Funeral Hair

[Priss Pot]

I know this may sound crazy, but do any of you ever think about how the morticians will style your hair when you die? I've always wondered about this. I don't want someone who doesn't know ANYTHING about hair to try to do something to it and have it looking a H.A.M. They use their own medicated products or whatever (I'm thinking), so I wonder if they dry the hair out. Do they blast the hair with heat? I wouldn't want anyone messing up my kinky hair. What if they can't wash 'n go it properly?

I remember when my grandmother died, they gave her bangs....she never wore bangs . Needless to say, when my aunt viewed the body, she made them correct it by styling her hair a different way.

 

[Radianthealth]

No I don't think about dying. I would want my hair to be long and flowing even if it means they put a wig on me, I want to look cute in my coffin

A style like this would work. Do they put weave and false lashes onto dead bodies

 

[Crysdon]

I thought of this before and I have pictures of myself in hairstyles that suit my face, so when that time comes all my relatives have to do is bring the pic.

It really doesn't matter if they blast the hair with heat though.

 

[Lucie]

I have thought about it, but I am more concerned with my makeup, . If they give me that graying paint they put on black people with pink lipstick and black eyeliner eyebrows, I will come back and haunt them until they get it right .

 

[victorious]

I know this may sound crazy, but do any of you ever think about how the morticians will style your hair when you die?

Not crazy at all. I thought a little about that last week when I started that thread about planning your own funeral in OT.

I want to have a closed casket, so it doesn't matter how my hair is styled. My family can save some money and brush it back into a ponytail or something.

 

[gimbap]

lol @ "what if they can't wash and go it properly"

I help out at a funeral home every now and then. They ask the family for recent pictures to decide how to style the hair. Most of the older ladies wear wigs.

 

[SUPER SWEET]

My old stylist asked me about styling my hair if i had died while being her client. She stated alot of women request to have their and she had done a few.

 

[deltagyrl]

Uh, this thread is creepy.

I have this thing about funeral homes and dead bodies so I haven't really thought about this. Think I might want a closed casket though. I hate the "they did a good job" comments at funerals.

I would like to know why they put glasses on dead people though...

 

[Country gal]

It's a valid point. I wonder about makeup and hair. I hate seeing people looking total different than I remember in death.

 

[honeybadgirl]

i dont think i ever really thought about it, well not really until a close friend of the family passed away and her hair looked gorgeous!!! the best i ever seen actually but i havent been to alot of funerals so...
she had beautiful loose ringlets. it looked prettier than girls walking around .
but if i were to think about it i guess i would be more concerned with make up too, like someone else said. but really it doesnt matter. i guess it wont matter when i'm the one laying there either. i'm not too concerned.

 

[honeybadgirl]

Uh, this thread is creepy.

I have this thing about funeral homes and dead bodies so I haven't really thought about this. Think I might want a closed casket though. I hate the "they did a good job" comments at funerals.

I would like to know why they put glasses on dead people though...

i just think they do that because that was the way you knew them, wearing glasses. i know it may not make sense but it does to me. actually, if someone, which are quite a few, that i knew died and they didnt put their glasses on them i would ask to have them put on
thats just how i was used to seeing them

 

[deltagyrl]

i just think they do that because that was the way you knew them, wearing glasses. i know it may not make sense but it does to me. actually, if someone, which are quite a few, that i knew died and they didnt put their glasses on them i would ask to have them put on
thats just how i was used to seeing them

This is a touchy subject for so many people. When my grandmother died many years ago my mom INSISTED on her wearing reading glasses. When I asked why she would need them she looked at me like I had 666 on my forehead. I just thought it kinda silly but to each his own.

 

[Priss Pot]

This is a touchy subject for so many people. When my grandmother died many years ago my mom INSISTED on her wearing reading glasses. When I asked why she would need them she looked at me like I had 666 on my forehead. I just thought it kinda silly but to each his own.

Yeah, I'm sure it is touchy, considering the one star rating. I wasn't trying to offend anyone; I was just curious. We talk so much about hair health on here and how we want our hair to look good and be healthy, so I figured we could talk about our hair "at rest" (which will be decades and decades from now, I pray). When all of the styling and deep conditioning and pre-pooing is over, what are we left with, and how will we want it to look?

 

[dlewis]

No I don't think about dying. I would want my hair to be long and flowing even if it means they put a wig on me, I want to look cute in my coffin

A style like this would work. Do they put weave and false lashes onto dead bodies

 

[dlewis]

I don't care what they do with it. There will be no viewing of the body or open casket. Just bury me in the cheapest suit they can find. Give all my nice things away or have a garage sale.

