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Boyfriend protesting protective styles
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I can definitely relate to every last post on this topic. One morning, in stead of receiving a cheerful Good Morning, I was confronted with, "When are you going to stop wearing your hair like that?" Sure, I had slept with a scarf that night, as every night....and sure, my hair is ALWAYS bundled up with a hat over it as well, but the point is that we're all doing this for a sole purpose: in the hopes of achieving what we all want. Needless to say, we're doing this for OURSELVES, and as harsh as this may sound...not for them. Ultimately, it comes down to the main theory that sometimes not only you, but even your significant other must sacrifice in order to acheive your own wants and wishes. Because after all, I am sure that we all can agree that we've sacrificed for them, as well.
My man tried to complain once and after I got finished telling him he was not the boss of me. I let him know the deal and he never said another word to me again concerning my hair. He recently bought me the new Suave Milk and Honey conditioner. See, girl you have to train them.
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Tracy said:
My SO has always worn a du-rag to bed because he likes his hair to wave. I guess he just understands about protecting the hair at night. I put on mine, he puts on his, and we hit the sack. We even commisserate about the scarf headache we get sometimes when we tie them too tight. He reminds me to loosen it etc...
He knows all about the board and when I went through my protective styling phases he was really supportive. In fact I go through the phases so many times at this point that when he sees a bun more than two days in a row he's like... "Resting your hair again?"
He didn't like them at first - but he really appreciates all of the machinations (is that my Mom's own little ghetto word?
) I went through now that my hair has grown. He considers my hair EXTREMELY long now. He even brags to his friends. He teases them when they drool over celebs that have long hair.... "My baby has MAD hair...so I'm not pressed" he tells them.
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men and hair i tell you! say tracy how do you wear your hair everyday ? its so long and purty
Tracy said:
My SO has always worn a du-rag to bed because he likes his hair to wave. I guess he just understands about protecting the hair at night. I put on mine, he puts on his, and we hit the sack. We even commisserate about the scarf headache we get sometimes when we tie them too tight. He reminds me to loosen it etc...
He knows all about the board and when I went through my protective styling phases he was really supportive. In fact I go through the phases so many times at this point that when he sees a bun more than two days in a row he's like... "Resting your hair again?"
He didn't like them at first - but he really appreciates all of the machinations (is that my Mom's own little ghetto word?
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men and hair i tell you! say tracy how do you wear your hair everyday ? its so long and purty
BeautyOfTruth
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The first time I did it in front of my BF he rolled over and looked at me in my bandanna and asked me if I had just come back from robbing a liquor store!!!
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Whew. Lindy, you have me over here rolling!!
Lindy said:
The first time I did it in front of my BF he rolled over and looked at me in my bandanna and asked me if I had just come back from robbing a liquor store!!!
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Whew. Lindy, you have me over here rolling!!
HairFanatic01
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Oh WOW!! My boyfriend says the same things. I wear my hair in cornrolls from 4-5 weeks at a time and those things start looking frizzy after the first two weeks. Its so funny because all he says is "when you gone take them things out; you been had em in since last year!" And then I know that he's playing with me so I just brush it off. Then he gets serious and starts saying things like "he's tired of seeing my hair in braids." I just reply to him and say its all about protecting and caring for the hair. I always tell him that when my hair gets long, thick and healthy he's gonna be glad that I wore my hair in those "nappy braids" as he calls them. Its okay. I'm not changing anything for him!! He's going to love the results when they arrive so I'm not stressin'.
diamondlady
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This thread has had me laughing so hard my husband had to come and see what was going on. He didn't think it was as funny as I did.
I know he doesn't like my hair in the protective styles (except the braids, he loves those) but he understands and doesn't say much. He did tell me one time that I use to wear my hair sexy and I rarely do that anymore but he understood why. He likes long hair.
I know he doesn't like my hair in the protective styles (except the braids, he loves those) but he understands and doesn't say much. He did tell me one time that I use to wear my hair sexy and I rarely do that anymore but he understood why. He likes long hair.
brickhouse
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I have my real hair in a ponytail and been covering it up with a wavy fall and my ex husband keep saying that he never thought I would ever wear a wig because I have long hair. He does not get the fact that it is a protective style and then he told me a couple of weeks ago that he will never give me money again to get my hair fixed b/c of the wigs. I don't give a baby's behind b/c we are divorced.
And when I do let it all hang out he will be drooling and wanting us to get remarried.
Tracy
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Tracy said:
My SO has always worn a du-rag to bed because he likes his hair to wave. I guess he just understands about protecting the hair at night. I put on mine, he puts on his, and we hit the sack. We even commisserate about the scarf headache we get sometimes when we tie them too tight. He reminds me to loosen it etc...
He knows all about the board and when I went through my protective styling phases he was really supportive. In fact I go through the phases so many times at this point that when he sees a bun more than two days in a row he's like... "Resting your hair again?"
He didn't like them at first - but he really appreciates all of the machinations (is that my Mom's own little ghetto word?
) I went through now that my hair has grown. He considers my hair EXTREMELY long now. He even brags to his friends. He teases them when they drool over celebs that have long hair.... "My baby has MAD hair...so I'm not pressed" he tells them.
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men and hair i tell you! say tracy how do you wear your hair everyday ? its so long and purty
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Aww thank you honeydrop.
I alternate. Sometimes it's up. Sometimes it's down. Sometimes it's half up and half down.
I would say from a protective style standpoint that I go through phases. Sometimes I'm die hard about it and sometimes I'm not. I just can't stand for my hair to be TIGHT but I also hate for it not to be neat and with fine hair you really need a ponytail holder to get a neat bun. Most of the time I end up throwing it up halfway through my day inot a messy updo (which, incidentally my SO either loves or hates depending on whether my hair is clean. If it is, it bounces and falls well - and I'm his sexy librarian. If not, it's kind kicks out in places and then he says I look like a "bird".
