How should this trim work?

[arosieworld]

Its late where I am so I am going to have fun and make this a poll....

I need to trim my hair...Its official.....I don't like it one bit!
I went to the hair dresser on my birthday November 29th (if anyone is keeping track I owe you an update I'm sorry)
She trimmed it barely enough to notice but I was MAD (my mom says cows get mad and people get angry but I was MAD, straight up hot!!) about it...It wasn't her fault I was totally blaming the messenger but still she should have ignored it because I wasn't ready to hear my ends were done!
Inside I knew but it was a summer full of short skirts and late nights........What was I supposed to do? Really? Did I also mention I'm lazy?
Well, whatever the reason my hair really was fried but I only let her take off like 1/2 inch but it should have been more...I want to cut it myself now because I have excepted my fate (granted its been a month and I'm a little late and I should have just let her do it), I am ready to release the ends...I am not yet ready to examine the practices that lead to this but one step at a time...........
I have been looking into the split-ender because I am afraid to trim my hair or going back to the stylist and having her cut it.....(still sort of bitter) so maybe going to a much cheaper stylist and totally dictating instructions....but then I should just do it myself but let's face it; that will leave me no one else to blame if it gets messed up....
I just don't know what to do......
I hate to lose length but I also want, what I want, when I want it....LOL Anyhoo its time for arosieworld to man up and trim but should I start the search and destroy addiction (it will save money in the long run)? Should I find the split ender? Should I go to a new un-tainted stylist? Should I keep my appointment with the hair chopper (this is not a valid option because its not till the end of next month so I will probably go no matter what but I have no patience so I need to do this in the next 72 or freak......I make split/rash decisions and then work it/with it (^^see avatar)

 

[Janet']

Hahahahaha....I love the internal talking...Ummm...hmm, I hear the Splitender is a genius of an apparatus or you could always go to one of those salons (like Hair Cuttery type) I hear they truly only cut what you ask for...Don't you do anything rash though...Move away from the scissors!!!

 

[TamedTresses]

Personally, I would go for a good trim by a stylist. Make sure you are facing the mirror and pay attention, so they don't cut too much.

 

[arosieworld]

See that is what I have been thinking! The trade secret at the mall is 30 for a cut and style right now but can I trust them to blow out my hair???? It really is super easy, a toddler could do it but I am not in the mood for guff and its at the uppity mall.
heeeeeeemmmmmmmmmm and haaaaaawwwwwwwwwwww
Is it wrong to profile your stylist and look for a black girl with healthy hair? If so how wrong on a scale of 1-10?

 

[TamedTresses]

See that is what I have been thinking! The trade secret at the mall is 30 for a cut and style right now but can I trust them to blow out my hair???? It really is super easy, a toddler could do it but I am not in the mood for guff and its at the uppity mall.
heeeeeeemmmmmmmmmm and haaaaaawwwwwwwwwwww
Is it wrong to profile your stylist and look for a black girl with healthy hair? If so how wrong on a scale of 1-10?

A cut and style is different to a trim. Don't make them think that you want a cut, because then they'll get to chopping.

I don't think it's wrong to profile a stylist. I like stylist who have healthy hair on their head. If you can't take care of your hair, how can you take care of mine?

 

[arosieworld]

^^^^^^^Trim that's all I want! I have to be careful not to say cut....I only want like 1/4 of an inch off......I always tell the stylist they could just pretend to cut and I would still pay them... Scissors make me soooo nervous......

 

[TamedTresses]

^^^^^^^Trim that's all I want! I have to be careful not to say cut....I only want like 1/4 of an inch off......I always tell the stylist they could just pretend to cut and I would still pay them... Scissors make me soooo nervous......

I need to be your stylist. I'll give you the best "trim" EVAH!

 

[divachyk]

^^^^^^^Trim that's all I want! I have to be careful not to say cut....I only want like 1/4 of an inch off......I always tell the stylist they could just pretend to cut and I would still pay them... Scissors make me soooo nervous......

I too like the talking to self thing that you got going. I would go to a stylist and have him/her trim and then perhaps you can maintain from there. But like previously stated, don't doing anything rash.

 

[inneedofhelptx]

I can understand your apprehension. There are many stylists who don't know the difference between a cut and a trim. You'll just have to be very specific about what your expectations. It's always good to start off with an example of an over zealous FORMER stylist who you had to let go because she cut too much hair....lol

 

[mzteaze]

I am in the same boat - I need a trim. The last two "trims" resulted in about 1.5 inches (or so) being cut off both times. Granted the first time, it was likely needed, the second time not so much.

I hadn't heard of the Splitender until this thread so I had to do some research into it. It sounds good but I don't know if I really trust it yet. I have seen some good reviews on YT but previous bouts of PJ-ism has me skeptical. Why? Mainly because I have to straighten my hair first to even get ready to try it out. With the three pass rule, I could see this taking all day.

S&D - sounds like a possibility for me. Again, I need to straighten my hair and section it. But one pass should be good and rather quick for me. The big question is - DO I TRUST my ability to do this without messing up my hair too much? My natural curls and twistouts won't show any real cutting mishaps but what happens when I want to wear it straight for special occasions?

Breaking in a Stylist - This is hard, but also has to be done (at some point) because there are other services that I won't attempt to do on my own hair. If you go this way, try to find someone that you feel comfortable talking to and asking questions. Finding your comfort zone will help to alleviate any discomfort you have with getting professional trim.

 

[lana]

I would suggest that you go to a shop, take a friend with you (to watch what you can't see when they start trimming) and tell them exactly how much you want trimmed off your already blown out, flat ironed hair. Make sure you hair is easy to comb through and perfectly straight, so that you can get the neatest trim possible. Go to a SuperCuts, Hair Cuttery or one of those type of shops. Shouldn't cost more than $20.

Make sure you show them EXACTLY how much you want cut and have your friend monitor it. You should be fine.

I do all my trims myself and so far I have never been dissatisfied. But, sometimes I trim so little, that I have to go back and re-trim it the next time. I always felt like if someone is going to mess up my hair, it better be ME. I'm done with stylist myself. I'm only suggesting one for you, because you seem like cutting it yourself is not an option. But IMO - this is a great time to learn. I've never been happier with my hair and it's never been longer! Doing everything myself - works.

 

[Iamhim]

I've let my husband trim my hair for the past two years now. I tell him to cut straight across the bottom, and he does just what I ask him to. I do a search and destroy for all other areas. When I reach my goal of WL...I MIGHT go get a professional trim.

 

[levone]

I would go back to the stylist who just did your previous trim. It sounds like she is not scissor happy.

BTW,I would love to trim my own hair professionally. I called myself trimming my twists (over multiple sessions) about a year ago and screwed my hair up and had to get a lot trimmed off at the stylist when my hair was blown out and you could see the horrible ends.

 

[Nayna]

I would go back to the stylist who just did your previous trim. It sounds like she is not scissor happy.

BTW,I would love to trim my own hair professionally. I called myself trimming my twists (over multiple sessions) about a year ago and screwed my hair up and had to get a lot trimmed off at the stylist when my hair was blown out and you could see the horrible ends.

That's exactly what I was going to say.

 

[arosieworld]

Thank you ladies for all your advice feel free to keep it coming.
I still haven't decided but I am off work and I am seriously considering driving from big lots to big lots looking for the split ender.......

 

[arosieworld]

I think I am going to test this lady at the Walmart salon....I know that may sound crazy but I bought a bunch of joico on sale there yesterday and she was super sweet and said she would even use a ruler and stop every few hairs if it would calm me down..... lol