BRAINWASHED

[SSBD]

I'm 4a-ish maybe 4a/4b i don't know and i don't to much care for it, but i here so many ppl here who love it. I want to be natural because i want to stop putting chemicals in my hair, but i don't even know if i would look right with natural hair. I guess because all my life i have admired what they call good hair and in society straight long hair is beautiful...so i guess i have this thing thats stuck in my mind that i look better with straight long hair...and i've noticed how i admire lookng at ppl who have it. i can be at a random place and see somebody with pretty hair and just stare til i catch myself and try to look away.

I just wanna know how can i get unbrainwashed to thinking that my hair comes second to another hair type.

So my question is r u happy with ur hair type and how did u get to that point...

 

[prettypuff1]

It takes a lot to get unbrainwashed. This board has helped me alot with that. I didnt think that my 3c/4a hair grew but it does and it can grow to be long. I think you have to find out what will work for you hair, and then really work with it. If you want to go natural, then just experiment with what other women have tried and see if that works. But it is all about finding out what your hair likes

 

[SSBD]

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[Nice & Wavy]

Well, I just think its like anything else in life...you have to change the way you thought was right, and then do it the right way. (Hope I phrased that correctly )

I'm so proud of myself that I made the decision to go natural. I have been relaxing my hair well over 20 years and now, it's so nice to be able to work with my hair and understand the dynamics of what my own "God-given" hair can do.

Whether I leave it curly, or go straight (with heat of course), I am happy finally to be able to have healthy hair. What I have learned on this board...LHCF...is priceless. No one could tell me anything different about any of the ladies here who know their stuff about hair and the products we use.

I've learned that my hair loves to be pampered. Now, I wouldn't have ever known that if I didn't come to this board. My hair also loves a mixture of moisture and protein together, so I found a good regimen for my hair, after spending much money on products, and my hair is doing a dance !!! I've also learned that my hair loves heat too at times and that too is ok. As long as its done in moderation, it can work out for you.

We have to unlearn the way we've always took care of our hair, and then learn to do hair the right way. Then, we will be happier and it will show in our hair and in our smile !!!

Blessings.

 

[sareca]

The most mermerizing thing on the planet to me (hairwise) is APL+ length, natural, healthy, 4a/b hair. I'm like I love me some negro hair. I also love my hair but I don't have the patience to wait 7-9 years to get my goal. Texturizes are just my way to get longer hair faster.

Oh and rollersetting straight is a big plus too. :wink2:

 

[Cheleigh]

Getting past the mental part of being natural in a world that loves straight hair is certainly a part of the process. For some lucky few, being a kinky nappy head is no problem, but for most people, making the mental transition to embrace your kinky/highly textured/nappy/coily/curly hair is as much a part of the process as the physical transition.

To answer your question: I LOVE my hair, even though it has its advantages and disadvantages. I never knew I was supposed to hate my hair type, so I never have. As a youngster, sometimes I would think my skin too dark, my nose too wide, my lips too big. At some point, I realized that it is what it is, and I'm still a hot mama! Same with my hair--there is nothing defective about my hair--it is not a thirteenth toe--it is not a deformity. Therefore, there must be something appropriate and even amazing about my hair AS IT IS on my head.

Looking at albums of other naturals helps immensely--you begin to see the beauty in all hair textures, and in all hair lengths. There's nothing wrong with straight hair--but there is also beauty in wavy, kinky, curly, coily, nappy hair as well. Just as with anything, acceptance starts from the inside. There used to be a saying on my granny's fridge that said "I know I'm somebody, cause God didn't make no junk!" My hair, like my skin, my features, my body, is authentically me, as I'm designed to be, and I can make no apologies for it.

 

[Chanteuse]

Getting past the mental part of being natural in a world that loves straight hair is certainly a part of the process. For some lucky few, being a kinky nappy head is no problem, but for most people, making the mental transition to embrace your kinky/highly textured/nappy/coily/curly hair is as much a part of the process as the physical transition.

To answer your question: I LOVE my hair, even though it has its advantages and disadvantages. I never knew I was supposed to hate my hair type, so I never have. As a youngster, sometimes I would think my skin too dark, my nose too wide, my lips too big. At some point, I realized that it is what it is, and I'm still a hot mama! Same with my hair--there is nothing defective about my hair--it is not a thirteenth toe--it is not a deformity. Therefore, there must be something appropriate and even amazing about my hair AS IT IS on my head.

