Does having diff. hair textures discourage you from wearing your hair down?

[SEMO]

I have three different hair textures in my hair (4b in the front, wavy in the crown and 4a in the back). And although I really enjoy having natural hair I don't really like wearing it down very often. From the front it will look fine, but when I turn around and do a mirror check on the back I'm often like this ---> . It's so easy for the hair in my crown to get frizzy and start looking weird. And it's very noticeable.

Does anybody else avoid wearing their hair down b/c of this?


Here are examples:

 

[laurend]

I don't think you have 4a or 4b hair, you are more 3c IMO. I can only wear my hair down when I wear twistouts, I can't do wash and go's like you.

 

[so1913]

Meee!!! *waving*

I used to not wear my hair out for the first year or so because of this. I was EXTREMELY discouraged by all the different hair textures on my head. The first step for me overcoming this was having the right hair cut that worked with my various textures. Now its all about styling technique from there. My hair on the sides by my ears are highly textured and have a high level of shrinkage, while my crown and front are VERY loose and wavy, not much shrinkage but a lot frizzier than the rest, and the back is in the middle with a more defined curl with medium shrinkage. I may have to coax the curls on my sides more when adding my stlying product, smoothing those sections downward to mold the curls. When my hair is dry, I may use a hair dryer with a concentrator nozzle to stretch out some of the curls on the back and sides, and to add lift to the crown all to give my hair a more "even" or should I say "balanced" look.

 

[SEMO]

I don't think you have 4a or 4b hair, you are more 3c IMO. I can only wear my hair down when I wear twistouts, I can't do wash and go's like you.

I should probably do twistouts and braiouts more so the textures blend better and don't look obvious.

 

[SEMO]

Meee!!! *waving*

I used to not wear my hair out for the first year or so because of this. I was EXTREMELY discouraged by all the different hair textures on my head. The first step for me overcoming this was having the right hair cut that worked with my various textures. Now its all about styling technique from there. My hair on the sides by my ears are highly textured and have a high level of shrinkage, while my crown and front are VERY loose and wavy, not much shrinkage but a lot frizzier than the rest, and the back is in the middle with a more defined curl with medium shrinkage. I may have to coax the curls on my sides more when adding my stlying product, smoothing those sections downward to mold the curls. When my hair is dry, I may use a hair dryer with a concentrator nozzle to stretch out some of the curls on the back and sides, and to add lift to the crown all to give my hair a more "even" or should I say "balanced" look.

I never thought about it but a good haircut probably could help me. The crown of my hair is the same length as the rest of my hair but sometimes it hangs down longer than the rest and looks out of place.

 

[so1913]

I never thought about it but a good haircut probably could help me. The crown of my hair is the same length as the rest of my hair but sometimes it hangs down longer than the rest and looks out of place.

I have layers cut in my hair, so my crown is the shortest layer when straight. If you're not anti blow dryer, you could try to stretch your tighter curls by grabbing in sections, pulling downward gently, blowing up and down the length, and holding a few sections to set. If you use an oil/butter/moisturizer, apply this before you use the dryer. This will help out a little to help it blend with the looser texture as far as balancing out the shape of the hair.

However, they layer cut alone may be enough. That is the most important thing for my hair falling right when wearing it out.

 

[LunadeMiel]

I know exactly what you mean Semo. When my hair is wet they sorta blend together but when it dries... I'm mostly 3b/3c but a have a sizeable amount of 4a and and whatever name that extremely loose texture is that I have on my head. It's horrible...

 

[kurlybella]

yes.

my hair in the back of my head is 4b and before it was moisturized and i really got the idea of figuring out how to basically "shingle" it to fit in as best with my 4a i was going insane!

i thought my hair looked funny too...and i also had some straight parts...wooo lordy.

so when i had a poof, it looked like had some weave parts and some other parts...hard to explain.

i just had to work with manipulating the parts to cohabitate. that's the best advice i can give since changing your dna is out of the question.

i've come to accept the fact that my hair is like a chameleon...and it changes when it wants to. the straight parts have turned curly...don't ask, cause iown know...and now my 4b behaves well when i'm nice to it.

i've come a long way, but i understand your frustrations!

 

[SEMO]

I have layers cut in my hair, so my crown is the shortest layer when straight. If you're not anti blow dryer, you could try to stretch your tighter curls by grabbing in sections, pulling downward gently, blowing up and down the length, and holding a few sections to set. If you use an oil/butter/moisturizer, apply this before you use the dryer. This will help out a little to help it blend with the looser texture as far as balancing out the shape of the hair.

However, they layer cut alone may be enough. That is the most important thing for my hair falling right when wearing it out.

I will try this blow dryer technique. This will probably even help me with my other main hair issue: shrinkage.

