HUSBAND FOR RENT

[InJesusName]

I had to post this in a separate thread. I have been ranting and raving about my braid removal disaster, and sometimes my loving hubby does not help!! I just had to vent.

It started this morning as I was making my advocado hair mask. His response... "All of Your Hair is going to fall out" (This from a guy who has hair shorter than my eyelashes!!!!!!) Let's not mention the "When are you going to get a perm? I did not realize your hair was so nappy" from last nite. Then it progressed to the string of "I told you so's" when my hair was in a knotty mess after washing it this morning to the final "There's hair everywhere! Next time you are cleaning out the drain!" At this point I kicked him out the bathroom.

My hair is important to me, and I REFUSE to give up on it. I know that I can get it to grow, but it gets hard when all I hear is negativity about my hair regimen, but have to witness the stares he gives to my fellow sisters with long hair.

Sorry about the vent guys, but you are my only source of positive reinforcement. I can't wait until my hair grows so he can put a sock in it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[MizaniMami]

Awww, that's probably his own little way of being worried about you. I know my SO can get like that sometimes.

I think he probably doesn't see a lot of black women with long hair and he doesn't want you to get all worked up achieving something he know isn't possible. WE here at LHCF know this is VERY possible, but he probably doesn't.

Then again, he is a man (and we dang shold know they ain't perfect) and probably doesn't know your hair is a big deal to you. It's okay, girl you have us. Don't discuss you hair with him no more, all your frustrations just vent them on LHCF.

 

[Kimberly]

To me, it sounds like he is expressing some concerns. At least he notices your hair. I was with one that probably couldn't have managed to look up from a football game if my head was on fire (although, he did once try to help me take some braids out. To me, it soulds like he's taking an interest just maybe doesn't know how to best relay that to you in a way that makes you feel good about your progress. Maybe you could try talking to him but you should try to hear what it sounds to me he is really saying like instead of "when are you going to get a perm?" he really means "OMG! Look how much your hair has grown!"

These are just my opinions. I'm not trying to offend anyone with my opinion. But I'm sure it will all be fine.

 

[MonaRae]

Worry not about the negativity! Your hair IS growing if it was not so you would be bald!

I did not read your post on your braid disaster so I don't have all the info. But let bygones be bygones. I had a disaster and I had to let it go. It was hard but I told myself "it's the past, let it stay there".

Since then I have stop combing my hair. I am currently 12.5 weeks post and I found that washing less is important to hair after 10 weeks post.

If you have not found what works for you search this site and try what you think is best. And post as needed for all the support you need.

And the next time your Hubby looks at a beautiful Black Lady with long hair... It will be you!

MonaRae

 

[FloridaSunshine]

Sounds like your husband and mine could have been brothers in a past life. Four years ago I heard all the same complaints and now he is wanting to help me pick out colors to try on my hair. He will even come home with styles I should try on my hair. And yes, he is in love with every natural head of hair he sees!!!!!! So, in time if you dont retaliate he will get over it and then be apologizing for how wrong he was....

 

[Supergirl]

Awww, I'm so sorry punkin' But the title of your thread is dang funny!

Don't worry. One day, he will have to witness the stares that you and your hair are getting from his fellow long-hair-lovin' brothers. Then you can do an "I told you so!"

 

[ladybug71]

Don't give up on your hair. I would just ignore hubby's comments and keep doing what you're doing. Keep up your regime and your efforts will pay off in the end! GL!

 

[sareca]

After seeing the progress my hair has made, my husband could watch me set my hair on fire and not say one word. Just keep doing what you're doing. He'll come around.

 

[InJesusName]

Thanks guys! He came back home with flowers to say he was sorry. He is a sweet guy, but he just loves the taste of his own toe jam sometimes (open mouth and insert foot). He even offered to help me put in my Phyto Relaxer--not sure if I will take him up on it, but the thought was kinda sweet!

 

[MzOptimistic]

I had to post this in a separate thread. I have been ranting and raving about my braid removal disaster, and sometimes my loving hubby does not help!! I just had to vent.

It started this morning as I was making my advocado hair mask. His response... "All of Your Hair is going to fall out" (This from a guy who has hair shorter than my eyelashes!!!!!!) Let's not mention the "When are you going to get a perm? I did not realize your hair was so nappy" from last nite. Then it progressed to the string of "I told you so's" when my hair was in a knotty mess after washing it this morning to the final "There's hair everywhere! Next time you are cleaning out the drain!" At this point I kicked him out the bathroom.

My hair is important to me, and I REFUSE to give up on it. I know that I can get it to grow, but it gets hard when all I hear is negativity about my hair regimen, but have to witness the stares he gives to my fellow sisters with long hair.

Sorry about the vent guys, but you are my only source of positive reinforcement. I can't wait until my hair grows so he can put a sock in it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You are just starting out and will get the hang of it REAL soon...my bf laughed @ me when I started using MTG and he definitely got a kick when I tried the NF...he said WTF that is for jock itch and when I wash my hair like every three days he laughs at me...when I first joined I use to run to him and say things relating to my hair and he would respond...you're telling me this becauuuuuuse.... (that's his favorite saying) but now I don't tell him anything but he sees my hair is growing...I will just have to shock his A@# in December along with everyone else....girl men don't understand...don't worry about him and when your hair grow down your back...don't let him play in it....

 

[Mystic]

The other thing you can do and is stop expressing to him your hair goals. Do your thing but do not verbalize your hair growth expectation. Very soon, he will see your progress and begin to change his negativity towards your hair.

 

[Ebonygurl00]

Aww, at least he brought you flowers! He realizes what he said was wrong. I didn't see your other thread, but I hope that everything is OK now!

 

[chayil0427]

I had to post this in a separate thread. I have been ranting and raving about my braid removal disaster, and sometimes my loving hubby does not help!! I just had to vent.

It started this morning as I was making my advocado hair mask. His response... "All of Your Hair is going to fall out" (This from a guy who has hair shorter than my eyelashes!!!!!!) Let's not mention the "When are you going to get a perm? I did not realize your hair was so nappy" from last nite. Then it progressed to the string of "I told you so's" when my hair was in a knotty mess after washing it this morning to the final "There's hair everywhere! Next time you are cleaning out the drain!" At this point I kicked him out the bathroom.

My hair is important to me, and I REFUSE to give up on it. I know that I can get it to grow, but it gets hard when all I hear is negativity about my hair regimen, but have to witness the stares he gives to my fellow sisters with long hair.

Sorry about the vent guys, but you are my only source of positive reinforcement. I can't wait until my hair grows so he can put a sock in it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MEN! I tell you. At church the other week, my hair was really poodle like from a roller set experiment the night before, and my ex, who knows I'm growing out my hair, asked me, "What happened to it?" I wanted to smack him, but men you know...it's hard for a lot of them to understand. When you're stuff is swinging and flowing in the wind he'll be the proudest brother around. So do what you do girlfriend. ::Chayil offers her a free Crazy Hair Style pass:: we all have those days.

Chayil