Looking at albums of other naturals helps immensely--you begin to see the beauty in all hair textures, and in all hair lengths. There's nothing wrong with straight hair--but there is also beauty in wavy, kinky, curly, coily, nappy hair as well. Just as with anything, acceptance starts from the inside. There used to be a saying on my granny's fridge that said "I know I'm somebody, cause God didn't make no junk!" My hair, like my skin, my features, my body, is authentically me, as I'm designed to be, and I can make no apologies for it.

What a great post! I love that~

 

[LovelyZ]

I think it may be a process for you.

I don't think I felt very good about my hair until I started coming to this forum. I still relax my hair, but I am getting more and more comfortable with my natural texture by stretching relaxers and learning how to care for my natural texture. I am even now displaying my BDBs with pride. I do say its a process because I am still not comfortable enough with my hair to go completely natural but I am much more comfortable than ever before.

 

[NewYorkgyrl]

"I know I'm somebody, cause God didn't make no junk!" My hair, like my skin, my features, my body, is authentically me, as I'm designed to be, and I can make no apologies for it.

I like this saying alot!!!

 

[jshor09]

Hugs sweetie. It is a learning process. you learn that "good hair" is any type of hair that is healthy. This forum can show you this . I have seen gorgeous 4z- 2c heads of hair here. it wouldn't matter what type of hair you have if it is unhealthy. so i hope you can begin to look and see that it really doesn't matter what type of hair you have , but that it is healthy.

 

[SSBD]

Getting past the mental part of being natural in a world that loves straight hair is certainly a part of the process. For some lucky few, being a kinky nappy head is no problem, but for most people, making the mental transition to embrace your kinky/highly textured/nappy/coily/curly hair is as much a part of the process as the physical transition.

I think this is exactly how i feel...i just keep thinking it's not gonna look right, but i don't wanna think like that. When i was younger i always wondered why black peoples hair was so different from everybody elses. So i'll learn...

 

[Hair Iam]

Getting past the mental part of being natural in a world that loves straight hair is certainly a part of the process. For some lucky few, being a kinky nappy head is no problem, but for most people, making the mental transition to embrace your kinky/highly textured/nappy/coily/curly hair is as much a part of the process as the physical transition.

To answer your question: I LOVE my hair, even though it has its advantages and disadvantages. I never knew I was supposed to hate my hair type, so I never have. As a youngster, sometimes I would think my skin too dark, my nose too wide, my lips too big. At some point, I realized that it is what it is, and I'm still a hot mama! Same with my hair--there is nothing defective about my hair--it is not a thirteenth toe--it is not a deformity. Therefore, there must be something appropriate and even amazing about my hair AS IT IS on my head.

Looking at albums of other naturals helps immensely--you begin to see the beauty in all hair textures, and in all hair lengths. There's nothing wrong with straight hair--but there is also beauty in wavy, kinky, curly, coily, nappy hair as well. Just as with anything, acceptance starts from the inside. There used to be a saying on my granny's fridge that said "I know I'm somebody, cause God didn't make no junk!" My hair, like my skin, my features, my body, is authentically me, as I'm designed to be, and I can make no apologies for it.

YOU SAID IT

 

[angellazette]

You just have to get to a point where you look in the mirror, smile and be happy with what you see.

It took me a while to get comfortable with my natural 4a hair. I wore wigs up until this month and I BC last year sometime. I eventually started wearing my natural hair around my family then boom, one day I started wearing it in public. It felt GOOD to finally wear my hair out. I was so concerned how people would look at me...noone gives me looks or stares, they could care less. Actually, the public seems very accepting of it (hawaii)

Now when I look in the mirror I am very content with what I see. I love all the multiple textures on my head from the 3b to 4a sections. I love all of the different twists and turns my hair makes and I could care less if anyone else doesn't.

My mom is so funny. She had the biggest afro back in the day but she would look at my wild poof all crazy like. Then one day I decided to do my hair like in my avatar and she was all "i want my hair to do that...why won't my hair do that?"

Oooo I need to update my fotki...