I have to confess that YES I am guilty of it. I have a 2 year old son and I want him to have pride in our hair. I love me a chocolate man and his father is straight up chocolate directly from Ghana Africa. I;m half Trini myself. I want him to really love everything about himself including our hair.
I think it's a problem that I have faced when dating men and being around men so much. My best friend got married, a nice dark brotha, to a Philipinno gurl and it was mostly because of her hair, his confession. They are complete opposites. I knew him for years and all the girls he dated had to be light skinned and have waist length straight hair. Then my mom's friend was the same way. Then my ex boyfriend only thought I looked attractive with straight long hair. Well I don't want my son to think that Afro Textured Hair is bad and if he likes straight hair and non-black women in the end then so be it but it wont be because Momma raised him that way.
At my friends wedding I felt bad because his mother mentioned how he didn't really date black women, I knew she was a little hurt my his choice. I don't know how I will act if my son ended up the same way. I wanted to tell his mom that your son is vein but I couldn't do that. He told me he got teased for having curly hair as a child and I know that's why he doesn't want his kids to have Afro textured hair, deep down I wish his kids does have it so he can learn to love his own hair for the sake of his children.
But I do want to show my son that mommy can do all the things a straight haired non-black woman can do. I can go swimming and get my hair wet, I can change up my style, I have more options, I can work any style and get tons of compliments on it.
Oh and I keep my son with a TWA so he can love his own hair and not feel that he has to have it shaved off all the time. He has to learn to love his hair, love his mom's hair and then love his future wife's hair.
Yup, at the young age of 2 I'm already setting the foundation for him to be a respectful Black Man and to cherish the Black woman, sorry but the work of raising a strong black man starts now! I will be damned if Obama is the only Black President we have, I'm already working hard at raising us another one to be proud of. I'm a strict parent, sorry, but my son already opens doors for girls, helps bring in the groceries for my elderly neighbors, says please and thank you, and says good morning to everyone he meets, yup, at age 2, and He will be a good man with God's help and HE WILL LOVE the Black Woman so help me God!