Dyed Hair on Five Year Old?!?!

[B_Phlyy]

I'm watching Inside Edition and they're doing a segment on 5 year olds going to the salon to get highlights and bleaching. They only featured whites, but this is as bad as relaxing that young. The parents said they had no problem with it, the girls are going to have to grow up sooner or later, but I don't think this is the way to go.

Thoghts on the issue?

 

[Ebonygurl00]

WTH?! Ok, NO kid should be getting their hair highlighted! I think the parents are to blame, these little kids don't know that they're damaging their hair.

 

[Kimberly]

and when she's bald-headed at 12, they'll be looking for someone to sue...

 

[ibelieve]

I already KNOW I am going to be in the minority in regards to this subject but things like this don't really bother me. Relaxing at a young age doesn't bother me either as long as it is does in a safe manner where the child isn't suffering from burns and the like.

But as far as being too young, I don't really agree with that. I have what is often viewed as a "different" type of parenting philosophy so I understand that many won't agree with me but really hair is just hair so wether you have pink/purple/blonde highlights throughout than I really don't think it is that big of a deal.

Again, the only problem I would have with services such as these is the potential problems with damage but I don't buy into the whole "your teaching your child not to love themselves or appreciate what they have" when allowing them to experiment with different looks.

My 4 year old went through a punk phase a couple of months ago and rocked two big pink puffs (spray in color) for two weeks straight. I don't know how many comments I got about her being to young to do that and I shouldn't allow her to do things like that until she is older but I really didn't give a darn and she wore those pink puffs with pride.

Sonya

 

[B_Phlyy]

I already KNOW I am going to be in the minority in regards to this subject but things like this don't really bother me. Relaxing at a young age doesn't bother me either as long as it is does in a safe manner where the child isn't suffering from burns and the like.

But as far as being too young, I don't really agree with that. I have what is often viewed as a "different" type of parenting philosophy so I understand that many won't agree with me but really hair is just hair so wether you have pink/purple/blonde highlights throughout than I really don't think it is that big of a deal.

Again, the only problem I would have with services such as these is the potential problems with damage but I don't buy into the whole "your teaching your child not to love themselves or appreciate what they have" when allowing them to experiment with different looks.

My 4 year old went through a punk phase a couple of months ago and rocked two big pink puffs (spray in color) for two weeks straight. I don't know how many comments I got about her being to young to do that and I shouldn't allow her to do things like that until she is older but I really didn't give a darn and she wore those pink puffs with pride.

Sonya

I understand what you're saying, but I really wonder if the children are the ones who are asking for the higlights or are the parents suggesting it and then the kids just going along with it because they think that's what the parent wants to hear.

 

[Catina72]

I definately don't think children should have their hair dyed! Makes me think about little girls in pageants, looking way too grown, IMO. Hey, a little off topic...did the little girl in "My Wife and Kids" have her hair dyed?? I never really watched the show but I asked my best friend who said she thought the little girl had her hair dyed. Did she??

 

[Chinagem]

I knew a vietnamese mother who dyed her 2 yr. old son's hair red.

 

[Crysdon]

Hey, a little off topic...did the little girl in "My Wife and Kids" have her hair dyed?? I never really watched the show but I asked my best friend who said she thought the little girl had her hair dyed. Did she??

I was going to post about the little girl on MWAK. Yes, her hair was dyed. You could see the dark roots and light ends.

 

[glamazon386]

I was going to post about the little girl on MWAK. Yes, her hair was dyed. You could see the dark roots and light ends.

Wow I thought she just had light hair. I have a little cousin who has naturally blonde hair. It looked like a blonde afro, but when she got older and got it relaxed the color darkened a bit. It's a dark honey blonde now that's gorgeous. I thought Kady's hair was like hers... Guess not. Why'd they dye that babys hair? Shoot I'm 20 years old and have never dyed my hair. Well my mom let me get a black rinse when I was in 8th grade like twice bc my hair is a dusty brown. I wouldn't let my child get any type of color, rinse, dye, etc. That's too grown.

 

[Honi]

I don't like it. For me it's more of a health issue down the line. Not all dyes are safe.

 

[WomanlyCharm]

I think temporary color is perfectly fine for a little kid...but giving them real highlights and stuff at the salon? No thanks.

