Hi ladies...I have been a FAITHFUL reader of this board for a very long time and I just want to start off by thanking each and every one of you for your great threads. I am coming out of just reading and reaching out for your help. My hair is about a 4b. I decided that I want to go natural. My last relaxer was March 1st. I am growing out my relaxer as opposed to cutting my hair. At about 8 weeks in, I put in a sewn in weave to give my hair a break as it transitioned. Upon taking the weave out and going to get my hair washed by the Dominicans, I lost alot of hair. I believe that was a result of my hair being tangled when it was being washed and the stylist being rough while combing it out. Right after, I put a ponytail weave in my hair. I wore that for 2 weeks and just took it out on Tuesday. Once again, my hair was tangled and I lost hair again. At this point, my hair no longer has body. It is long (close to BSL) and thin. I have been crying since Tuesday and no one understands why I am making such a big deal as "it's only hair, it will grow back." I decided to turn you ladies for support as I know at least one person on here will understand. I am so frustrated that I am going to relax my hair. I know I should not do it now because my hair is fragile. I was thinking that I would refrain from putting anymore weaves in my hair, keep transitioning while getting weekly DC's at the Dominicans and hope that the body returns. Any suggestions for me in terms of restoring the body and getting my hair where it used to be? Please forgive me if I have not been clear, I am really upset. Thanks for your time and I appreciate any help. God bless you all
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Irresistible
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wny are you going to relax when your already knowing that you shouldnt when your hair is already fragile like you said. It just thinned out thats not a good time for a relaxer right? You can still transition, just find/make other ways to do it besides wearing a sew in , and give it time to recover
ajoyfuljoy
Well-Known Member
i think you should really decide whether or not you want to transition before you do something that you will regret.
Either way though I'd say you need a good month of DCing, protective styling, scalp care and light protein treatments (maybe heavy depending on your hair but you must always do hardcore DCing afterwards) to whip your hair back into shape.
You should also work on detangling your hair and getting shed hair out gently. Put on a wig and don't worry about style for now.
A relaxer won't fix your hair's problems. I always make sure my hair is in tip top shape before I relax and i seriously baby it afterwards. I'm 2 weeks post and I haven't even rollerset it yet (although I would have liked to have done it this weekend).
Just be patient, figure out what you want and go from there. Hair always grows and you'll get it the way you want in time
Either way though I'd say you need a good month of DCing, protective styling, scalp care and light protein treatments (maybe heavy depending on your hair but you must always do hardcore DCing afterwards) to whip your hair back into shape.
You should also work on detangling your hair and getting shed hair out gently. Put on a wig and don't worry about style for now.
A relaxer won't fix your hair's problems. I always make sure my hair is in tip top shape before I relax and i seriously baby it afterwards. I'm 2 weeks post and I haven't even rollerset it yet (although I would have liked to have done it this weekend).
Just be patient, figure out what you want and go from there. Hair always grows and you'll get it the way you want in time
winnettag
New Member
I'm still new myself and don't have much advice to give. Personally, pencil sized braids did my hair a world of good, but that might be too much pulling on your hair at this point.
Anyway, I really came in here to say welcome!
I know the ladies will chime in and give you great advice. Good luck!
Anyway, I really came in here to say welcome!
I know the ladies will chime in and give you great advice. Good luck!
Stiletto_Diva
Well-Known Member
DC'ing will help alot with the tangles. You should take a day and spend all day DC'ing and detangling you hair to make sure that all of the tangles are gone. it also helps not to wear your hair down. if braids don't seem to work for you you should try bunning or some other type of protective style. If you really want to be natural, don't let this bump in your plan make you change your mind. Stick through it and when you're all natural you will be happy that you didn't give up.
Angelicus
Well-Known Member
Welcome to the board. I totally agree with the other members. Your hair definitely needs a break... before it breaks even more. Have you ever thought of using braids to give your hair a break? There are awesome tips on here and on growafrohairlong.com to help you along the way. I am really sorry that you are indecisive about your hair right now but don't do anything drastic.
MariposaSexyGirl
Well-Known Member
Alot of time it seems like relaxed hair isn't suppose to be weaved up like that unless you are making sure you taking great care of the relaxed hair under the weave. You shouldn't run straight to a relaxer if your hair is breaking because it could break more. You should try caring for it until it's in better condition then relax.
ButterflyBeauty
New Member
I am a natural 4a/b. I used to wear braids often and it made my hair very dry and thin.When I stooped wearing braids often my hair got stronger and thicker. Artifical hair has a lot of chemicals that are very drying. You really should stay away from the weaves.
Also you are transitioning so you hair is in a super fragile state because of demarcation. You have two textures on one strand so the relaxed portaion is very fragile and will break off if not treated properly. You must proctective style with your oown hair and condition often.
Finally, going to the Dominicans may not be the best thing. I think Dominican shops are great once in a while. But the amount of heat they use is really not for weak hair. Also, it is not for frequent styling. Talk to spme of the transitioning ladies who wear beautiful styles. They may help give you options.
You can do this!!! and you hair will be strong and beautiful. What you are on the inside reflects on the outside. Peace
Also you are transitioning so you hair is in a super fragile state because of demarcation. You have two textures on one strand so the relaxed portaion is very fragile and will break off if not treated properly. You must proctective style with your oown hair and condition often.
Finally, going to the Dominicans may not be the best thing. I think Dominican shops are great once in a while. But the amount of heat they use is really not for weak hair. Also, it is not for frequent styling. Talk to spme of the transitioning ladies who wear beautiful styles. They may help give you options.
You can do this!!! and you hair will be strong and beautiful. What you are on the inside reflects on the outside. Peace
PuddingPop
Well-Known Member
If you want to continue going to the shop to get your hair done and you feel like they are not being patient and gentle while washing and detangling your hair, why not wash and detangle your hair at home and then just go to the salon for a roller set or whatever. This is what I do because I dont really like other people washing my hair. I wash it at home, slap on some conditioner and a plastic cap then head to the salon.
