Hello all, I felt guilty that I had not updated this thread with what I had found.
So I have come to the conclusion that there is no way that Afro detangler was only the ingredients that wer listed on the bottle. For the following reasons:
Soy Lecthin or any Lecithin emulsion can only been up to 50: 50 water in oil. Any more than that and you would have to have a second emollient for the watery consistency that the previous product had.
This product was at last 70% to 85% water. All of the ingredients listed would have been in the oil phase (you can arge the the orange and green tea extracts could have been in the water phase but its unlikely.
The color of the product. This product was pink. By the ingredients listed would have made a yellow product. All of the lecithins I have come across are an amber color, wheat germ oil is yellow, avocado oil can be a pale yellow as is the green tea extract.
So I started thinking what was the product really? And I think I Have a better idea. I remmeber when there was a ton of products sold online that were just a base witha few add ins and I found this last night:
http://www.texasnaturalsupply.com/Creme-Extra-Conditioner-Base-All-Natural-p/cecb2-bs.htm
short story the ingredients are: Water, Aloe Vera Juice, Shea Butter, BTMS, Avocado Oil, Wheat Germ Oil, Silver Dihydrogen Citrate, Citric Acid
I think that the best bet is that she addedsome butters and extracts to the base, watered it down and sld it as "home made". I don't think it is impossible to make this yourself with the ingredients listed on the bottle. I think it would take BTMS or a better O/W emollient (this is an emolllient that can make oil in water mixtures with or really without the Lecithin) to make something close to what she produced.