 

[RUBY]

I must say that this is a very original thread.

To answer the original question, I've never thought about it, so I'm gonna let fate decide.

 

[honeybadgirl]

This is a touchy subject for so many people. When my grandmother died many years ago my mom INSISTED on her wearing reading glasses. When I asked why she would need them she looked at me like I had 666 on my forehead. I just thought it kinda silly but to each his own.

yeah i know but it just how you remembered that person.

 

[~*~ShopAholic~*~]

LOL @ this thread, hopefully my hair will be well detangled and DC so it will be easy for them to apply my 3 braids.

I know a stylist who also styles dead pples hair and normally if they were a client of hers she'll style it the way they normally wore it. If they weren't she ask the family b4 hand.

I'm gonna give her a call in a minute and ask her is she treats them as if they were still alive, you know cautious not to burn them and stuff. She told me b4 that they only do the side of the hair that is shown and not the side that faces the casket, I was like oh erplexed .

 

[BklynHeart]

When my mom passed away this year I bought a wig for her to wear. However, when I was looking in her closets for an outfit, she had this FIERCE short wig! I gave that to the funeral director with some of her regular makeup and they really made he look wonderful and natural.

I would probably want them to put a nice wig on me; I don't want anyone pulling and tugging on my own hair and jacking it up.

 

[dlewis]

When my mom passed away this year I bought a wig for her to wear. However, when I was looking in her closets for an outfit, she had this FIERCE short wig! I gave that to the funeral director with some of her regular makeup and they really made he look wonderful and natural.

I would probably want them to put a nice wig on me; I don't want anyone pulling and tugging on my own hair and jacking it up.

 

[blackbarbie]

I have a brother that is a mortician and although he has on occassion done a relaxer or two in his day, for the most part, he allows his sister-in- law (who is a licensed beautician) to style the hair. He does the makeup though. He is as straight as an arrow but I have seen some of that makeup he has applied look better than mine!!

He usually asks the family for a picture and his "claim to fame" is making that person in the casket look just like the family remembered them. I know this is not funny, but he has told me that he gets the biggest satisfaction from his work when the family comes to view the body (before the funeral) and they walk away with a smile on their face and say "that's show them!!!" Yeah, I know he is weird, but he has been doing this for 15 years and knows that in addition to obliging to the wishes of the deceased, you also have to fulfill the wishes of those left behind and that primary wish would be to have that person looking just like they remembered them.

 

[glamazon386]

My aunt was natural (3A/3B) with short hair when she passed from cancer/AIDS. She was about 50 yrs old. She wore her hair in twists so her daughter had her regular hairdresser come and do it for her for the funeral so that it would look right.

 

[sareca]

My mom did my grandma's hair and make-up.

And we had someone give my cousin a fingerwave on top and press and curl in the back.

 

[neenee280]

I buried my great aunt recently and I kinda went off at the funeral people because we gave her a picture of what she looked like which meant, that is how we wanted her to look! She had curly natural hair and they gave her a HORRID SNATCH BACK! I think the look on me and my moms face was at the same time. And then the make-up! Ugh! My mother and I totally had to revamp the look ourselves. I guess we were too mad at them for making our aunt look like some clown before thinking how morbid it was to give our deceased aunt a make-over.

Just give me some curls that will last for awhile. I will be happy with that!

 

[Priss Pot]

Thanks ladies for giving your insight.

 

[la flaca]

As long as I wake up in heaven, it doesn't matter to me

 

[PinkSkates]

I am a mortician/funeral director and I always tell the family to supply me with a picture of their loved one. And I tell them I will do my best to make them look natural. If the person wore glasess all the time, they look more like themselves with their glasses on than off. So that's why we put their glasses on them.

 

[Dee-Licious]

i already told them if I need a relaxer, RELAX my hair.. no need in stretching anymore

 

[EMJazzy]

I am a mortician/funeral director and I always tell the family to supply me with a picture of their loved one. And I tell them I will do my best to make them look natural. If the person wore glasess all the time, they look more like themselves with their glasses on than off. So that's why we put their glasses on them.

When my cousins father died they put his glasses on him....I'm really glad they did that because he would have looked wierd to me since I was used to see him wearing them. They made him look so natural that it looked like he was about to open his eyes and say "wasssssupppp".

 

[queenspence]

As long as I wake up in heaven, it doesn't matter to me

Same here, my heart has been beating fast since I opened this, not comfortable with death topicserplexed