I've heard of women who dyed their hair also dying their toddler's hair...so people would think they were all real blonds or brunettes.
They didn't want the kid's natural hair color to reveal their "secret". Now that's insane.

 

[aileenadq]

I'm wondering if this is simply an issue of the child seeing Mom put SO much effort into her looks, and the child is simply modeling that behavior. Litte girls will often "play" at being Mommy, and that usually includes putting on makeup and dressing up in Mom's clothes & shoes.

I can't imagine encouraging a child that young to change what she was born with, and I don't want to imagine the conversation. After all, if YOU as a mother are dying your hair because you don't like what you have, then how can you tell your kid to just accept it, also? It's like the whole smoking thing: it's hypocritical to tell your child not to smoke when you are doing the same.

My son wanted to dye his hair blond, and I told him he could when he was older. I think children should be able to express who they are as long as it is not detrimental to their health. I also explained that I didn't think he was old enough to really know what the consequences are to dying his hair. (I also told him that as a person of color, it just wouldn't look right unless he was going for a punk thing.) (He also knew he would have to shave it before school started, b/c they don't allow it.)

This trend really worries me. Our female children are already given just HORRIBLE examples of womanhood in the media.Far too skinny, overtly sexualized, and not that bright, that's what young girls today see.

I don't know...

 

[dynamic1]

Children should be able to express themselves, but at what cost? Often, it is not the child asking for chemical services, but the parent making the decision. Chemical services were not meant for tender, young scalps. (Heck, it's hard enough on adults.) Also, if a child that young asks for these services, I think it is more than self- expression. More than likely, it is because of outside influences affecting their self-esteem (media, peer pressure, etc.).

Relaxers, weave, hair color! What is next, plastic surgery? I know that is extreme, but where does it end? Why cannot little girls, just be little girls. I played dress up too, but I knew when playtime was over.

(Stepping off my soap box.)

 

[B_Phlyy]

Children should be able to express themselves, but at what cost? Often, it is not the child asking for chemical services, but the parent making the decision. Chemical services were not meant for tender, young scalps. (Heck, it's hard enough on adults.) Also, if a child that young asks for these services, I think it is more than self- expression. More than likely, it is because of outside influences affecting their self-esteem (media, peer pressure, etc.).

Relaxers, weave, hair color! What is next, plastic surgery? I know that is extreme, but where does it end? Why cannot little girls, just be little girls. I played dress up too, but I knew when playtime was over.

(Stepping off my soap box.)

That's my thing with it. The girls were going to get haircuts and then the parents were the one's suggesting the higlights. And instead of the stylist saying no, or we can try something on the ends, they just went ahead with it.

Temporary hair colors or spray on stuff is okay, but full on bleach? That's just too much for children that young.

 

[JustKiya]

I'm okay with the temp stuff - heck, that I might even encourage - gives the kids a way to express themselves. But ANYTHING permanent? Nope - not til she get's old enough - which in my mind is hitting puberty. I'm still on the fence about babies getting their ears pierced.....

 

[punchinella]

Children should be able to express themselves, but at what cost? Often, it is not the child asking for chemical services, but the parent making the decision. Chemical services were not meant for tender, young scalps. (Heck, it's hard enough on adults.) Also, if a child that young asks for these services, I think it is more than self- expression. More than likely, it is because of outside influences affecting their self-esteem (media, peer pressure, etc.).

Relaxers, weave, hair color! What is next, plastic surgery? I know that is extreme, but where does it end? Why cannot little girls, just be little girls. I played dress up too, but I knew when playtime was over.

(Stepping off my soap box.)

That's what I would like to know. If your daughter sees you drinking a martini and she wants one...?
When I was growing up you were a child/adolescent until you turned 18 and then you became an adult. You can't turn back the clock and your childhood is gone. It seems like childhood is getting shorter and shorter. Let kids be kids, they have the rest of their lives to be adults.

Sorry, to answer the question I think five is too young for chemical color.

 

[neonbright]

Ok and we just realized people do this to their children. What about the beauty competions for kids. Remember Jon B. Ramsi.

 

[caribeandiva]

no no no.. chemicals shouldn't be anywhere near a child that young's head. those parents must be friends with those parents who relax their 18 months old.