Innocent_Kiss
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I'm pretty sure I have a phobia of dogs. Big ones, small ones, cute ones, stray ones - all of them. I live in one of the most impoverished crime stricken neighborhoods in the city of chicago, and my biggest fear turning the corner is if a stray dog is wandering the streets while I'm on my way LOL It's gotten to the point where I get terrified if I hear a dogs' chain, and sometimes it's only my keys jingling in my pocket! I'm wondering, though, can you have a phobia of a broken heart? Being betrayed?
This is so difficult for me to face, and I haven't consoled in anyone about it, but if I don't get a holt to myself, I'll ruin my relationship and myself. I feel embarassed admitting it. I've had my share of bad relationships and some bad experiences in life, but nothing that logically justifies my insecurities.
I believe it's safe to say I'm in a fulfilling relationship. My SO and I have been in a committed relationship for about a year. We're not perfect, but what is. We've had some run ins about outside 'others' ex girl/boyfriends, excessive flirting, etc but nothing break-up worthy. Regardless, I have this phobe of giving my heart away and being betrayed. The more intimate our relationship becomes, the more intertwined our lives become, the more nervous I get. The more I think of how much this is going to hurt if it doesn't work out. Yes, I KNOW this is RIDICULOUS and INSANE, but the first step to change is admitting, right? I need some advice. These insecurities have led me to be a major snooper, like, I should really consider a career in secret services. And honestly, it's a miserable life to live. How do I begin to confront this? How do I overcome it?
This is so difficult for me to face, and I haven't consoled in anyone about it, but if I don't get a holt to myself, I'll ruin my relationship and myself. I feel embarassed admitting it. I've had my share of bad relationships and some bad experiences in life, but nothing that logically justifies my insecurities.
I believe it's safe to say I'm in a fulfilling relationship. My SO and I have been in a committed relationship for about a year. We're not perfect, but what is. We've had some run ins about outside 'others' ex girl/boyfriends, excessive flirting, etc but nothing break-up worthy. Regardless, I have this phobe of giving my heart away and being betrayed. The more intimate our relationship becomes, the more intertwined our lives become, the more nervous I get. The more I think of how much this is going to hurt if it doesn't work out. Yes, I KNOW this is RIDICULOUS and INSANE, but the first step to change is admitting, right? I need some advice. These insecurities have led me to be a major snooper, like, I should really consider a career in secret services. And honestly, it's a miserable life to live. How do I begin to confront this? How do I overcome it?