melodies815
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.....about other peoples' hands in your hair!!!!
Okaaaayyyyy...so I am in Missouri right now for training. The women in my group are all making comments about my hair...how they love it...how they wish more black/ethnic/african/african american (they don't know what to call us!) women embraced their natural hair...how they think black hair is more versatile....how they love it...when it happens! Someone put their hands in my hair!
Look...let me make my situation clear. I am in the wilderness. Training is happening inside, but during breaks, we are around dogs, cats, horses, mules, log cabins, tiny flying bugs, etc. People are touching the animals and not washing their hands. People are lying in the grass, enjoying the nature. These same people touched my HEAD!!!! UGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!!!
During breaks, I am sitting on the couch INSIDE, looking at everyone else, waiting on training to begin. Others are outside. Horseback riding. Playing with the cats and dogs. You get the picture, right???
The average black woman on this board is not allowing strangers who are doing the things I describe touch her person...much less, touch her hair.
Why???
Why????
Why....are we on the one hay ride we take, and the Hispanic woman who was rolling on the ground with the St. Bernard puppy reaches into my afro and says, "I LOOOOVVVE Your HAIR!!!!!"
I ducked so hard that I gave myself whiplash!!! She snatched her hand back and held it to her body. I must have looked really crazy, but all I could imagine was the St. Bernard slobber on her hands that was now in my hair. I died a slow hair death....
I closed my eyes real hard and took a deep breath and said, "I don't want to be funny, but please, please, please don't touch my hair. I am really funny about my hair. Don't touch it, okay? I mean, my husband can't play in my hair except on occasions when it cannot be helped...know what I mean? So...please don't....I mean...it's so serious. Don't do that again okay?" I was smiling and frowning and looking probably really crazy because I wanted to be nice, but I also wanted her to understand how serious I was. It was so hard. She just held her hand. I out on my hoodie.
I was freaking out.
Ladies...why did it happen again not an hour later with another woman who had seen the first incident?!?!? I almost chopped her hand off!!!
It would have been easier for me if we were in line at Wal Mart...
....but we were in the doggone wilderness with dogs and fleas and drunk people who went to the bathroom and didn't wash hands afterwards...well....and I just almost died.
I mean it.
I almost died inside.
When I got back to my hotel room, I wanted to trim my hair simply because it had been touched. I washed it twice instead.
I am grossed out beyond belief. I didn't think I would be affected this way, but now that I have my own random hair touching story...
let's just say I understand what other women have felt. I never thought it would happen to me, but I feel so violated. With the second woman, I just showed out. I said very loudly while looking at the ground,
"MY HAIR IS NOT SHOW AND TELL! DON'T TOUCH MY HAIR!!!"
I said it very kindly, but I said it very loudly too. No one responded, ad after a moment or two, the moment passed. Everyone left my hair alone after that, and I am fine with that. I want to get trained, not make hair friends. Ohhh...I am going to wash again....
I need lots of LHCF hugs, please.
Please send love my way because I have two more days of training..
...in the woods...
...in Missouri...
...pray for me, okay?
cj
Okaaaayyyyy...so I am in Missouri right now for training. The women in my group are all making comments about my hair...how they love it...how they wish more black/ethnic/african/african american (they don't know what to call us!) women embraced their natural hair...how they think black hair is more versatile....how they love it...when it happens! Someone put their hands in my hair!
Look...let me make my situation clear. I am in the wilderness. Training is happening inside, but during breaks, we are around dogs, cats, horses, mules, log cabins, tiny flying bugs, etc. People are touching the animals and not washing their hands. People are lying in the grass, enjoying the nature. These same people touched my HEAD!!!! UGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!!!
During breaks, I am sitting on the couch INSIDE, looking at everyone else, waiting on training to begin. Others are outside. Horseback riding. Playing with the cats and dogs. You get the picture, right???
The average black woman on this board is not allowing strangers who are doing the things I describe touch her person...much less, touch her hair.
Why???
Why????
Why....are we on the one hay ride we take, and the Hispanic woman who was rolling on the ground with the St. Bernard puppy reaches into my afro and says, "I LOOOOVVVE Your HAIR!!!!!"
I ducked so hard that I gave myself whiplash!!! She snatched her hand back and held it to her body. I must have looked really crazy, but all I could imagine was the St. Bernard slobber on her hands that was now in my hair. I died a slow hair death....
I closed my eyes real hard and took a deep breath and said, "I don't want to be funny, but please, please, please don't touch my hair. I am really funny about my hair. Don't touch it, okay? I mean, my husband can't play in my hair except on occasions when it cannot be helped...know what I mean? So...please don't....I mean...it's so serious. Don't do that again okay?" I was smiling and frowning and looking probably really crazy because I wanted to be nice, but I also wanted her to understand how serious I was. It was so hard. She just held her hand. I out on my hoodie.
I was freaking out.
Ladies...why did it happen again not an hour later with another woman who had seen the first incident?!?!? I almost chopped her hand off!!!
It would have been easier for me if we were in line at Wal Mart...
....but we were in the doggone wilderness with dogs and fleas and drunk people who went to the bathroom and didn't wash hands afterwards...well....and I just almost died.
I mean it.
I almost died inside.
When I got back to my hotel room, I wanted to trim my hair simply because it had been touched. I washed it twice instead.
I am grossed out beyond belief. I didn't think I would be affected this way, but now that I have my own random hair touching story...
let's just say I understand what other women have felt. I never thought it would happen to me, but I feel so violated. With the second woman, I just showed out. I said very loudly while looking at the ground,
"MY HAIR IS NOT SHOW AND TELL! DON'T TOUCH MY HAIR!!!"
I said it very kindly, but I said it very loudly too. No one responded, ad after a moment or two, the moment passed. Everyone left my hair alone after that, and I am fine with that. I want to get trained, not make hair friends. Ohhh...I am going to wash again....
I need lots of LHCF hugs, please.
Please send love my way because I have two more days of training..
...in the woods...
...in Missouri...
...pray for me, okay?
cj