Those of you in IR relationships or date IR often, how do you handle race relations with your partner? Are you able to discuss it with him comfortably? Are their certain topics about race that you avoid? Why? Does he know?
What about African-American history, African history, Caribbean history...is your SO knowledgeable about these topics? Are you informed of his culture?
Can you discuss current race issues on the work place like "black tax", racism in the media, or everyday life with him? What about watching certain movies together like The Roots or talking about controversial books like the Isis Papers?
When you first start dating IR, do you discuss race in the beginning to make sure he's aware, or do you wait until it gets serious to find out his views/knowledge?
Do you think an IR relationship can be healthy without discussing race topics?
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From the online message boards I've visited, I've also noticed that a lot of militant men and women are in IR relationships. If you post things like "White people are evil/scums of the earth, etc" or "The man is out to get us" often, does your SO know about your feelings? Is he okay with it? Is it ok if he says "black people are so .. [insert something negative].." too?
Also, add any other topic about race that I may have forgot.
Thanks in advance. I ask because I'm open to dating IR, but I always wonder how I will handle discussing current and past race issues without being uncomfortable. I won't be happy if I have to ignore it and act like racism doesn't exist. It's important to me to be able to express my feelings about these topics in my relationship.
What about African-American history, African history, Caribbean history...is your SO knowledgeable about these topics? Are you informed of his culture?
Can you discuss current race issues on the work place like "black tax", racism in the media, or everyday life with him? What about watching certain movies together like The Roots or talking about controversial books like the Isis Papers?
When you first start dating IR, do you discuss race in the beginning to make sure he's aware, or do you wait until it gets serious to find out his views/knowledge?
Do you think an IR relationship can be healthy without discussing race topics?
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From the online message boards I've visited, I've also noticed that a lot of militant men and women are in IR relationships. If you post things like "White people are evil/scums of the earth, etc" or "The man is out to get us" often, does your SO know about your feelings? Is he okay with it? Is it ok if he says "black people are so .. [insert something negative].." too?
Also, add any other topic about race that I may have forgot.
Thanks in advance. I ask because I'm open to dating IR, but I always wonder how I will handle discussing current and past race issues without being uncomfortable. I won't be happy if I have to ignore it and act like racism doesn't exist. It's important to me to be able to express my feelings about these topics in my relationship.