deep deep conditioning, co washing, steaming, acv'g, satin pillow casing, sulphur smelling, Mega-teking, castor oiling, ovationing, vitamin swallowing, jogging, green drinking, wig wearing, weaving, and hanging my butt upside down had nothing to do with????!!!!!
Once I was able to speak, I told her regardless of how it looks I didn't want it tight. She continued to braid. About half way through, I told her I need to use the bathroom. When i looked in the mirror I noticed she was doing it differently than i requested. :wall bash: When I got back to her chair, I turned the chair towards the mirror and showed her I said I wanted it.
Deal Breaker:
Her reply:
I am a stylist. I do what I think will look the best on you. The way you said you wanted, wouldn't have looked right. You have to many rules concerning your hair for me. I'm a artist, just let me be creative and do it the way I want.
She didn't braid my hair tight
and I continued to apply conditioner before she comb through my hair.Neither of us spoke to each other over the next two hours. When she was finished
She informed me that her summer schedule fills up quickly and asked if I wanted to schedule my next visit
I told her no. I paid and I left.
I'm 90% happy about how I handled it.
I see a lot of edgeless and no nape clients get up out of her chair.
Taking notes... I know I've done at least two things from your list. Trying to see what else I can do.
