Have You Ever Cried Over Your Hair?

[jeanne516]

I almost started crying last week, when I took my weave out...my hair went from just below bsl, to above bsl, uneven, broke off, and split...I ended up cutting my hair to APL.

 

[Brownie518]

I have never cried over my hair, and it has been downright ugly at times. I can't imagine ever crying over it, either.

 

[meaganita]

It's been so long since I've cried over my hair, I can't even remember.

But I've definitely been there.

 

[RosesBlack]

I did about two weeks ago during roller setting attempt 90,452. I let the rollers kinda fall out of my hair into my lap and sat there crying my eyes out.

Good thing, my boyfriend went out and bought me pie to make me feel better and told me my hair looked pretty.

 

[vivEz daNs lamouR]

Last time I cried about my hair (like, bawling with the sucking in of air and then pause, cry, pause, cry) was in April. I had been doing my hair by myself consistently for about 6 months or so, except I was doing it wrong because I was blow drying AND flat ironing every single week. I didn't DC, I didn't use ANY protein of any sort, I just kind of cheaply washed and went.

Anyway, I wanted to try a weave because I had never had one in before and so I asked my best friend to do a full sew in for me while leaving part of my hair out. It came out B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L. Loved it, everyone loved it, I loved it. My best friend told me to moisturize the braids and hair underneath, and me being me, I basically said "Abruhaha, blasphemy!"

Fast forward to 6 weeks later when as my boyfriend is helping me take out my tracks and I then wash and get ready to do my normal routine, I notice that my hair is SO uneven. Literally, it looks like if someone went at my hair with an electric saw. I flat ironed my hair anyway, and then I remember that my boyfriend walked into the room and said "Hey babe your hair looks great!" and I just burst into tears. My hair was sooo dry, damaged, brittle, uneven, full of split ends, that I had to do a BC to CHIN LENGTH.

Reliving the story, I guess I should really give myself some credit, because since then I vowed to take care of my hair and now thanks to you lovely ladies I went from chin length hair to *hopefully* APL in a total of about 7 months.

 

[crazydaze911]

I cry all the time...my hair grows so slowly so when I get trims sometimes I end up crying because I know it's gonna take forever just to get the length I needed back and then some.

Ditto! i feel ur pain. especially when i let them CONVINCE me my ends need to be "evened out". my hair grows so slow, even trimming once every THREE months leaves me with "reverse progress"
hey, i think i officially want to add a new acronym to LHCF - RP (reverse progress)

 

[ajoyfuljoy]

Hell Yea! But only when it's shedding & breaking like CRAZY!

It happened to me once too. I looked in the mirror and it was like four inches dissapeared overnight. No joke My ends looked like a dog chewed at it. I'd just got my hair cut a couple months ago and my hair already looked like crap!

Now I trim once a year. Yay-yuh!

 

[curlcomplexity]

I used to cry alot about it when I was a little kid...I mean at least once a week especially when my mom chopped it all off (practically bald at the age of 8). I was the only one in my family that had bald patches and thin hair. My dad used to make fun of me alot and say that I was baldheaded b/c I was malnourished. Turned out, I have iron-deficient anemia.

 

[crazydaze911]

I just finished...amzing how I just came across this thread. I am so frustrated with my hair. I have been trying to grow out my edges and nothing seems to work which could give me a little bit of growth past my SL if they hurried and caught up with the growth on the rest of my hair...
I wear wigs now cause I am embarassed of my hair falling out. It feels like defeat and brings up too many old wounds from childhood. Since I wear them daily it happens everytime I take it off at night or come across somebody with the hair I want. Especially when I go to the salon and everybody there's got hair APL or longer. Sometimes I don't know if this board is helping or hurting me

Wow - me too. i love you guys but sometimes the green eyed monster gets me. i wished i had hair as nice as some people on this bored. i guess im impatient. btw - i think i've been crying over my hair periodically since i was about 14

 

[stargazer613]

yes, at least twice....the one I remember vividly was about eight years ago I decided to give myself some blond highlights and ended up leaving the bleach and peroxide on my hair too long....my hair turned to straw, and I knew very little about protein treatments or reconstructors back then...on top of that I decided that I hated the way the highlights looked on me, so I dyed over them with a permanent red hair dye that same week.......broke off pieces of hair everywhere. I ended up with about seven different lengths of dry fried hair!!!

 

[bablou00]

I have been overly frustrated w/ my hair lately I think its almost every day. I dont know if its the last relaxer I used or what but these last 3mos or so have been hell for me. My hair has never been so dry and I didnt change anything but the relaxer I was using. I hate it so much rt now!!! It has made me so discouraged that I dont think I am going to every reach the goal. I try to tell myself that its just hair and it will grow....but I want it now...

 

[Tee]

Yes, see the before pic in my siggy. I didnt ask for that cut. (and it's uneven)perplexed

 

[DDTexlaxed]

Yes, oh so many times. I have decided to change some things for the next year. I hope the tears will be tears of joy instead of aggravation.

 

[Imani]

I've teared up several times. So many i can't count. most of them have to do with things beauticians have done to my hair. its been a rough ride.

Most recently, i asked this lady for a trim bc i had a pretty bad breakage spot in the back of my hair. I basically just wanted the very bottom row right under the breakage spot trimmed so it wouldn't look like i had a tail. Because the rest of my hair was fine. My plan was to GRADUALLY trim till the one spot caught up.

