Cant work the middle cause..........

[Blkrose]

Background story first:

My boyfriend has alot of brothers (I think about 8 ) one in particular is in his early fifties but doesnt look it, well none of them really look their age meaning they look younger then they really are. He's single, handsome, a plumber, very funny, attentive and overall a pretty decent man, Im assuming. However .....he's impotent , caused by an injury on his job, so no he hasnt always been this way.

Unfortunately he remains single because when he reveals his....inabilities to the women he do attract they laugh or just run away . I feel sorry for him because its actually pretty sad erplexed. He swears that he can satisfy a woman in all kinds of ways including sexually (according to what my bf says) but of course thats a little TMI for me. I just cant believe he cant even find a woman to geniunely chill with. Will he always remain single? Is sex really a number one priority for women? Where does it rank for you?

 

[JustKiya]

How long and flexible are his tongue and fingers, and what's his opinion on toys?

Depending on those answers - shooot. No chance of getting pregnant!

 

[kmn1980]

I can see where that could cause a problem for a woman of childbearing age. He can't use Viagra or something?

 

[Country gal]

Is there a way he can fix his impotence? Isn't there a pill he can take?

 

[Pat Mahurr]

Background story first:

My boyfriend has alot of brothers (I think about 8 ) one in particular is in his early fifties but doesnt look it, well none of them really look their age meaning they look younger then they really are. He's single, handsome, a plumber, very funny, attentive and overall a pretty decent man, Im assuming. However .....he's impotent , caused by an injury on his job, so no he hasnt always been this way.

Unfortunately he remains single because when he reveals his....inabilities to the women he do attract they laugh or just run away . I feel sorry for him because its actually pretty sad erplexed. He swears that he can satisfy a woman in all kinds of ways including sexually (according to what my bf says) but of course thats a little TMI for me. I just cant believe he cant even find a woman to geniunely chill with. Will he always remain single? Is sex really a number one priority for women? Where does it rank for you?

You say he's in his 50's. Is he looking for women in his age range, older, or younger? The reaction you described sounds like he's looking for much younger women.

Did the injury he suffered cause any other problems? Does he have any baggage? It might not be the impotence that's the problem if he can't find a woman to "chill with." It could be lots of other things, including his own confidence level. (He might also want to avoid saying "Hi, I'm an impotent plumber" when first meeting a woman.)

 

[LunadeMiel]

A man with a non working penis is a

I'm sorry things are like that for him but I would not date him.

 

[Nina_deF]

This is a hard one (no pun intended).

Me for one I LOVE sex but there are ways of having it without the erection.

He doesn't need to be single the rest of his life, I've read posts here where sex isn't a priority so I'm sure he will find his solemate eventually. maybe he should keep his shortcomings to himself, at least in the beginning.

I once dated a man who kept me at bay for 3 months, until I was head over heels.
Turned out he was very un-well endowed (I'm talking pinky finger size) BUT he was great in bed. I left him because of his insecurities, not because he was smaller-sized.

 

[LilMissRed]

ehhh I'm sorry but I like a man who can work the middle... its not EVERYTHING but yes it matters to me


#dont judge me

 

[Blkrose]

How long and flexible are his tongue and fingers, and what's his opinion on toys?

Depending on those answers - shooot. No chance of getting pregnant!

Girl I dont know details but according to his brother he swears he can satisfy a woman without any penetration. So I dont know and of course I have no desire to find out.

I can see where that could cause a problem for a woman of childbearing age. He can't use Viagra or something?

Is there a way he can fix his impotence? Isn't there a pill he can take?

Apparently he had the oppurtunity to do surgery but for some reason never got it done. Other than that there is nothing else that will help him .

You say he's in his 50's. Is he looking for women in his age range, older, or younger? The reaction you described sounds like he's looking for much younger women.

Did the injury he suffered cause any other problems? Does he have any baggage? It might not be the impotence that's the problem if he can't find a woman to "chill with." It could be lots of other things, including his own confidence level. (He might also want to avoid saying "Hi, I'm an impotent plumber" when first meeting a woman.)

I dont know details but going according to the age range he gave me (cause he wanted me to try to "hook" him up with one of my friends) it was from late 20's to 40's. I tried talking to one of my older friends for him shes in her 50's but when I told her his problem she laughed and said what was she suppose to do with him soooo that was a bust erplexed. He does have children I dont know their ages and honestly I really dont know his history or the "real deal" about him so your right there could be other factors especially his confidence level. Lol I doubt he introduces himself as hey Im a plumber buy my pipe is busted but Im sure when its time to get intimate he has to say something right before the woman gets her hopes all up .

 

[lesedi]

This is a hard one (no pun intended).

Me for one I LOVE sex but there are ways of having it without the erection.

He doesn't need to be single the rest of his life, I've read posts here where sex isn't a priority so I'm sure he will find his solemate eventually. maybe he should keep his shortcomings to himself, at least in the beginning.