I know exactly what you mean Semo. When my hair is wet they sorta blend together but when it dries... I'm mostly 3b/3c but a have a sizeable amount of 4a and and whatever name that extremely loose texture is that I have on my head. It's horrible...

When my hair is in a ponytail smoothed back you can't really tell. Which is my I mostly wear ponytails when I don't want to deal with my hair.

yes.

my hair in the back of my head is 4b and before it was moisturized and i really got the idea of figuring out how to basically "shingle" it to fit in as best with my 4a i was going insane!

i thought my hair looked funny too...and i also had some straight parts...wooo lordy.

so when i had a poof, it looked like had some weave parts and some other parts...hard to explain.

i just had to work with manipulating the parts to cohabitate. that's the best advice i can give since changing your dna is out of the question.

i've come to accept the fact that my hair is like a chameleon...and it changes when it wants to. the straight parts have turned curly...don't ask, cause iown know...and now my 4b behaves well when i'm nice to it.

i've come a long way, but i understand your frustrations!

I was hoping that as my hair got longer it wouldn't be as much of an issue but no only are the textures different but they respond to the same product differently. I don't know how to handle the wavy parts at all. They always seem to go frizzy even when I try not to touch them and mess them up.

 

[hopeful]

I should probably do twistouts and braiouts more so the textures blend better and don't look obvious.

Twist-outs are our friend, especially for ladies like us with different textures. Extra product on the areas that shrink more helps to weigh them down. One of these days I'm going to get a good haircut too. I do feel your pain because I know a quick wash n go is out of the question.

 

[aloof one]

Yes. Not sure what to do about it other than flatironerplexed

 

[wonderstar]

Yes I have that problem. I almost never look in the mirror to see the back of my hair when I wear it out. When I return home I'm like "what was I thinking!"

 

[seh97001]

My hair doesn't go down, it goes up! I am not discouraged by my different textures. I don't usually wear my hair out either.

 

[Seraphina]

Girl, I feel your pain. I'm 3c/4a all over. But that's not the texture difference that drives me crazy. It's the s-waves in front and spiral curls in back. My hair looks perfect when wet, right outta the shower. It all blends together. But as it dries, it all shrinks up differently. Ponytails have become my staple style.

 

[SEMO]

Yes I have that problem. I almost never look in the mirror to see the back of my hair when I wear it out. When I return home I'm like "what was I thinking!"

I understand completely what you mean. Sometimes I don't even look b/c I don't want to know. I just want to pretend that it looks fine.

My hair doesn't go down, it goes up! I am not discouraged by my different textures. I don't usually wear my hair out either.

My hair kinda of grows diagonally. Not really down, but not up. It's like a pyramid when it dries.

Girl, I feel your pain. I'm 3c/4a all over. But that's not the texture difference that drives me crazy. It's the s-waves in front and spiral curls in back. My hair looks perfect when wet, right outta the shower. It all blends together. But as it dries, it all shrinks up differently. Ponytails have become my staple style.

I agree. The wavy parts are the most frustrating for me. My hair too looks its best when wet, right after washing it. That's why almost all of my fotki pics are of wet or semi-wet hair.

 

[Miss*Tress]

SEMO, you are not alone. The back of my hair shrinks up to my shoulders while the front hangs down past my breasts. Unfortunately, I haven't found anyone who can cut curly hair so I do twist outs and put curl rods on the twists at the front for them to look shrunken too. But, yeah, I feel your pain.

You have gorgeous hair, btw.

 

[SEMO]

Twist-outs are our friend, especially for ladies like us with different textures. Extra product on the areas that shrink more helps to weigh them down. One of these days I'm going to get a good haircut too. I do feel your pain because I know a quick wash n go is out of the question.

I wish there was a way to make the wavy parts of my hair curl up more. Normally I don't like shrinkage that much but it would help me so much in that area.

Yes. Not sure what to do about it other than flatironerplexed

I rarely flat iron my hair. I am still working on my technique. The last time I did my hair looked like a lion's mane.

 

[SEMO]

SEMO, you are not alone. The back of my hair shrinks up to my shoulders while the front hangs down past my breasts. Unfortunately, I haven't found anyone who can cut curly hair so I do twist outs and put curl rods on the twists at the front for them to look shrunken too. But, yeah, I feel your pain.

I forgot about curl rods! Doh! I used to use these a lot during my transition to blend my natural and relaxed textures. I guess it never occurred to me to use them to blend my natural textures too. Thanks for reminding me of this.

 

[wonderstar]

Girl, I feel your pain. I'm 3c/4a all over. But that's not the texture difference that drives me crazy. It's the s-waves in front and spiral curls in back. My hair looks perfect when wet, right outta the shower. It all blends together. But as it dries, it all shrinks up differently. Ponytails have become my staple style.

My hair is behaves just like that and I'm also 3c/4a.