Welcome to the group. I apply the Affirm 5 n 1 reconstructor after I rinse the relaxer from my hair, but before I neutralize. The bottle says how long to leave it on, but I can't remember right now - it's either 5 or 10 minutes. After rinsing that out, I neutralize 2x. I make sure that I massage the neutralizing shampoo through my hair for at least 5 minutes each time. Then I lather up again with cream of Nature shampoo 1x. After that I deep condition my hair under the dryer followed by a roller set.
I remember when I was using one of the "kiddie perms" they always included this stuff called "Nutrient sheen" or something like that, it was applied after the relaxer but before the neutralizer. Awhile back I remember seeing it being sold by itself in an 8oz. bottle. Optimum also makes a product called "Synthesis III Post Relaxer Normalizer" and the Motions conditioner can be used as well.
HTH,
myco