MissJ
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I graduated last year, and I e-mailed one of my professors recently asking him to be a reference for me. He e-mailed me back with one question, asking how my ex-boyfriend is doing. Okay, that's definitely not a question I would have expected him to ask, given the fact that I broke up with my ex-boyfriend years ago and that I had not seen him since 2009.
My ex went to a school, and I started at the same school a couple years later. During my first year, my ex went to this particular professor for advisement. Somehow during the meeting, my ex told the man that I wanted to get married to him, but he did not want to get married. He also said that I moved there following him. Completes lies. Anyway, the professor responded to this by taking out his book that has all of the students' pictures and looked me up.
Then I spent the next 3 semesters after that in the professor's classes. As a result of my ex' lies, the man asks me about him every time he sees me. I haven't seen my professor in over a year, but the last time I saw him I answered questions about the ex but said that I did not like him in a romantic way. The professor was insinuating that I would be moving to be with my ex, who was presumably moving out of state.
The truth about the ex is that I have questions about his mental stability. I have not seen him since June 26, 2009, the day after Michael Jackson passed away. This idiot claimed he wanted to be nice to me by taking me to dinner on that day. Well, I drove, missed a turn, and he started screaming. We weren't even in the car for 5 minutes when he started. I immediately turned around to drop his crazy behind off at his place. As I started to drive off, this fool jumped on the hood of my car. He would not get off, and I did not want to throw him off the car in the middle of the night. He eventually sat up on the hood of my car and started banging on the windshield. I was so upset, but I wouldn't get out of the car, nor would I take my foot off the brakes with him sitting up there. People were trying to drive by and didn't know why I was stopped in the middle of the driveway. It was a mess. I would say that the idiot was up there at least 5 or 10 minutes until he figured out that I was not getting out of the car.
I went home, very upset. I called my parents. My dad pointed out something to me that I didn't even think about. What if I had ran him over and killed him? He said that he knew two brothers from back in the day. One brother ran in front of the other brother's car and was run over. He said that my ex' family would say I had ran over him and killed him on purpose. I could go to prison. A few days later, one of his friends messaged me on Facebook about the car incident, and he was laughing. I told him what really happened, and he said he hadn't heard all of that. I told him that if the ex ever came near me again, I would take out a restraining order on him.
So, I really do not want anyone asking me about this fool, but I would probably look bad by telling my professor the truth about the ex. If I mention retraining order, that's going to sound extra and dramatic. If I tell the story of what happened, I'll probably sound bitter and crazy or be giving too much information. If I say that I don't know, he's going to keep asking about the lunatic, insisting that I like the guy in a romantic way. I also don't want to give the professor bad feelings about me, as people will be calling him asking about me for jobs in the future. Any suggestions?
My ex went to a school, and I started at the same school a couple years later. During my first year, my ex went to this particular professor for advisement. Somehow during the meeting, my ex told the man that I wanted to get married to him, but he did not want to get married. He also said that I moved there following him. Completes lies. Anyway, the professor responded to this by taking out his book that has all of the students' pictures and looked me up.
Then I spent the next 3 semesters after that in the professor's classes. As a result of my ex' lies, the man asks me about him every time he sees me. I haven't seen my professor in over a year, but the last time I saw him I answered questions about the ex but said that I did not like him in a romantic way. The professor was insinuating that I would be moving to be with my ex, who was presumably moving out of state.
The truth about the ex is that I have questions about his mental stability. I have not seen him since June 26, 2009, the day after Michael Jackson passed away. This idiot claimed he wanted to be nice to me by taking me to dinner on that day. Well, I drove, missed a turn, and he started screaming. We weren't even in the car for 5 minutes when he started. I immediately turned around to drop his crazy behind off at his place. As I started to drive off, this fool jumped on the hood of my car. He would not get off, and I did not want to throw him off the car in the middle of the night. He eventually sat up on the hood of my car and started banging on the windshield. I was so upset, but I wouldn't get out of the car, nor would I take my foot off the brakes with him sitting up there. People were trying to drive by and didn't know why I was stopped in the middle of the driveway. It was a mess. I would say that the idiot was up there at least 5 or 10 minutes until he figured out that I was not getting out of the car.
I went home, very upset. I called my parents. My dad pointed out something to me that I didn't even think about. What if I had ran him over and killed him? He said that he knew two brothers from back in the day. One brother ran in front of the other brother's car and was run over. He said that my ex' family would say I had ran over him and killed him on purpose. I could go to prison. A few days later, one of his friends messaged me on Facebook about the car incident, and he was laughing. I told him what really happened, and he said he hadn't heard all of that. I told him that if the ex ever came near me again, I would take out a restraining order on him.
So, I really do not want anyone asking me about this fool, but I would probably look bad by telling my professor the truth about the ex. If I mention retraining order, that's going to sound extra and dramatic. If I tell the story of what happened, I'll probably sound bitter and crazy or be giving too much information. If I say that I don't know, he's going to keep asking about the lunatic, insisting that I like the guy in a romantic way. I also don't want to give the professor bad feelings about me, as people will be calling him asking about me for jobs in the future. Any suggestions?
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