I once dated a man who kept me at bay for 3 months, until I was head over heels.
Turned out he was very un-well endowed (I'm talking pinky finger size) BUT he was great in bed. I left him because of his insecurities, not because he was smaller-sized.

Imma need a lil more than that

 

[Nina_deF]

Imma need a lil more than that

Girl I hear you.

BUT He charmed into love.
He was a dancer, a model, an illustrator, he was going places.
AND he was extremely dilligent, he made it clear that I was queen, he was/is tall, dark and goergous! I bumped into him while I was out with a coupe of friends recently and they were beating each other down to get close to him, he's got it all.
And I really thought that; hey, I'll get used to it.

NOWDAYS, having a larger peenr is on my lists of musts (not because of him), but if I would have settled with Alexis, I would have done really good. He is a good man.
But when we dated he was a boy, too insecure for me.

Sometimes (SOMETIMES) love can overcome all, even that.

 

[LongTimeComing]

I could work around it if he didn't have hangups about it. And was willing to use alternate means to satisfy me sexually.

 

[ThickHair]

How long and flexible are his tongue and fingers, and what's his opinion on toys?

Depending on those answers - shooot. No chance of getting pregnant!

That is the main reason why I didn't have a problem when I was dating the older gentleman. He told me from jump about his situation but I was ALWAYS satisfied without the worry of getting pregnant.

Is there a way he can fix his impotence? Isn't there a pill he can take?

Pills don't always work and then you and he would really be frustrated. Been there done it and have the tshirt.

 

[michelle81]

If he's so worried about it, he should get a penile implant. They're absolutely nothing to be ashamed of getting and I'm positive his doctor would understand.

I'm a nurse and see men with implants all the time. No big deal at all.

 

[VelvetRain]

Sex really has not been a big priority to me. Sounds crazy but I probably could deal with it.

 

[TayMac]

I don't think he is destined to remain single. I do wonder why he didn't get the surgery if that would fix his problem. There are woman who just aren't that into sex but he just hasn't crossed their path yet.

There must be some solution for him..tape it back and wear a strapon?

 

[Blkrose]

I don't think he is destined to remain single. I do wonder why he didn't get the surgery if that would fix his problem. There are woman who just aren't that into sex but he just hasn't crossed their path yet.

There must be some solution for him..tape it back and wear a strapon?

lol at the bolded your funny

 

[Blkrose]

If he's so worried about it, he should get a penile implant. They're absolutely nothing to be ashamed of getting and I'm positive his doctor would understand.

I'm a nurse and see men with implants all the time. No big deal at all.

Yeah I think its a pride thing

 

[Mleah]

Any man or woman in their 50's is sporting a lot of baggage! If he can satisfy without penetration and can't keep someone, what does that say? If you really want to find out what his deal is ask an ex gf not his brother.
My own experience with a guy with the same issues was that he was romantic, kind, door opening gentleman, had cash for days, property and an excellent job. He was also romancing about 5 or 6 of us that were trying to be kind and give a broke d--k a$$hole a chance! (Forgive my language)

 

[ladylibra_30]

^^^Oh my goodness. Some of these men...wow.

 

[Blkrose]

Any man or woman in their 50's is sporting a lot of baggage! If he can satisfy without penetration and can't keep someone, what does that say? If you really want to find out what his deal is ask an ex gf not his brother.
My own experience with a guy with the same issues was that he was romantic, kind, door opening gentleman, had cash for days, property and an excellent job. He was also romancing about 5 or 6 of us that were trying to be kind and give a broke d--k a$$hole a chance! (Forgive my language)

Like I stated earlier I dont know any details about this man nor did I ask his brother my boyfriend anything further and really dont care to do so. He personally asked me to hook him up and I only assume that him not being able to perform is part of the problem since thats all that he seems to speak/joke about. My questions was really more of a general question since I was informed by one of my friends that there is apparently quite a few impotent men in Florida. For all I know all your reasoning may identify him to a T he may even be the same guy lol

 

[Jas123]

You say he's in his 50's. Is he looking for women in his age range, older, or younger? The reaction you described sounds like he's looking for much younger women.

Did the injury he suffered cause any other problems? Does he have any baggage? It might not be the impotence that's the problem if he can't find a woman to "chill with." It could be lots of other things, including his own confidence level. (He might also want to avoid saying "Hi, I'm an impotent plumber" when first meeting a woman.)

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[Jas123]

Like I stated earlier I dont know any details about this man nor did I ask his brother my boyfriend anything further and really dont care to do so. He personally asked me to hook him up and I only assume that him not being able to perform is part of the problem since thats all that he seems to speak/joke about. My questions was really more of a general question since I was informed by one of my friends that there is apparently quite a few impotent men in Florida. For all I know all your reasoning may identify him to a T he may even be the same guy lol

i'm staying the hell outta florida... old *** men