Being with a Hair Dresser for the first time...

[polished07]

Ladies Im nervous, Ive switched hair beauticians and Im kind of nervous, I didnt do a consult with her but two of my girl friends with really healthy hair go to her and they are crazy about their hair not as much as me but their hair has to be right, she's really good with chemical services and color but she's doing my relaxer tomorrow and I dont want her to trim my hair just dust. How do I tell her, what if she doesnt know what a dusting is, I only want her to trim the bare minimum! But I dont want to sound like a crazy women about my hair but on another note I dont want to have to whoop her tail if she give me a haircut.....Any suggestions?

 

[Ronnieaj]

Honesty is the best policy . You can very politely tell her that you would like a relaxer and want her to cut only one-quarter inch, no more. You are not concerned about your hair being even (if it doesn't grow out evenly), you want the bare minimum trimmed. Then I would watch her like a hawk!

 

[sharifeh]

I would say I don't want a trim. Can you get someone else to do it?

 

[brownelovely]

Be totally honest with her. If your not then prepare to suffer the consequences if she does something you don't like.

Besides, telling her BEFORE will keep the post from turning into a "Stylists are Scissor-Happy" etc... roast.

 

[mariofmagdal]

I would say I don't want a trim. Can you get someone else to do it?

ITA, I would rather have my own comfort with the stylist b4 letting her trim/cut. Someone else is a good idea.

 

[polished07]

Thanks ladies, see my old stylist I had no problems with being scissor happy but she breaks down my relaxer to much even after Ive told her like I dont want to be bone straight, she doesnt listen, she's the type that will be like you need to sit with that on there for 2 days bc I stretch my relaxers and Im scared to self relax because of past damage.....ugh Im gonna be honest and let her know absolutely no trims!

 

[chanjune80]

OP, what has worked for me with my last few stylists is that I ask for a trim, then I have them show me what they are planning on trimming, and ask them why they feel that needs to be trimmed(if they tell me just because, it is a no go). If it is more than I am willing to part with, I explain to them that I would like them to trim less. If they try to argue with me then I don't allow them to trim my hair. I have found that a good stylist will adhere to what you want. Also make sure that you are paying attention to what they are trimming. Ask for a mirror if they don't have one or I sometimes will look at the hair falling if my head is down. If you feel like she is trimming more hair then you want, say something.

 

[polished07]

Thanks Chanjune!