apologies for the awkward title . . .
I suck at relationships. I am kind of mean, very impatient and have no tolerance for the typical crap that goes down in relationships. So imagine my surprise when I began to fall for a very nice fellow. I’ve known him for about 10 years. He’s decent looking, kind, sincere, has plenty of money, an outstanding artist , degreed a couple times over and for the most part we are good. He’s the nice guy; you know the one no one wants to be bothered with. There is a long list of positives to dating this man. What’s the issue? Enter the b!tch that I am (sigh).
He pushes my buttons where several pet peeves are concerned. For instance, I want to take that d@mned bluetooth earpiece out of his ear and shove it down his throat. I told him in a very nice way that it is both distracting and corny. Yes, I was very nice about it.
He also has this nervous laugh that he does at inopportune times. I mean it just comes out of nowhere. I really think I make him nervous. It’s like I’ll ask “how was your day?” He’ll say “pretty good” (insert laugh). It’s barely noticeable but it grates my nerves.
And the granddaddy of them all is the chewing with his mouth open. I mean smacking up a storm. He did it last night and I froze and shot him a stare that scared the daylights out of him. I didn’t say a word. I had to catch myself because I almost said something really mean. But I didn’t (yay me). I did have to throw away my meal because the sound was disgusting.
All of this got me to thinking . . . I wonder how others gauge compatibility. I realize that this will come off as petty to some and others will totally understand what I mean but what I really want to know is when do YOU know when pet peeves cross over into incompatibility? What are YOUR limits?
I know mine and at this moment, I’m not quite ready to throw the baby out with the bathwater. This may or may not change but that’s how I feel right now.
ETA I'm not asking if you feel if my situation is a compatibility issue. I am asking when do YOU know when pet peeves cross over into incompatibility? What are YOUR limits?
I suck at relationships. I am kind of mean, very impatient and have no tolerance for the typical crap that goes down in relationships. So imagine my surprise when I began to fall for a very nice fellow. I’ve known him for about 10 years. He’s decent looking, kind, sincere, has plenty of money, an outstanding artist , degreed a couple times over and for the most part we are good. He’s the nice guy; you know the one no one wants to be bothered with. There is a long list of positives to dating this man. What’s the issue? Enter the b!tch that I am (sigh).
He pushes my buttons where several pet peeves are concerned. For instance, I want to take that d@mned bluetooth earpiece out of his ear and shove it down his throat. I told him in a very nice way that it is both distracting and corny. Yes, I was very nice about it.
He also has this nervous laugh that he does at inopportune times. I mean it just comes out of nowhere. I really think I make him nervous. It’s like I’ll ask “how was your day?” He’ll say “pretty good” (insert laugh). It’s barely noticeable but it grates my nerves.
And the granddaddy of them all is the chewing with his mouth open. I mean smacking up a storm. He did it last night and I froze and shot him a stare that scared the daylights out of him. I didn’t say a word. I had to catch myself because I almost said something really mean. But I didn’t (yay me). I did have to throw away my meal because the sound was disgusting.
All of this got me to thinking . . . I wonder how others gauge compatibility. I realize that this will come off as petty to some and others will totally understand what I mean but what I really want to know is when do YOU know when pet peeves cross over into incompatibility? What are YOUR limits?
I know mine and at this moment, I’m not quite ready to throw the baby out with the bathwater. This may or may not change but that’s how I feel right now.
ETA I'm not asking if you feel if my situation is a compatibility issue. I am asking when do YOU know when pet peeves cross over into incompatibility? What are YOUR limits?
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