I ended up with like this 1989 looking mushroom cut with layers cut up in the back. it looked like one of those bob wigs. I went to someone who was able to fix it. but my hair was sooo much shorter after all that cutting.

 

[motherx2esq]

Heck yes! A stylist cut my SL hair to ear length. I was in my car ballin'! Went straight to the BBS and weaved it up. I was so mad I was sad! After that I have NEVER let a stylist near my hair with scissors.

 

[adf23]

Yep, a few times erplexed Once when I was convinced my hair was thinning out and I was so frustrated that it looked flyaway and frizzy. I didn't all out cry, but my eyes welled up out of frustration. I can laugh now

 

[january noir]

I haven't cried yet, but came close. I just take it all with a grain of salt...

 

[MiWay]

I hate to admit it, but YES! Cried, thrown the brush, crossed my arms, pouted, went to bed, you name it... But I haven't done any of this since joining LHCF. Airport security confiscated my ORS carrot oil yesterday, and I almost lost it.

 

[HAIRapy]

I got really upset once when I had braids and when I took them out and started to wash it, it was all tangled. It was horrible and I ended up ripping my hair apart to get the knots out.

OMG, years ago, the same exact thing happened to me!! At the time, I didn't know I was supposed to comb my hair out before I washed it. I cried as I ripped the tangles out of my hair. I know better now though =)

 

[luvinwife]

Im crying now!. If you saw the other thread about my postpartum shedding you know why.

 

[Blkprincess]

when I got my first dominican blow out a month ago. I was mid back length. she used nails to wash my hair, ripped from root to end, and cut...I didn't refuse the cut because they had already tore and yanked so much hair out, it didn't matter at that point. I nursing my hair back myself. there's alot of breakage. don't get me wrong, my hair looked great but it wasn't worth it in the end.

 

[SSBD]

yes im crying right now because i had to cut off so much hair and its so thin...i'm at a lost now....

 

[SleepyJean]

No I haven't but that's probably because I'm too grateful for the hair that I do have to cry over my setbacks or frustrations on bad hair days. My mom has alopecia and has had a very patchy head of hair for over 10 years. Sometimes I want to cry for her though, because 10+ years of wigs, weaves (that don't help at all) and not being able to show your head in public has really taken its toll on her self esteem. If I could, at anytime I would give her every strand of hair on my head. So while my hair is thick and healthy, or should it change to thin and short as long as it there I'll be okay. And if it should all decide to fall out one day, I'm sure i'll cry then but I hope I can look as fierce as my mother does while I'm crying. But right now I'm too blessed to be stressed.

That was really sweet and inspiring.

 

[NYAmicas]

That was really sweet and inspiring.

ITA!

I've cried when my hair is looking a HAM and I have somewhere to go. I dont like going out if I dont think I look right.
When Stylists have cut my hair without my permission.
After highlighting in '05 (which led me here) my hair was coming out in large amounts and I had lost a lot of hair. I was combing it out and watching all the breakage fall all around me.

 

[pringe]

No I haven't but that's probably because I'm too grateful for the hair that I do have to cry over my setbacks or frustrations on bad hair days. My mom has alopecia and has had a very patchy head of hair for over 10 years. Sometimes I want to cry for her though, because 10+ years of wigs, weaves (that don't help at all) and not being able to show your head in public has really taken its toll on her self esteem. If I could, at anytime I would give her every strand of hair on my head. So while my hair is thick and healthy, or should it change to thin and short as long as it there I'll be okay. And if it should all decide to fall out one day, I'm sure i'll cry then but I hope I can look as fierce as my mother does while I'm crying. But right now I'm too blessed to be stressed.

WOW...U know what? I was coming in here to say that I have cried numerous times over my hair. the fact that my hair sometimes doesn't cooperate and grows very slowly but U have made me look at it in a totally different light. THANK you for your post. Ur right. I have nothing to cry or complain about. others have so much more to worry about. Thanks for a bit of perspective!

 

[SleepyJean]

Yeah. I was 16 and I was at crossroads with my hair. I was getting it pressed on a weekly basis and it looked a HAM. Short (could barely make a ponytail), see through, and thin. Finally I decided all that pressing was NOT good for my hair, and decided to wear my *natural* texture. I had to transition (didn't know there was a term for that until I discovered hairboards, lol) b/c my hair was so damaged from the heat. Thick roots and scraggly ends.

One of the best decisions I ever made.

Sorry so long and disjointed, lol.

My mother is going to have to learn this the hard way.

 

[Namilani]

When I chopped off the hair that was damaged beyond return I cried for real. I about did two weeks ago after my spritz and hacking incident. CLEARLY I'm not over that, yet...

 

[♦K.O♦]

October of last year I used Herbal Essences Hello Hydration Shampoo and Conditioner. It made my hair dred up and caused tons of split ends. I had to cut out tangles AND split ends.

Lately, my hair has thinned because of health reasons. A few weeks ago so much shed hair came out from this ONE area that I just started bawling.

 

[silvergirl]

yup in 2003. after the first and last time i wore a weave and left my shoulder length hair 3 inches all around!!!....... never again....

but it was that crisis that brought me to lhcf.

 

[SerenavanderWoodsen]

yep,, i remember one time earlier this year b4 i did a 2 inch trim,, i even trimmed with cloudy teary eyes! LOL i wrote about it on my blog,, other than that i dont think ive cried about it, and hopefully never again!! Oh and in 4th grade when i went to the salon and they cut my hair so short, i was tearing up but being a big girl and holding back full fledged crying