) to get it out of my way when I study and go about my day.
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Tracy said:
My SO has always worn a du-rag to bed because he likes his hair to wave. I guess he just understands about protecting the hair at night. I put on mine, he puts on his, and we hit the sack. We even commisserate about the scarf headache we get sometimes when we tie them too tight. He reminds me to loosen it etc...
He knows all about the board and when I went through my protective styling phases he was really supportive. In fact I go through the phases so many times at this point that when he sees a bun more than two days in a row he's like... "Resting your hair again?"
He didn't like them at first - but he really appreciates all of the machinations (is that my Mom's own little ghetto word?
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men and hair i tell you! say tracy how do you wear your hair everyday ? its so long and purty
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Aww thank you honeydrop.
I alternate. Sometimes it's up. Sometimes it's down. Sometimes it's half up and half down.
I would say from a protective style standpoint that I go through phases. Sometimes I'm die hard about it and sometimes I'm not. I just can't stand for my hair to be TIGHT but I also hate for it not to be neat and with fine hair you really need a ponytail holder to get a neat bun. Most of the time I end up throwing it up halfway through my day inot a messy updo (which, incidentally my SO either loves or hates depending on whether my hair is clean. If it is, it bounces and falls well - and I'm his sexy librarian. If not, it's kind kicks out in places and then he says I look like a "bird".
When I was relaxed, I too did the bun and my BF was sick of it too! Now he's trying to be so sweet (but I know he secretly hates it) since I've cut off 8 inches of hair since January. But it's only because I'm transitioning and now it's in a cute bob style and though I'm transitioning, my relaxer was bone straight so I wear it in a "controlled" shake and go now. But come June/July I'm going to cut all the relaxer off and totally sport the shake and go! I'm also going to get some cool colour highlights, he'll eventually love it! I'm trying to let him know where I"m going with this and that this is a means to an end!!
queenofmean68
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This kinda reminds of my ex:
I would get my hair done every other week and I love getting French Rolls, mainly because my stylist does such beautiful ones. He would always eyeball it and tell me, "You know I'm going to mess up that bun tonight"!!!
(if y'all know what I mean)
Then one night he told me he was going to send a 'note' with me the next time I went; telling my stylist that I wasn't allowed to have buns anymore and just to leave my hair down!
I would get my hair done every other week and I love getting French Rolls, mainly because my stylist does such beautiful ones. He would always eyeball it and tell me, "You know I'm going to mess up that bun tonight"!!!
Then one night he told me he was going to send a 'note' with me the next time I went; telling my stylist that I wasn't allowed to have buns anymore and just to leave my hair down!
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I met a guy once and one of the reasons he said things wouldn't work out as far as starting a relationship was the hairstyle I had. When we met, I had box braids/plaits and he said they looked like Medusa. A second time we met up..he lied/exaggerated and said my hair was slicked to the side with gel. It was a lie because I had a different style-wasn't nothing slicked at all and I don't even wear any kind of gel in my hair...so he just wanted to "make up" something so he could justify his pickiness...He paid for the hair insults and all the other things he said though...believe me I know how to insult someone back.
A_Christian
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The first time I did it in front of my BF he rolled over and looked at me in my bandanna and asked me if I had just come back from robbing a liquor store!!!
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He told me he is tired of going to bed with Tupac every night.
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I have to admit even I look a little "gangsta" in my satin scarf if it's tied a certain way, so I can understand where these comments are coming from,lol.
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The first time I did it in front of my BF he rolled over and looked at me in my bandanna and asked me if I had just come back from robbing a liquor store!!!
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He told me he is tired of going to bed with Tupac every night.
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shoelover1972
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You are some funny ladies - you had me
My ex boyfriend (who is Italian) never complained when I wore rollers to bed every night. In fact he used to say to me that I was the only person who looked cute in rollers and a scarf - even though I used to accidently poke him sometimes in the eye with my pins
!!! I think he was used to seeing his mum wear rollers to bed and she was very much into her hair. My other ex boyfriends (black) also never noticed. Again I think this is because they must have got used to seeing their ex girlfriends with scarfs, rollers etc.
What I say is 'no pain no gain'
My ex boyfriend (who is Italian) never complained when I wore rollers to bed every night. In fact he used to say to me that I was the only person who looked cute in rollers and a scarf - even though I used to accidently poke him sometimes in the eye with my pins
What I say is 'no pain no gain'
rozlips
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Most of the time I wear my hair in two strand twists, fortunately dh likes those. Probably 90% of the time I keep my hair in twists and only wear a twist-out for about a week at a time. I also sleep on a satin pillowcase. I wouldn't dare try to sleep with it tied up. I sweat in my head something fierce and the scarf wouldn't stay on anyway.
DigitalRain
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My 3 year old son complains about my silk scarf I wear at night. Like I'm going to listen to his little tiny butt...
DigitalRain
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Tracy said:
Complains HOW DigitalRain? Can he even TALK all the way yet? (I have no kids - so forgive me if three is a perfectly normal age for them to be protesting things...)
SO FUNNY! How cute!
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Yes!! He says,"Take that off" and, "Don't put that on your head." He thinks he's grown, lol. He's even tried to pull it off my head
. Starting early, I guess. I will probably have to warn his girlfriend about the scarf issue when he becomes a man.
Tracy said:
Complains HOW DigitalRain? Can he even TALK all the way yet? (I have no kids - so forgive me if three is a perfectly normal age for them to be protesting things...)
SO FUNNY! How cute!
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Yes!! He says,"Take that off" and, "Don't put that on your head." He thinks he's grown, lol. He's even tried to pull it off my head
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